Are guys afraid of long distance relationships?

[Anonymous]

This guy liked me, wasn't sure if he liked the idea of long distance... so we didn't date. it was sad

Yes

No

Other, please explain :)

[CarrieDawn]

It sucks. Not because of trust issues, I trust him to not cheat on me and I know I won't cheat on him.

But you have to be able to hangout in a relationship. Talking on the phone and texting every day is good but it's really not enough.

I dated one guy for 9 months, in which I saw him like twice, and we BARELY hungout those 2 times. (Maybe like 2 hours tops.)

It broke my heart when that ended...it was just too hard, too heartbreaking to not be able to ever see each other. It's better when you can talk about experiences you share together but we had like 2 separate lives. :(

Long-distance relationships work.

I think army guys and their wives are the best couples, and they're so respectable.

It's just hard to deal with...and if it's not a real serious relationship, it's probably not worth the heartbreak it comes with.

[Asker]

yeah, I kind of don't think I'd really want one now that I think about it

[CarrieDawn]

Well if you like him, go for it.(:

Just make sure he's worth it, because it's hard to deal with. But I know some long-distance couples who are pretty much soulmates. But if it's just like dating, nothing serious...yeahh...

[Asker]

yeah it's nothing serious ha

[osk95]

I think that if you feel a spark you owe it to yourselves to at least give it a try or else you will always wonder what could have been and of it doesn't work out at least you won't have to wonder for the rest of your life if it could have been. There is also a saying that goes like this: if you do it you'll regret it, if you don't do it you'll regret it, either way you're going to regret it. Even though it doesn't make much sense because you might not regret it but if you really think about it makes sense. I also know that I don't make much sense either but I hope you understand the main point of my answer

[Asker]

hmm that's very true

[Anonymous]

Men make up all kind of excuses when it comes to long distance relationships. some men are such wuss... ugh!

[katylaura]

personally, I wouldn't say I was afraid or scared of them, I just don't see the point in them. why would I date a girl who lived hours away from me and so I only saw them maybe once a month, when I could date a girl living in the same town and see her a couple of times a week? it's different if you've been with someone for a long time and are in love with him, and then they move away, but I would never start a relationship knowing it would be long distance.

[Asker]

hmm yeah I think that's how most people think

[schlierkampification]

I said yes, because I WAS. If it's just a dating thing, then it's more difficult because there's not much importance tied to all of it. But once a guy realizes (me in this case) that he really likes a girl and wants to do more than just "date", then distance doesn't become so important. It's tough, but it's worth it when it's someone you really care about.

[Asker]

hmm yeah but probably harder to get into when you just first meet someone?

[schlierkampification]

Definitely

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

God no lol. I've seen women more afraid of them than guys tbh. And I know for myself I can deal with one easily. Sure no one likes a long distance relationship, they'd prefer it to be close, but they aren't afraid of it nor would they turn it down if they really love the girl.

[Asker]

what if they just met her?

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

well then they shouldn't be getting into a relationship anyways until they've been friends a bit.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Basically, people in general rush into relationships (be it long distance or not) and should be friends first.

[risted]

i'd be wary of doing it personally. it would depend on how often we'll get to meet up and be with each other face to face for one. if she's only like a couple hours away then that's alright to make the drive back and forth for the weekend or something. if its farther apart where we're going to get to see each other like..once a month or whatever then it's going to be really annoying not being able to have the normal affection a couple usually does

[Asker]

hmm yeah so across the country, see each other every 4 months wouldn't really be appealing? even if you really really liked the girl?

[risted]

yeah, that's a bit too long for me. maybe if she ever comes back and settles down so we're close to each other again we could pick things back up but I would really not want go for an LDR like that :(

[Asker]

hmm yeah. that makes sense. what happens if you two move on?

[risted]

move on after not deciding to do a LDR? hm. I'm alright accepting that I guess. its gonna suck for a while being without her but that's natural. I can only hope she ends up happy wherever life takes her and the same for me and who knows, maybe down the road we'd get together again

[Asker]

yeah, I guess it can happen down the road?

[risted]

if the circumstances allow for it and we both still care for each other (and single Lol), I wouldn't see why not

[Asker]

oh that's cool lol. maybe that will happen to me

[Anonymous]

If you like the person enough, you are willing to try and make it work, no matter the distance. It's his loss. You'll find someone who would move heaven and earth to be with you one day. :)

My boyfriend and I have only been official for 2 months and he left for China for 5 weeks on Sunday. We are currently long-distance, and even though it's only been 2 days, I miss him like crazy. But I can't wait to see him when he gets back.

[Asker]

aw yeah! but at least he's gone for a purpose and will be back soonish!

[Opinion Owner]

Did he mention wanting to see you when he gets back?

