Do I have an eating disorder (this is long.. but I need help)?

[Anonymous]

this might be a bit long. but please read, because i want help from you guys before i ask for professional help.

i'm 14, 5'2 and around 120 pounds.

i used to be 5 foot and 127 pounds. i went on a diet, the healthy way (exercise and eating less), and i lost 12 pounds. i was 115lbs, then i gained back a little...
i was confused. bc i tried eating even more less. i ate 1200 calories a day when i was 13. then soon i got to the point when i would not have any energy to exercise.
i barely ate for the day but ended up eating large amounts very quickly at the end of the day. i think that's why i gained.
then, food started revolving around my life, and i would obsess over food. and i felt uncomfortable eating with people.
i recently got diagnosed with irritable bowel syndrome (idk if that has to do with anything)

oh and i have been self harming for a few months. i cut.
only my friend knows, though.

anyway.
my mom was worried. she packed me good amounts of food for school.. but i would unpack some when she's looking.
i would chew food and spit it out.

and recently i've been eating okay. i still get bloated everyday.
but I don't know, i think my bad eating habits are kicking in again.

because last night.. i found laxatives
and i heard they help you lose weight.
so i took one last night. i got really bad diarreah. this morning too. but i woke up feeling thinner. but now i'm bloated again (i always am, so im used to it).

and i just took another one.

i don't know. food is really hard for me and i have been trying to lose weight but i never do, and i just gain.

:(

help me, please.

[allnite69withme]

Yes you have an eating disorder based on your self image. why must you be syck thin? Are you a better person when you are starving yourself? the cutting shows that you are in need of professional help very quickly. you keep thisup and you will kill yourself. The BIG question is this: why, at the age of 14 with your entire life ahead of you, do you obsess about weight? Why do you not like yourself as you are? If you like yourself as you are, guys will like you as well. Maybe not as much in HS, but, believe me, as you getolder, who you are will count more. If you were 5'2 and 210 pounds, I would say you needed to lose weight, but you are not overweight.

ALSO - it is moe important to eat well on a regular basis. If you avoide grains and sugar, you can eat all the protein you want, mneats, vegatables, etc, and not gain weight. I cut out breads pasta, etc., and sugar (especially in sodas) and ate tons of meat - with all th fat, and, without exercising, lost 30 pouinds in 3 months. LEARN TO EAT RIGHT - avoid diet drinks because not olly do they cause you to gain weight, the are full of poisons.
But please get help, or you will be in the hospital (or worse) very soon.

[FierceBrosnan]

That would be an eating disorder yes and possibly dysmorphia. It is a hard thing to overcome but totally doable.

The bloating is most likely due to IBS. For that you'll have to avoid the foods that upset your intestines. That bloating and pain alone can change how you feel about yourself and how you look so anything you can do to alleviate that will help in the long run. Go super easy on the laxatives you'll only do damage with them and risk other medical problems from abusing them. Also with IBS it will be good to get a screening done to see what foods you are allergic to.

I have been in your shoes before and I can honestly say it blows. The fact that you want actual help with this is a very good thing. It will be hard but take it easy on yourself no working out to the point of burnout, no self harm, up your calorie intake to decent level you are still growing, and the hardest part ignore the scale. Weight fluctuates several pounds in day if you are going to track weight do it once or twice a week and get a good average.

You can do this and believe me you will be okay.

[Foxxtrot]

You are healthy. You're BMI is 21.9 and normal is 18.5-24.9. At your age, you need the calories. And just so you know, skipping out on meals can make you gain weight. It confuses your body; when it doesn't know when it's next meal is (especially if you skip meals) if starts to store fat as a type of "hibernation" type preservation. You're body will literally create more fat (because fat burns longer carb wise).

[Anonymous]

Hey, How did you lose weight? I'm your same age and trying hard to lose weight and gain height :(( could you share some tips? please?>

[Anonymous]

i use the metric system. if i'm correct you are 155 cm and 54 kg?

You're not overweight or obese. And you're 14, you need your energy. You know this when you said about consuming 1200 calories/day.

Maybe you have an 'ideal' figure in your head that's giving you some sort of mental block. Do you feel unattractive? If you do, you should not relate it to your weight or figure. I hope you could open up to your parents about this. :(

[Asker]

people say i'm fat. and i don't like my body. i want to feel comfortable in my own body, and i hate what i see in the mirror.
i don't think i want to tell my parents.. i think they'll just yell at me

[Opinion Owner]

your body mass index is 21.9. normal weight is between 19 - 25. you are perfectly normal. mine is 28.5, just 2 points shy of obesity. i really envy your weight. :)

i'm sad by how you feel about yourself, miss. i think people who say you're fat are just being mean to you. please don't listen to them.

[Asker]

my body looks really unproportional and i hate it. my arms are huge and i have a lot of stomach fat. i hate it and i need it to change.
thank you but
so many guys pressure us to be skinnier
except the one i'm in love with but i dont know, my friends tell me they make fun of me for weighing more than him

[DisastrousQu33n]

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