made out with a guy while i was drunk. i gave him the initiative to touch me and when i felt him into it i touched him and he seemed fine with it. (it was more me groping him)
next day we talked about it and he said he didn’t do anything else just in case i regretted it and he said it looked like an assault and he was moving me away (that’s a lie he wasn’t moving me away at all).
in the same convo he got super sexual and asked me for sex and said that if we weren’t in public that day he would’ve done everything to me.
i rejected his offers multiple times. he ghosted me after 2 weeks and then i confront him. 5 weeks later he says he lost feelings for me when i was drunk and that he didn’t want me to touch him or him touch me drunk and that he saw me in a different way.
heartbroken and balling my eyes out at the fair he just walked away and told me his friends took him on the rides to clear his mind.
im so confused and scared i ruined our early relationship. i only gave him the initiative to touch me because the whole day he was super touchy and kissy and even said beforehand how he will try and win those special parts of my body. also, if he didn’t want to touch me drunk, why didn’t he just say so in the moment? i asked him and he said “i was drunk so i wouldn’t of understood”.
i’m so confused.
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He is really not making it easy for you to understand what he wants.
If he was also drunk that day he may not have been thinking straight to tell you he didn't want to touch you. He many be thinking you are promiscuous and he wants someone more innocent.
no he was completely sober and i was near blacking out. he also took me to the bench and pulled me back and kissed me first
Could he be feeling embarrassed that kissed you first when you were drunk?
also the day after the make out he also said he liked me like that and how badly he wants to have sex with me, i said not so early and he said sure but if you want to just ask me. also the day before the make out he even kept telling me how he wanted to touch my whole body and how he’s trying to treat me well because that should be someone i have sex with. i’m probably more innocent than him with the amount of exes he has, he does know i was seeing another guy (sexually) during the talking stage and he was completely okay with it too, he said he’d try and win me over
but we ended up making out so i have no clue. if he did regret it it’s fine but telling all his friends i basically assaulted him and how i was disgustingly drunk on him is so way out of order. he’s trying to get out of the relationship buy blaming me for something serious and i don’t want my reputation damaged
He may have been playing you to try to get sex. He moved on after you rejected him multiple times saying he saw you differently after you were drunk as an excuse.
damn that hurts…. i thought he loved me
I'm just speculating to try to explain why he behaved the way he did. Only he knows for sure why.
i mean, putting the pieces together it does make sense, i only knew him for a week and he acted so in love after like, one day. super touchy on the first date too. second date he asked to kiss me like 20 times i said no and still kissed me half drunk at the bar. then found me near blacked out 3 hours later, took me buy the hand and that happened at the bench. next day he asks for sex and goes on with how bad he wants me in his room. i reject multiple times, he asks if he can still touch me and kiss me when we go out to “mark territory”. then ghosts me, acts super cold and goes around telling people i basically assaulted him. anyways, weird guy… had a gut feeling from the start tho
It sounds like typical player behavior of being nice at the start and pressuring early on for sex.