Why don't guys like long distance relationships?

Question

What issues are there with such relationships?Why can't they work?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

LDRs simply don't work 98% of the time. A LDR requires that BOTH parties are not only incredibly committed to the relationship, but also able and willing to make the huge sacrifices that come with a LDR. And they rarely work without some light at the end of the tunnel, meaning a definite date where you'll be together again permanently.

The reality is that much of what a relationship is for is for PHYSICAL closeness. And by that, I don't mean just sex; I mean being able to see your partner's face when they talk, or hug them when you need to feel loved or reassured, or whatever.

What inevitably happens the vast majority of the time is that both people feel lonely, even worse than if they were single, because they HAVE someone, they just can't HAVE them, so their emotions are stirred up, but there's no way to resolve them. That makes the loneliness very intense. And then, sooner or later, one partner will meet someone, and at first think "I'll just talk to them for a little while, to help me get over being lonely." Quickly it becomes an affair, as all of those emotions start pouring out. Meanwhile, the other person is still lonely and clueless that they're being cheated on.

IMO, don't waste your time on a LDR unless you are married, have kids, and both of you are STRONGLY committed. Be single instead, and IF both of you are still single when you are able to get back together, you can do so then. But don't pass up someone who is AVAILABLE, and perhaps an even better match for you, because you're waiting out a LDR. It almost never works.

EPhantom · Accepted Answer

I was in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years. one year into the relationship I didn't feel much love between us, but she begged me to give her another chance saying if we could make it for two years we could make it till we met, so I did. Then she broke up with me telling me she didn't feel like she loved me for a month.

That month I had just done really well in school after doing poorly for a while, finally stood up to my father, started to actually get myself together and getting past all the sh*t from my past. and on top of that she started calling me every morning, she didn't do that before, I felt like everything was better than ever before. Then she ripped me into pieces and absolutely refused to give me another chance or to even consider it.

And while I was asking questions to try and figure out what was going on and why it was happening, all her/our friends were telling me that I was the one that was making everything worse, when she's the one that just ended it with a snap of her fingers.

she told me she wanted to still be my friend. but because of what she did and how she did it, her voice physically made me want to vomit... I wanted to be her friend, but my body and heart made their decision, which was flat out no.

It has been FOUR months and I'm still in pieces, wondering what I did wrong and even if I'm date material.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

sexual gratification. though this can be true on both ends I think it is easier for a girl to hold on to an emotional connection she can have through chatting with him constantly, but the guy needs to be around the girl andh ave her presence. not JUST for sex but in general men are more visual and physical than girls are, which is why a girl can feel fulfilled by long distance and just talking but it is harder for a man to do that.

toulouse · Accepted Answer

NO SEXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX.

What else. I mean, what other reason, would you think, 'guys' in particular, would be bothered by something, you think Women, are not bothered by.

hit_0_0 · Answer

I think they can work but it depends on how well both people can handle it and what kind of circumstances you've got going on. is the distance really far? are you gonna ever get to meet up with the person once in a while to have that physical connection? it's a lot tougher if you don't have the opportunity to be together once in a while and spend that time together I think

Cephei · Answer

Depends on the guy and how much distance.

I personally wouldn't mind long distance, but I'd wanna see her every other weekend or so. It might be difficult depending on financial situation too! (eg I'm a student so it would make things even harder in terms of visiting).

It also depends on whether you met them online or whether you met on holiday or something or maybe even were together before one had to move for a while either way it could still work as far as I'm concerned.

Anonymous · Answer

Really? Do you know any differences between a long distance relationship and one that is in the same town? Sorry but this seems like a really silly question. Would a guy rather spend time with his girl or not? Would a guy want to spend 600 on a plane ticket or spend 6 dollars on gas? Would a guy want to touch you or not touch you? Maybe you needed points for gag or maybe you live in a cave.

master24 · Answer

it depends on how much you love the person if you really love somebody you won't care if its long distance relationship or not... and I think they mostly don't work because of the trust beetween partners..

Konnour · Answer

Well... maybe because they are not real relationships?

You don't even get to see the other person, basically ever, if it's once in months that's nothing.

But you still are supposed to "commit" for them... it's pure self-deception!

GuyAdviceFromGuy · Answer

Because the boy next door might be next door while we are oceans apart.

Xx_DRE_xX · Answer

I feel that by exoerience they never seem to work, I don't know why I choose to try them sometimes :/

Anonymous · Answer

I can't put my cawk in her from there

expos · Answer

Too much work.

xHarveyDx · Answer

Trust issue.

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