I'm in a dilemma. I like a long distance guy but I'm not sure he feels the same?

[Lalalove11]

I know he likes me and we do flirt often.

He wants to come visit me this year but probably not until the end of the year. I don't even want to go out dating because we text everyday and have movie nights once a week. We are quite close but he hasn't asked for anything official. I'm not sure if I should just confess I have feelings to him? Would it save my time or would I ruin things?

[DishLady]

Wait to meet him in person before confessing your feelings. Obviously he knows you like him and you know the same… but for anything more I suggest waiting.


These movie nights: Do you see eo in real time or is it just chat/DM with the movie rolling? If it’s just DM and you haven’t had a proper phone call or video chat, then it’s probably time to transition to those so you can get a sense of your physical compatibility.

[Lalalove11]

It's phone calls, so I hear his voice a lot. He has seen me on video call but he didn't switch on his video.

[DishLady]

Try to start transitioning to visual. It’s important.

[Lalalove11]

That's a good idea. Not sure if he'd be comfortable. I've seen videos of him talking.

[DishLady]

Sigh… if he’s not comfortable showing his face now, there’s something off… and what’s the point of coming to see you, then?

It doesn’t hurt to ask, but if you see he’s not open to the idea it’s possibly a red flag.

[bowenw]

If he's flirting with you he likes you. I suggest you tell him how you feel and hopefully he will tell you he feel the same way towards you. If he doesn't, at least you found out and can move on with your life.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[Billlewis]

I'll be glad to discuss this with you, if you'd like to either follow or message me.

[Adogdog]

I would tell him.

[Lalalove11]

How should I tell him 🙈 like just be very direct?

[Adogdog]

For sure. A girl on here told me she liked me so why not?

[Lalalove11]

I was just worried he might get uncomfortable. We've been friends for a long time

[Adogdog]

As A guy, I would love it. I'm sure he would too.

[Lalalove11]

I told him. He just said I like you too 😋