Are long distance relationships harder for guys than they are for girls?

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wadeabeee · Accepted Answer

Depends what you mean. A guy has stronger sexual urges at times and he'll get no help on that, so he'll have to have a sperm release eventually. Women can have strong urges, but they don't have to do it legitimately men need to empty out every now and then in masturbation or with a wet dream. Women have periods that get rid of the eggs, and men have to have discharge once a large buildup has occurred. Sorry for the period comparison... I know they aren't even close to the same thing, but I was comparing how they were natural processes in preserving fertility. So the answer is sometimes, but sometimes it is harder for the girl. Either way long distance relationships don't work if you don't meet up because people need more than conversation with a screen.

LostandUnseen · Accepted Answer

It's hard on both. Depending how the relationship goes and the ability to work things out. Girls in a ldr want just attention whereas guys just wanna be guys. Guys typically show emotional attraction and thing in actions and it's hard to do that whereas girls will write paragraphs and cry over texts to the guy. It's hard on both. How is one supposed to show actions when they aren't there. When actions speak louder than words.

PatriciaRodriguez · Accepted Answer

Guys are also humans even though they're not very vocal about their emotions, unlike girls who can share and be very visible about how they're handling things and can share it, guys have it the other way, they go out but but that doesn't mean they dnt care they just handle it in a more practical way because that's how they're made of, it's their nature.

AlienParasite · Accepted Answer

I don't believe it's a gender issue, I think it depends on the person. How high their sex drive is, the emotional attention they need, how jealous they are, how much they trust the other person... Those things are the ones that will make it easier or harder for a person to stand the distance, either guy or girl.

Walkerrose · Answer

I am in a long distance relationship, and I would say it's harder for both. We both long for each other's touch, we want to grab each and every opportunity to meet each other... LDRs are difficult, but at the same time, they are beautiful. Our relationship has become stronger. We understand each other better. We value the little things in your relationship when we meet each other, like holding hands, just being next to each other, kissing, hugging... all of this, which people in CDR find it normal. But yes, it takes a lot of love and courage and trust and loyalty to be in an LDR. Honesty is the most important thing.

Rainie_ · Answer

I’d personally say yes. In my case especially due to the sex drive. I’m in a LDR at the moment (will move to his city soon so won’t be for much longer). But I can guarantee it’s been much more of a struggle for him but for me personally it hasn’t at all. Perhaps because this is how my friendships in general has been for years as well due to me living in different countries so long distance “relationships/friendships” with people has been common place for me. But also because my sex drive doesn’t HAVE TO be satisfied for me to be happy/content, and physical intimacy in my case isn’t a must. Though I suppose it also has to do with the fact that I’m not clingy at all.

Anonymous · Answer

I think is much harder for guys and the reason why I say that is because I think that if a man looks for a relationship is not only to find someone to share time with and interact but also a woman he can have sex with. Obviously long distance relationships take those things away. Which leaves the men more prone to cheat or to end the relationship. There is always the exception, if a way is really in love with the woman, he might be able to bare the distance between them.

UNBUfff · Answer

I have seen both kind of categories in this one, i thing people start feeling insecurities which start developing a kind of distance between each other. And in the end they took the advice of staying away by blaming long distance relationship doesn't have any future. But for me it is way too different. I have witnessed many of my friends who were in a long distance relationship and many are still, and effort is what it counts in the end of the day to have a good feature. So i think it is hard for both to be in a long term relationship.

favokid77 · Answer

I was in a long distance relationship for over 3 years and it was amazing. It lasted for 6 months and then some radio silence. But when where both okey with it. It was on and off but when a had a mutual trust and it was something that made life easier. To know that when you get home you have a girl that calls you and keeps you company when you eat your noodles. The girls parent where I little to strict and they keept her on a leash, but it didn't stop us we were on Skype some times for 15 hours and on going. It was great and lovely. In till I got the parents approval. Then we gott more fredom for ourself and it was a healthy and fun relationship for both of us. For we already went past the early stages of a relationship during our long distance calls.