[sweet_18]

It depends on the guy. If he really really likes you then he'll honestly have no problem with it. I've multiple guys want to date me long distance. I'm less positive about it myself.

But some guys have had bad experiences with it and refuse to do it again.

[Asker]

hmm yeah good point. I feel like if we had been dating for a long time before that then he'd be more likely to do it, having just met... I don't think so

[Anonymous]

I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 months, he's coming to see me for a week at the end of July/Beginning of August (:. He lives in Michigan and we have never met :/. But if we can make it through a week together, then in 2013 he's going to move here to be with me, I live in Pennsylvania. He's such a sweetie and we plan on making it work I'm excited so I guess some can work.

[Asker]

wow that's cool lol

[Opinion Owner]

i suppose so lol

[Asker]

how did you meet him?

[Opinion Owner]

on here lol

[Asker]

hahaha no way! that's awesome

[Opinion Owner]

lol yeah maybe only one of the sweeties on here (:

[Asker]

haha aw that's cute

[Opinion Owner]

thank you (:

[TedStar]

For me I was afraid and I ended a good relationship in high school because we were going to different universities because of it. I've moved on now though and don't mind ldr's now.

[Asker]

aw do you miss the girl from hs?

[TedStar]

I did, but time heals most things. We are still friends thiugh and you never no what can happen in the future

[Asker]

yeah, that's true. I want my ex and I to be friends... but... not right now? if that makes sense.

[TedStar]

I totally get you. You ultimately want to become friends, but you first have to heal

[Asker]

yeah. he really hurt me. he pretended to like me/used me even though he used to like me in the past. it was just wrong all around

[scnbabe89]

I did long distance for a year and a half and it was very hard. I would tell others not to do it and go through with what I did it was not worth the heartache.

[Asker]

thanks, I think you might be right.

[scnbabe89]

Yep my current boyfriend is moving across the country without regards to my feelings it sucks.

[vmw2008]

I know I am, so I'd think guys would be too. I'd be a lot more willing to try one if we had already been dating, but I don't want to get involved with a guy at the start if it will be long distance.

[Asker]

hmm good point...

[thalion777]

no, I had one for 7 months and we had never even met. as long as you stay in constant contact and have something to look forward to (meeting and hanging out) then it will be fine as long as its not permanent. we agreed to break up because our strong beliefs where so different and we fought to much. plus, she was a bad influence on me. I'm glad I made the decision. just make sure you keep communications going and don't be afraid to say what's on your mind

[Asker]

hmm yeah, I will keep that in mind if it happens!

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

I wouldn't say they're afraid of a long distance relationship, a lot of guys just don't see the point if they can't get any action.

[Asker]

makes sense I guess.

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

Yes it does.

[MikaPatt]

I don't believe in long distance relationships. I feel like one party is gonna slip up and cheat or they just grow apart.

[Asker]

ah yeah. see I wonder about that

[sikoo31]

idk about afraid but, I don't wanna be tied down to a girl I don't even get to see often when there's so many beautiful, sexy women around me.

[Asker]

ah, gotcha

[sikoo31]

coo.

[Asker]

so maybe date her in the future?

[sikoo31]

if she moved here. I'm not leaving cali for no one tho. this my homy-home.

[Asker]

hahaha that's how I feel about my home. I don't want to leave either!

[sikoo31]

yeeyah

[erekmax]

No. Some of the best relationships I've seen started out being long distance. On the other hand, some of the worst ones did too. That being said, no I am not afraid of them.

[Asker]

hmm that's good. seems you are one of few

[paigems]

In my experience yes, unfortunately. I can't just say it's guys though, many people are.

[InMyHeart]

I think so. long distance relationships often don't work out.

[Asker]

yeah, I agree.

[Anonymous]

Long distance relationships are hard to keep and make work. I know. I've had them before.

[Asker]

not really worth it? would you rather hope it'd work later in life when you're int he same place?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know if I would say they were worth it or not. They are a lot harder to keep than non long distance. It depends on how hard you are willing to work to keep the relationship.

[Asker]

hmm good point. so better just to leave it as nothing and then maybe come back to it in the future if there's still something there?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say afraid, more like they don't trust you. Unless you've been really close for a while, then it should work for a while as long as you keep in contact.

[Asker]

hmm yeah how about just started dating?

[sammy_31]

Nope I'm not but it would be VERY challenging.

[Anonymous]

afraid is not the right word, they just suck.

[Asker]

yeah, but what if you really liked the person and kind of had no choice?

[Opinion Owner]

well I really like a lot of people and if she's giving me no choice, she's probably not the one I want to be with haha

[Asker]

hahaha oh yeah well I meant no choice as in someone is moving far away ha

[Anonymous]

Yes. I wouldn't trust her to remain faithful.

[Asker]

oohh wow. sad!

[Anonymous]

I think some are. It really depends on each guy.