Have you ever confided in a person with your insecurities only for them to later use your insecurities against you?

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tatianamay · Accepted Answer

Yes, this has happened to me. GaG has really changed me tbh. I wasn't 'fiery' or anything before I joined this site. I used to be shy and reserved, I trusted people way too much, I still used to be opinionated, but only with my family. Now im kind of different, I guess. I don't trust people easily, I've learnt a lot from various people on here. If you observe closely, I do not reveal too much about myself on here, well, I do, but not too much. I do not talk about my insecurities with people. Some know that I have anxiety on here, but also, most don't know about some other things, also, I do not get to attached to people these days

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Oh yeah, sadly enough :(

And people wonder why I don't open up very much or discuss emotions anymore: the rare times I did... turned against me or they told others. Yeah, great having "friends" you can trust, hmph.

Nope, not anymore. The wrong person (s) will use them against you, or go telling others, be it to help you or not, and it usually makes things worse.

JoeyRock · Accepted Answer

Yes. And the worst thing is that it was with every member of my family.
Its all nice and supportive whem I confide in them about these things, but the moment I do something wrong, a mistake or argue against something, they always manage to bring these insecurities up no matter what.

nolabels · Accepted Answer

If people speak their minds here on G@G, it doesn't take too long for the trolls to slither in. If that answers your question. In real life? Yeah, probably true there, also.

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

No, I’ve only really confined my insecurities in a handful of people (you could count them with your fingers lol) and even then I’ve only ever really deeply confined them in like 1 or 2 people. They’ve never used them against me, I take a long time to warm up to someone and chances are if someone knows a lot about my insecurities and they’ve seen when I’m like that, and I’ve felt comfortable enough to come to them about it- they’re more special to me than they think.

aqua0101 · Answer

Yes , I have. It's a horrible experience. If you're not careful , it can mess with your mind. That's why I learned to keep my personal stuff to myself most of the time.

It shows the true person behind the mask , so to speak. That deep down inside they have some heart wounds , that needs to be healed.

loves2learn · Answer

Yup. I really hate to say it but my husband has at times. 😭

menina · Answer

I don't remember that happening to me. Which is why I rarely talk about my deepest issues with people I know in real life.

Miah02 · Answer

No. I never even confided my insecurities to anyone before. Usually I'm the ones that confide in because they know I'm not petty and would never do that weak ass shit to anyone

Alyssa11 · Answer

Yeah. One of my friends did that and I cut her off after that. I don't think I won't confide in anyone anymore, I'll just be smarter about who I surround myself with.

Neko911 · Answer

Yes... And the people who have done this to me know who they are... And yes I'm throwing shade

coachTanthony · Answer

-----------Yes. You live and learn that is for sure.  ~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG

muscularbumblebee · Answer

Yes. It’s called long term relationships that have turned badly. Then people wonder why I’m so ‘mysterious and secretive’

NathanDavis · Answer

luckily, no but the people I trust are better people than me... so they would just not ever do something like that

1sexyrobot · Answer

Yes, but for the record, this is a narcissist move. They weaponize everything. Red flag. Run.

TsundereMatrix · Answer

Definitely has happened. Especially in grade school.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Never become transparent for others. It's surely not sexy and only a question of time until someone uses your naivety against you. This doesn't apply just to revealing of insecurities.

AdithyaR · Answer

I don't open myself because of the fear of this. But then again, I don't exactly have a bad past or trauma that I need to share.

fonduegirl · Answer

Yes, my first best friend. Left me as soon as she got another bestie.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I told this person one time something and they went back and told this person so no more

Prideful · Answer

I'm hard of hearing so I avoid talking to people 95% of the time. I speak well, with no accent but the room must be quiet if you don't wanna repeat yourself. Don't know if that's an insecurity.

InferiorElegy · Answer

Only once and that is why I don't do that anymore except to a therapist.

Supernormal · Answer

And these set of persons were friends. No wonder I changed - you can't blame me

Wiredone · Answer

I don't really have any insecurities so I've never confided it to anyone

Azura_88 · Answer

More secrets than insecurities

beebella · Answer

Way too many times, Doug.

tartaarsaus · Answer

Nope. None of the people I’ve confided in are oafs

karaspara · Answer

Yes why I don't trust people easily

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes a Chinese man never trust one

Sugar_7 · Answer

Yes, my friend did that

pink_and_inlove · Answer

Yes my mom

kidvid80 · Answer

yes.

Alejandro3000 · Answer

parents

Slim57 · Answer

Yeah sadly

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