Do you resent your parents for the way you were raised?

Question

I resent my parents for the way they raised me, well mainly my dad, but everything that has ruined my life stems back to him / them and I fucking hate him for it, I seriously resent him so badly, does anybody else feel this way?

ThatInsaneChick · Accepted Answer

Yes, I absolutely feel that way. I'm pissed that my dad ran out, I'm pissed that my stepfather jad the nerve to beat and molest me and my siblings, and I'm pissed that my mom never even tried to stop it. I've got so much resentment toward them.

kelly_14848 · Accepted Answer

I do , and will raise my son better than i was raised

Ripper_E · Accepted Answer

in what way? I hate some things about it, but I know without a doubt my mom loved me more than anything, and I felt that all the time. That outweighs all the bad.

ScottSummers · Accepted Answer

yeah completely the same with my dad

Finchie40 · Answer

Parents do have a big impact on children's lives and Yes we can be angry at them but holding on to the past isn't going to solve anything all we can do is not make the same mistakes our parents did to us. We need to be strong and move forward thats all we can do. If we live our lives blaming our parents then those just shows signs of weakness , our parents aren't perfect people either , I am sure they went through shit before we were born so blaming them for our actions is a weakness. I was raised by an alcoholic father that was very abusive and a Mom that was an enabaler , My brothers and I feared my father like we walked on egg shells around him on whether he was going. to be nice or mean , it sucked but he worked hard and supported us so i am thankful for that only thing I learned from my parents was hot to be like them. Yes i have Anger towards them but i also Love them I just know what kind of people they are and know thats not the way i will be. We can't live our lives holding on and blaming the past all we can do is move forward. We will always love our parents no matter how fucked up they are all we can do is do whats best for us

lightbulb27 · Answer

Say more, what did he do wrong.

I do not, I could. It wasn't perfect, but my father did the best he could and he loved us on weekends when he was home, showed me how to do things around the house. He loved us, but rarely touched us. He had a bad upbringing... horrible... and he decided to give us much better. I suggest you change your view to that... give your kids much better than you got!

An Xgf had a dad who did not understand girls and she was really hurt and abused by it. It was a mess and I helped her grow closer to him in his 80's. Dad's get no training but need a ton. They are so important to daughters development.

I am sorry, I hope you can find a way to view him as a human being. If he isn't acceptable, re-parent yourself, find a better substitute. Also, you need to do some healing.. dad is your reference point for a guy. You might say... I don't want anyone like him, but attraction doesn't work like that... attraction is familiarity, so some inner work often required to ensure you are drawn to a better quality guy... if such even exists anymore.

Price511 · Answer

I resent them. Oh hell, I resent them.

One was manipulative, and used me as nothing more than a stepping stone to the next pedestal. The other was just downright abusive.

Sure, they may be a little better now, but that doesn't do anything to reverse the years of mental abuse from the both of them. I won't say it right now in a forum,(mostly because it's too long of a story to post it on here,) but I was put through something I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemies.

Wolframium · Answer

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boggboss · Answer

No at the end off the day no matter how shit life was arlt times I know my mum did her best and no point resenting a dad that was not there he don't deserve that level of passion

GB2000 · Answer

No I was raised fine. I was taught to respect my elders, use my manners. Sure I grew up in a single parent home but I had a great childhood. Can not fault it one bit.

DevilsAdvocator · Answer

Would you support this guy's lawsuit, then?   Do you feel that you'd rather not have been born? Or just that you'd have rather had different parents, or been raised differently?

MlleCake · Answer

I have gone through that, yes. My father is pretty much out of my life now. But yeah, a little resentment comes up now and then.

I live with my mother and some of our old shit comes up now and then also, but we deal with it head-on.

At the same time though, I am grateful for much that they have done in my life.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

What did he do? The fact is that while I disagree with quite a bit of what my parents did, and in fact I would say some of it was completely unwarranted and wrong, I can at least understand why they did it (and while I resent what they did its only because they refused to acknowledge that they did wrong to begin with). So what specifically did he do?

CuChullan · Answer

I had a lot i could have resented my parents for, particularly my control freak mother, but you realise in time why and for what reason they did what they did. And it's best you forgive.

Barrabus_the_Free · Answer

No. They were doing the best they knew how. It's not their fault they were wrong about basically everything. Things changed a lot from the time they were kids to the time I grew up, they couldn't have possibly known how to prepare me for it.

Nicolev1 · Answer

not at all, they did the absolute best they could and tried to teach me what they felt was right

Clo917 · Answer

I resent what they did and how they did it, but I don't resent them as people.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

*Raises hand*

I'm actually considering stealing his heart meds and his prescription number and destroying them both when I move out.

Serve him right for raising me to be a peace-lover weakling like him.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

My mom ruined my life, especially when i was 16yo and she signed me over to the County coz she did not want to be a parent anymore. I hated Foster Care!

Anonymous · Answer

I was raised in a loving home with two parents. I am resentful of the fact that we were kind of poor and missed out on a lot of stuff. Not poor poor, we had all the necessities but I’ve never been to Disneyland.

TsubasaCorrupted · Answer

No, but I resent the fundamentalist mentality their religion demands, and the forcing of their children to believe it too. I resent the brainwashing by the church. I don't resent them.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes my Father verbally abused us a lot and it still bothers me to this day.

humanearth · Answer

The only thing is my dad refused to I was his. To bad The Maury Povich Show was not around in the 70's. You are the father. He did come clean about it about 15 years ago about.

Celtero · Answer

You already read mine, what'd your parents do to you?

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Nope! I am thankful for making me the man I am today..

psychosam · Answer

Absolutely. I was raised without a single hint of love from either of them. Cared more about my achievements (very good) than my mental wellbeing (very bad), so I suppose they think they did a fucking good job

Anonymous · Answer

No. Many dont realize this but at the end of the day its YOU who chooses to be who YOU are. doesn't matter how or who raised you.

beebella · Answer

Yes, but I try not to harp on the past too much.

Gedaria · Answer

No , mother and my sisters were and still are a big influences in my life. Father wasn't around much too busy chasing some new woman or going to his club, he wasn't missed !!!

HornetsFanAllDay · Answer

never!! my folks are the best darn parents I could ever ask for!!

luvstoned4him · Answer

I resent them for the way they treated me

Evan94 · Answer

No I don't resent anything

ILoveAnime · Answer

Yes, my dad mostly but on some aspects my mom too

courtney06 · Answer

Yea I have moments where I do. Abuse isn’t funny

DeviloftheValleys · Answer

No. I love them for it.

roblovesdemialways · Answer

All the time every damn day

worldscolide · Answer

Resent? No, hate, revile, despise, yes.

CubaPirate · Answer

Luckily I don't

rgb008 · Answer

Nope.

ninjafemme · Answer

yes i resent them

emmily2396 · Answer

Yes...

brittslitt · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, very muchs o

ImFromReddit · Answer

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