Yes. My biological dad. He was abusive - physically, emotionally, mentally and financially - spiraled due to substance abuse and had an issue with gambling. Lost respect for him when there was no response of him out reaching when my late mum (his ex wife) passed.
The anger has subsided, I didn't grow to exactly have an attachment nor know of the person - he's merely a ghost to me. But he has tried to reach out and find me once when I was 16, another when I was 20. Issue with my case is it's a bit diffrent with custody as my my biological mum and dad were never legally married, and the laws of where I was born are much different to where I live now. There was really no "divorce", more so, my mum took my brother and I, and uprooted to a better country.11 Reply
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Yes definitely. My dad had (I think he actually still does) a gambling problem. My mom cheated on my dad in the past. He’s stolen all her money. My life has been hell always dealing with the two of them always at it with each other what makes me angry about all of it is they are STILL together and they actually blame my 3 sisters and I for their problems and they are very emotionally abusive.
I’ve forgiven them but I try to keep my distance yet still try to show them respect and love? Bc they’re my parents. But I’m so bothered. It’s definitely made me become stronger and more patient with people.. Scared too though. I now feel so scared to get close to any guy for the fear I’m not worthy or they will hurt me too. So yeah fuck.12 Reply- +1 y
I am sorry to hear your parents are dysfunctional, but I am happy to hear you were able to forgive! I think its good to keep a healthy distance from dysfunctional people, even if they are your parents.
I will say this about the 2nd part. YOU ARE WORTHY! God made the perfect gift, when he made Eve for Adam. He made women perfect. You are perfect and created in the image of God <3
That being said, just like Adam didn't take care of Eve, you need to be careful with choosing someone, especially nowadays <3 The right man will take care of you. :)
Good luck with everything <3 Thank you for being so candid :) - +1 y
You must definitely be a lot older than 24 OR you have a tragic story too you turned into good? Thank u so much that really means a lot. Trying to learn and grow everyday. You’re welcome. God bless 🤍
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Of course I do.
My father is a narcissistic bastard who ran away, abandoned me and my mother and even stole money from her.
My mother is a whore who fancies herself as a high class lady, she did her fair share of abandonment and I know she still abuses cocaine and painkillers.
But at least she's making an effort to be close and help me out with my current health problems, what happened two weeks ago really scared her so I guess she loves me somehow.13 Reply- Opinion Owner+1 y
I don't think I'll forgive my father because he simply doesn't care.
I'm softening up towards my mom because at least she's trying.
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well i hit no but sometimes i do, my dad was a little controlling and would always take things away from me and do them for me, and my mom is a wingnut incapable of any complex conversation but those things aren't a big deal after you move out and get some distance you don't mind anymore. very few people resent their parents after they move out
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I have, but I’ve pretty well dealt with it all now. It doesn’t change anything and as I’ve gotten older I’ve accepted they did what they felt they could. Both of my parents have heroin (and others) addictions that have spanned almost their entire lifetimes. My mums been clean several times over her life and did her best but it always seemed like my dad never tried. He had untreated depression ever since my sister died in the 90’s and used his addictions as a way to cope and my mum just fell of the wagon here and there.
I started seeing a therapist in my 20’s and it was the best thing for my feelings of abandonment and resentment11 Reply - +1 y
I mean sometimes it depends, if I will have a fight with them, then I will be angry at them that why they did such things or why they lectured me but Most of the times, I try to be thankful to have supporting parents and the coolest parents ever.. If we will have a fight, we will make it up with one another! Sometimes I think that I shouldn't get angry at them because they are already doing many things for me!
21 Reply I've had those moments... but at the end of the day, I love them and they're good people.
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Both of my parents were - loving , caring and forgiving Christian parents - who had 6 children of which I am the youngest of ! thanks
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Not much, because I remember that when they got angry towards me that it was for my own good.
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I hate my dad, and no I won't ever forgive him.
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nope
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:D thanks
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yeah
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