Hope it helps for the couple's that want to test out a long distance relationship.

simplyaramdomgirl · Answer

Not necessarily. It's more of a personality thing rather than a gender thing. Depending on how likely you are to get attached and to need physical contact, then that's how much harder the distance will be for you. The distance is difficult to manage regardless, but depending on the level of attachment and investment in the relationship you'll feel the distance harder.

JeniferJenko95 · Answer

Well, yes. I was in a long distance relationship, he lived in PA and I was in jersey. He would drive down to jersey to see me. That’s gas money right there, plus time taken away from him. Haha
But I also felt pressured to make him not lose interest in me.
So overall, it’s hard for both. But It usually depends.

LifeEqualsLove · Answer

Might depend on the person, but in most cases I feel like the guy might have more "sexual urges" than the girl. I don't know. Just a thought. Not really sure. I feel like most girls can go a while without having sex than guys tho. Everyone is different tho, so I'm not really sure.

BleachLovesMe · Answer

I was in a long distance relationship, and it lasted for another three weeks then we broke up.

I don't believe in those, touching and communicating are a big parts of a relationship, without them no relationship would be true.

Dutchman90 · Answer

I am not sure, but I do have a lot of experience with this! I had 2 years living in another country than my girl. It was hard, but the technology made it easier. I could not have done it without! I would visit her evry 6 weeks and she would do the same! Result: a relationship of 8 years now and living together..

msg812 · Answer

yeah i think they are because women are more loyal by means of their nature, when it comes to relationship. it is hard for a guy seeing many attractive women but not being in a relationship with one of them for his long-distance woman who he even can't touch.

bakir__ · Answer

I wouldn't really know that for sure. I have been in that kind of relationship and it's the hardest when your SO feels bad and you can't help with words when all they need is a hug. When you want to be there with them through so many adventures and life events and you can't. That goes for both guys and girls. For me it was pretty hard but I know that it was for my ex too so I would say equally hard

SuicidalReject · Answer

It just depends on the person, not their gender but statistically speaking girls are more emotional than guys so generally it would affect girls more, however, that's not always the case. For example I've had guy friends who were emotional wrecks over their long distance relationships whereas I'm not very emotional over such things when I was in long distance relationships.

Johnnydempster2 · Answer

It's hard for everyone because there is no intimacy, and is by nature almost completely platonic. So although you can grow attached to someone over text or the internet, it's not the same sort of connection and bond found in a normal relationship.

markscott · Answer

Long distance relationships might, and I say might, be harder on guys, as they tend to have stronger sex drives, and may have more trouble doing without it. Though, I'm not convinced that that is harder for guys to have a long distance relationship.

EpicDweeb · Answer

I think in a way the emotional aspect of a relationship is something for which girls feel a deeper need. It's also something that's harder to have/establish in a ldr thus I think it's harder for girls than for guys.

passinby · Answer

Guys do get harder.  Depends are the symmetry of the relationship. The more attached one will suffer more, or it could be equal.

Lostranza · Answer

I dont know if thats true! I think that in general is difficult for both parties involved. It may be more difficult however, for the person who desires more physical affection.

Allvangalla · Answer

It does not matter if it's a man or a women, it depends on the level of maturity of the party, the man could be just fine. But the women could have that longing for touch, and vise versa. a lot of the time it's men that can not handle it, let's be honest men ok, we need the touch of your hands on our shoulders, the small of your hair in the morning, it's things like that that make us who we are in a relationship, without the small things, distance just won't work.

TheDirtyyBubble · Answer

Depends on the person, not everyone is the same, some people can't do it, others love it

TrixiePooch · Answer

It is the same for both but females are more into staying celibate than guys who will fuck anything that has legs to spread.

GingerGuy · Answer

Not gender specific. For some more than others, of both genders.

Pistachio0690 · Answer

Usually, because men actually crave emotional closeness, which is difficult from a long distance. Whereas women just want to be able to say they have a hot guy. It's not necessary to actually be in contact with him

Riggers · Answer

Girls are incapable of them and just cheat, so it's harder for guys to put up with.

