hey, I've really been wanting a boyfriend lately, but I think I'm pretty unapproachable.
I mean, I think I'm a decent enough catch, but I'm that type to be very quiet, sulk in a corner, independent, give death stares (not on purpose), and have a general don't f*** with me attitude.
I don't do this on purpose, just matured and raised this way, I try my best to be open and not reserved, really put myself out there, but I'm having trouble doing so. I wear dark clothes and leather jackets, black jeans, etc etc, I got labeled "wearing outcast" clothing, I wear dresses and heels and put on makeup, and still no responses from the guys when I try. I'm not shy, just don't like opening up.
Maybe a guy is worth it if he approaches me, how ballsy he is, etc. And the others aren't worth it.
But I seriously think my general demeanor is really getting in the way.
People only really know my true self when they get to know me, and that in itself takes time, and I'm sure enough worth getting to know. So what should I do? I'm really desperate to find someone, because I hate this feeling of loneliness.
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Depends on the type of guy you're looking for and the type of person you portray yourself to be. For example needy guys generally look for needy girls. Leather clad chucks generally look for leather clad guys. I myself have lived in different types of envirnments so to speak so a girl who wears dark clothes or leather doesn't bother me as much as her attitude. Be honest with yourself as to the type of guy your looking for and don't settle for just who ever decides to pay attention. Most guys these days will do just about anything to get sex, but that's pretty much all they want. Be patient.0