How to revive my relationship with my boyfriend which had suffered due to my dad? Should I tell him I have a cheating father?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone. I would like to ask you all out how would u have recovered from your past and rejuvinate ur relationship. I have a cheating father and he had been cheating my mom since as long as I know. I'm an Indian girl and in my community divorce is downseen. As I saw my dad cheating him since I was a child, it's very tough to rely on my boyfriend and trust him. Although he had never cheated me or never made me feel down, but it's very tough to trust anyone in a relationship. Hence, it has severely downgraded our relationship and in this lockdown it's becoming very tough to revive. Pls help me.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you have some personal issues to work on first, because even if you two broke up, that would be a factor in your relationship. If you stay together it’s not something you can just switch off in an effort to keep. That is a deep seated sort of personal trauma that you have to get to the bottom of and ultimately overcome. You’ve never spoken with your father about him cheating, but maybe talking to him and it privately would give you some closure. If that is not an option, then focus on self healing. But I don't know if your current relationship can survive so long as this bothers you.

[Iron_Man]

That’s between you and the family it is very personal

[In_Trance]

You're being irrational

[SelflessMe]

Yes, absolutely