AriesMale · Answer

Depends how long the relationship has been, a young relationship is more tactile while an older one is less so and more communicating. In the digital age the latter is easily fulfilled.

Gedaria · Answer

I dont know about that, g/f is in South Africa for 3 months at a time comes back to UK for a week then goes back. Last year it was Canada, but we chat on WHATS APP. It a good way to be in contact ...

opurba · Answer

Let's start with reality, if it man f@@ked several woman, how would u know? Just with trust? Really?

ritxi · Answer

I think it's harder for girls, because they have a higher emotional dependence.

Annonymousismyname · Answer

I guess it’s hard for both. For me personally I find long distance relationships really hard. Some days are better than others. But today I’m feeling really low. I miss him so much and there’s no where else I’d rather be than with him

Anonymous · Answer

I think it’s harder for the person that is attached/cares the most really.

MLGbreezy · Answer

Why would they be harder for guys then girls i don't understand

Jaded214 · Answer

They aren't more or less hard for one or the other. It's equal between both people.

xZoeyx · Answer

It depends on the individual and not necessarily the gender

jessture · Answer

Yeah because we don't want to have to text constantly have everything we do interpreted as cheating

Sorrytobother · Answer

They're just hard in general I don't think they are necessarily harder for one gender over the other.

usaf2018 · Answer

Yeah. Cause girls aren't as trustworthy. They seem to jump around quite easily

rosyface12 · Answer

I don't think so, I think it just depends on the person. As long as there's proper trust and communication then I think it could work out well for both equally.

Real_princes · Answer

Long distance relationship is for losers who couldnot establish local one cuz they are weird

sp33d · Answer

I'd wager they are equally tough for either side. I wouldn't know, I don't get into LDR territory.

Lance1965 · Answer

It is really hard for both men and women which is why it rarely works.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes because they think we cheating but in reality we just waiting for our phone to ring with a notification from that special girl

lizzie_blue · Answer

No they aren’t, in my opinion it is hard equally on both sides of the relationship

Keimpe · Answer

I think they are harder for girls. As they have more need for physical connection.

TrustOfWorthington · Answer

Maybe on a satisfactional level... no hugs... no kisses...

robroy76 · Answer

I really think it's a wash between both the girl an the guy. IF they care for each other.

chris-sav · Answer

Personally I need the ability to see you in person and hang out with you and stuff like that because just there's something missing

6ftallady · Answer

I think it harder for Guy cause there physical and visual , for the woman it’s emotional that what I believe and experience.

msaric22 · Answer

I guess it depends on how much the person needs the physical aspect of a relationship, so it could be either one

MrGrey21 · Answer

Well it depends on how much u trust each other , what compromises u make , so it can be harder and easier, if ur partner is Good and understand u

JN_99 · Answer

They are even hard for guys as for girls mostly, but if one of them loves the other one less then he or she does.. Then it is harder for him/her..

stalactite · Answer

Hm this is a tough one. I think it's much harder for girls. I don't know how to explain myself on this one but that's just my opinion.

ZehraMurteza · Answer

I think it's hard for both of them equally. Having a lover in military. I felt very lonely. The feeling is indescribable

Anonymous · Answer

Yes cause they dont get sex. If they do. They dumb their called internet girlfriend. LDR are for idiots.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think so. In my opinion, I think that you just can't trust anyone online.

SuzyB · Answer

I think its equally hard on both partners

Anonymous · Answer

LDR's are equally challenging for both men and women in these kind of relationships.

Mrperfct69 · Answer

Yes, It is more harder for boys to be in long distance relationship than a girl

7385126876 · Answer

No i don't think so. Boys can live anywhere singally. Boys have adoptability more than girls...

Labibah · Answer

I'd think it would be just as hard for both parties regardless of sex but depends on the person

danny887 · Answer

It depends on the relationship...  I love long distance relationships

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