My mom keeps gaslighting me?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I go out, my mom accuses me of being drunk when I come back home. Even if I had nothing to drink at all. (I never got drunk for 2 years) It makes me feel like I'm crazy, I don't even trust my own behavior anymore. How can I deal with her?

[btbc92]

I think for your situation, it is better for a professional in family counseling who have dealt with your issues in the past, can vetter be of service to you. I wouldn't miss those day that she is gas-lighting you because gaslighting you would mean that she's telling you something that you actually did when you're actually didn't. It's less to do about accusing, it's about implanting an idea in your head to make you believe that you did. What she's doing over wrong it's accusing you based on her own personal fears and experiences she had in the past. I'm not going to judge you accuse either of you. Because I don't know what the situation is. But it must be pretty serious for her to already feel that way, because you're going through a similar situation married couples go through everyday if not those that are in relationships. If you don't think that will untrustworthy, then you got to remember that what you did before is enough to cause a person to feel a certain way. So she cannot let it go, you got to understand why she cannot let it go, and if you already know, then you can't necessarily blame her too much. But her reactions and her behaviors is not appropriate because I can tell cause and Rich stress or the entire family, if you are struggling mentally, it's best to see therapy and counseling for yourself. You got to be concerned about your mental health oh, and you cannot be around toxic people. You got to find out why is she so adamant and saying you on when you're not because this don't sound normal.

[btbc92]

Another thing I meant to say earlier, if you are going out at odd hours, that's enough to make anybody suspicious. Especially if they know you well enough. That's something that you got to develop with her regarding trust. But if you both cannot come to a conclusion on how this needs to be settled, it's best to have somebody else who can be a mediator between the both of you so that way you both can properly communicate this so, that way you'll know her intent, and she could be well aware of your intent. I just really hope and pray she's not trying to sabotage your life because she's just unhappy.

[Anonymous]

Did you struggle with alcohol in the past? If so then she may be holding on to concern or those negative feelings she felt when you were going through that. But she shouldn’t hold it over your head anymore and she herself needs to let go of that situation. On the other hand if you had no issue with drinking and she’s just pulling things out of her ass then you need to put your foot down. Tell her to stop trying to convince you of being drunk if you didn’t even have a sip, because that’s just unfair and pretty rude.