Why is he acting so weird? He rejected me but still shows signs he likes me. Is he insecure or just a fuckboy?

[downrightcutter]

I've liked this guy for a long time now. I see him nearly everday

I told him I have a crush on him one night 2 months ago, he got shy and accused me of just being drunk and told me he wants to talk with me the next day. He called me his angel and he seemed very happy. The talk never happened though, he always found excuses. A week later he tells me he has a girlfriend (who wasn't very good looking by the way not to sound rude) All his friends came to me though and told me that he told them I like him. They told me he said I'm way too pretty for him. Him and his girlfriend broke up 3 weeks later

I was 100% sure he likes me, that was the only reason I confessed to him. Wherever I am he's near me, I caught him staring at me very clearly several times and I still do. He cried on me once, he asked me if I want to come home with him. One week after he told me he got a girlfriend I randomly met him in a store and he hugged me several times. Later I saw him in the distance and we had eye contact for literally like 5 seconds. I try to ignore him now the best I can but he still always comes up to me to say hi. He hugs me sometimes. Literally last week he was laying on my legs at a party. Then my friends told me he's a male whore because he has a new girlfriend every week. Basically he rejected me but he's still acting weird around me. Everyone tells me he's very insecure but then how does he get a new girlfriend literally every week and why did he reject me?

Also just to state this as a fact and not to sound arrogant because I think it matters, I know I'm very good looking. I'm told everyday and I have *a lot* of people hit on me always. Literally 95% of the men I meet show signs they want to get with me. I'm saying this because it's so strange to me, I know not everyone can be in love with me but he acts so weird plus his girlfriends are all bottom of the barrel. Everyone tells me I'm crazy because "I'd be doing charity work" with him but still. What is this?

[knallpilz]

Two things:
People who are "easy" or get around a lot often have attachment anxiety. So the more they feel emotionally attached to someone, the more afraid they are of going for them (because the prospect of possibly losing them is too much to handle).
Although that may not even be him, this may be just be his way to deal with the situation regarding you.

Which is the second thing. You're "too beautiful". Yes, that exists. A friend's first girlfriend was like that. Everyone hit on her. In front of him. Like he didn't exist. Which he says didn't necessarily bother him, but was exhausting. He says you need nerves of steel to be with a woman like that. Because it's impossible to not feel jealous all the time, if all of the world around you is telling you that she has literally all the options in the world and could leave you at any time she pleases. Regardless of how loyal you know she is and how much you trust her, that's something you have to deal with. That's why he says he'd never go for a perfect 10 ever again. Because he knows what that's like. The dude does have attachment anxiety, by the way, and the opposite of nerves of steel. :D Although I think he's being kind of a coward for trying to play it safe in not ever wanting to go for a woman who looks like that ever again.

But that's probably you. A "woman who looks like that". Which is hard, from what I've heard. But knowing about it is half the battle.

I'd say he's trying to avoid what he wants by going for the opposite. He's trying to play it safe by being with bottom of the barrel chicks (who probably don't do it for him in many regards and who probably realize pretty quickly they're just some sort of alibi).
I'd say you should get proactive with him. Tell him (how is up to you) to cut the bullshit and go for you. Let him know you know he wants you and that this shit confuses and upsets you. Let him know you both want this and try to come up with a way to make it work. cause it's not gonna be easy for him. He's gonna need reassurance regularly (the man who wouldn't probably doesn't exist). Which is gonna be exhausting, but necessary. And worth it. Probably.

By the way, you're right to include all this information. It's important. It's not arrogant, if it's the truth. Well, maybe it is, but only by proxy. :D
But it's not something you chose, it's something you can't help being. You also can't help wanting him, so f*** all that "charity work" bullshit. Instincts can be extremely smart when it comes to stuff like this.

But I think you need to go for him. You need to help him get his shit together. And support him in keeping it together. Otherwise you can't have him. Be firm where he needs it. And be gentle where he needs it. Now go get that boy. :D

[Guy13]

Double…Compounding Guilty:
-In Relationship and feels bad for liking you.
-Breaks up because he likes you and both have brokered a Deal.
-Wants to like you because it’s Legal now
-BUT I can’t enjoy it because the wrong brain 🧠 /🍆 was running the show instead of gentle ❤️.

See, life is not about Looks (not trying to be rude) 😉

[Jltakk]

Yes, being out of his league exists. Having a bombshell girlfriend isn't ideal for some guys, myself included. You have to be frank with him.

[Sam_The_Savage]

I'm sorry i ignore this question it's too. long to read... thanks.