Are long distance relationships harder for guys than they are for girls?

[Ayzee64]

[wadeabeee]

Depends what you mean. A guy has stronger sexual urges at times and he'll get no help on that, so he'll have to have a sperm release eventually. Women can have strong urges, but they don't have to do it legitimately men need to empty out every now and then in masturbation or with a wet dream. Women have periods that get rid of the eggs, and men have to have discharge once a large buildup has occurred. Sorry for the period comparison... I know they aren't even close to the same thing, but I was comparing how they were natural processes in preserving fertility. So the answer is sometimes, but sometimes it is harder for the girl. Either way long distance relationships don't work if you don't meet up because people need more than conversation with a screen.

[LostandUnseen]

It's hard on both. Depending how the relationship goes and the ability to work things out. Girls in a ldr want just attention whereas guys just wanna be guys. Guys typically show emotional attraction and thing in actions and it's hard to do that whereas girls will write paragraphs and cry over texts to the guy. It's hard on both. How is one supposed to show actions when they aren't there. When actions speak louder than words.

[PatriciaRodriguez]

Guys are also humans even though they're not very vocal about their emotions, unlike girls who can share and be very visible about how they're handling things and can share it, guys have it the other way, they go out but but that doesn't mean they dnt care they just handle it in a more practical way because that's how they're made of, it's their nature.

[AlienParasite]

I don't believe it's a gender issue, I think it depends on the person. How high their sex drive is, the emotional attention they need, how jealous they are, how much they trust the other person... Those things are the ones that will make it easier or harder for a person to stand the distance, either guy or girl.

[Walkerrose]

I am in a long distance relationship, and I would say it's harder for both. We both long for each other's touch, we want to grab each and every opportunity to meet each other... LDRs are difficult, but at the same time, they are beautiful. Our relationship has become stronger. We understand each other better. We value the little things in your relationship when we meet each other, like holding hands, just being next to each other, kissing, hugging... all of this, which people in CDR find it normal. But yes, it takes a lot of love and courage and trust and loyalty to be in an LDR. Honesty is the most important thing.

[Rainie_]

I’d personally say yes. In my case especially due to the sex drive. I’m in a LDR at the moment (will move to his city soon so won’t be for much longer). But I can guarantee it’s been much more of a struggle for him but for me personally it hasn’t at all. Perhaps because this is how my friendships in general has been for years as well due to me living in different countries so long distance “relationships/friendships” with people has been common place for me. But also because my sex drive doesn’t HAVE TO be satisfied for me to be happy/content, and physical intimacy in my case isn’t a must. Though I suppose it also has to do with the fact that I’m not clingy at all.

[Anonymous]

I think is much harder for guys and the reason why I say that is because I think that if a man looks for a relationship is not only to find someone to share time with and interact but also a woman he can have sex with. Obviously long distance relationships take those things away. Which leaves the men more prone to cheat or to end the relationship. There is always the exception, if a way is really in love with the woman, he might be able to bare the distance between them.

[Opinion Owner]

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[UNBUfff]

I have seen both kind of categories in this one, i thing people start feeling insecurities which start developing a kind of distance between each other. And in the end they took the advice of staying away by blaming long distance relationship doesn't have any future. But for me it is way too different. I have witnessed many of my friends who were in a long distance relationship and many are still, and effort is what it counts in the end of the day to have a good feature. So i think it is hard for both to be in a long term relationship.

[favokid77]

I was in a long distance relationship for over 3 years and it was amazing. It lasted for 6 months and then some radio silence. But when where both okey with it. It was on and off but when a had a mutual trust and it was something that made life easier. To know that when you get home you have a girl that calls you and keeps you company when you eat your noodles. The girls parent where I little to strict and they keept her on a leash, but it didn't stop us we were on Skype some times for 15 hours and on going. It was great and lovely. In till I got the parents approval. Then we gott more fredom for ourself and it was a healthy and fun relationship for both of us. For we already went past the early stages of a relationship during our long distance calls.

Hope it helps for the couple's that want to test out a long distance relationship.

[simplyaramdomgirl]

Not necessarily. It's more of a personality thing rather than a gender thing. Depending on how likely you are to get attached and to need physical contact, then that's how much harder the distance will be for you. The distance is difficult to manage regardless, but depending on the level of attachment and investment in the relationship you'll feel the distance harder.

[JeniferJenko95]

Well, yes. I was in a long distance relationship, he lived in PA and I was in jersey. He would drive down to jersey to see me. That’s gas money right there, plus time taken away from him. Haha
But I also felt pressured to make him not lose interest in me.
So overall, it’s hard for both. But It usually depends.

[LifeEqualsLove]

Might depend on the person, but in most cases I feel like the guy might have more "sexual urges" than the girl. I don't know. Just a thought. Not really sure. I feel like most girls can go a while without having sex than guys tho. Everyone is different tho, so I'm not really sure.

[BleachLovesMe]

I was in a long distance relationship, and it lasted for another three weeks then we broke up.

I don't believe in those, touching and communicating are a big parts of a relationship, without them no relationship would be true.

[jpgDOTexe]

“Dull sublunary lover’s love (whose soul is sense) can not admit absence, because it doth remove those things which elemented it”

[Dutchman90]

I am not sure, but I do have a lot of experience with this! I had 2 years living in another country than my girl. It was hard, but the technology made it easier. I could not have done it without! I would visit her evry 6 weeks and she would do the same! Result: a relationship of 8 years now and living together..

[msg812]

yeah i think they are because women are more loyal by means of their nature, when it comes to relationship. it is hard for a guy seeing many attractive women but not being in a relationship with one of them for his long-distance woman who he even can't touch.

[bakir__]

I wouldn't really know that for sure. I have been in that kind of relationship and it's the hardest when your SO feels bad and you can't help with words when all they need is a hug. When you want to be there with them through so many adventures and life events and you can't. That goes for both guys and girls. For me it was pretty hard but I know that it was for my ex too so I would say equally hard

[SuicidalReject]

It just depends on the person, not their gender but statistically speaking girls are more emotional than guys so generally it would affect girls more, however, that's not always the case. For example I've had guy friends who were emotional wrecks over their long distance relationships whereas I'm not very emotional over such things when I was in long distance relationships.

[Johnnydempster2]

It's hard for everyone because there is no intimacy, and is by nature almost completely platonic. So although you can grow attached to someone over text or the internet, it's not the same sort of connection and bond found in a normal relationship.

[markscott]

Long distance relationships might, and I say might, be harder on guys, as they tend to have stronger sex drives, and may have more trouble doing without it. Though, I'm not convinced that that is harder for guys to have a long distance relationship.

[EpicDweeb]

I think in a way the emotional aspect of a relationship is something for which girls feel a deeper need. It's also something that's harder to have/establish in a ldr thus I think it's harder for girls than for guys.

[passinby]

Guys do get harder.

Depends are the symmetry of the relationship. The more attached one will suffer more, or it could be equal.

[Lostranza]

I dont know if thats true! I think that in general is difficult for both parties involved. It may be more difficult however, for the person who desires more physical affection.

[Allvangalla]

It does not matter if it's a man or a women, it depends on the level of maturity of the party, the man could be just fine. But the women could have that longing for touch, and vise versa. a lot of the time it's men that can not handle it, let's be honest men ok, we need the touch of your hands on our shoulders, the small of your hair in the morning, it's things like that that make us who we are in a relationship, without the small things, distance just won't work.

[TheDirtyyBubble]

Depends on the person, not everyone is the same, some people can't do it, others love it