I have the ability to cut people off and detach very easily? why is this?

[Elena813]

I can detach and cut people off very easily. Once I feel wronged or used etc I can detach from the person no matter the relationship, how long I’ve known them or anything else. I no longer care about associating with them. I’ve even done it with family, immediate family that I live with. I would continuously just ignore them around the house if they did something I didn’t like. I personally have never seen anything wrong with this but everyone says it’s an issue. I am not this way with objects though, for example if I have a concert theory from 10 years ago and it gets lost or damaged I am miserable. I attach to objects quicker than I do people.

[Kaneki05]

i am mostly the same. Probably cause were just more logical over how we deal with people. We deal with are problems with people like well simple don't interact with them if we don't have too.

[Kaneki05]

psychologically speaking it's a defense mechanism so people don't let us down.

[Elena813]

But hasn’t the person already let us down? Therefore we no longer want to associate with them?

[Kaneki05]

It's more so they cannot do it later/again or letting you down by something bigger and much worse.
And because you don't get emotional from detaching right away that is self protection. Otherwise every time you would get emotional about it.

[Giggltr0nn]

You were never fully invested in the first place, so it's easier to just cut and run; it's actually pretty common.

[Elena813]

Hmmm but I do this with family also not just friends or people
I’ve recently met.

[Iron_Man]

Maybe because you’re not grounded in faith and you don’t have a loving heart

[mrgspoter]

I do same thing mostly like I am always ready to go