Are You Gun Shy From Telling Someone In Confidence Things About Yourself Because They Turn It Around And Use It Against You?

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I guess we never know when this is going to happen to us until it actually happens.
I've always been like an open book but not about everything, keeping some things to myself.
But when someone makes you feel comfortable and you are both sharing things about yourselves, only to have them use what you said to turn it against you. What do you do then?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Well we all have friends and win the Chit Chat gets going people start talking and that's when you know there's some things you can say to this person and there's some things you can't say and that's with everybody in the world it doesn't matter who they are if you've known them especially for a long period of time you already know who they are if somebody that you know comes over and starts telling you about some other people well that should tell you right then and there is that person that's the same thing with you if they talk about other people behind their backs they do the same thing with you it's really really simple

I think the gag members know more about me then some of my family my friends even my close friends because I just don't feel the need to talk about myself

And I have a few friends secrets that I wish they would have never told me but they told me and I can't tell anybody that's just because that's the deal

So next time you start talking with somebody Just remember some things You might say it's your secret to you And nobody needs to know about it

And to be honest with you your friend is just like probably 80% of the rest of the population if somebody tells them something whether it's true or not the moment they get around somebody their mouth has to start blabbing because they don't have a life there's nothing interesting about them so they start blabbing to make themselves look good

So now what you do is you look the person in the eye and he said so that little white lie that I told you how many people did you tell because I made a bet that within 20 minutes after I told you my white lie that you were probably already telling other people

And I'm going to say sage I'll bet you a dollar you could tell somebody something and within a half an hour's time they will have already told somebody else that way it's not a lie it is a bet so now you can ask because you make the bet with me let's see what she says or he says

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

no, I can trust people

nolabels · Answer

Yep, absolutely, I'm gun shy.

Having been a very recent recipient of such horrible abuse, my motto is:

Fool me once, shame on the fooler.
Fool me twice, shame on me.

Or,

Once bitten, twice shy.

The offending person led me to believe something that turned out to not be true, eliciting my trust to confide in them.

The resulting fusillade of falsely based vitriol made direct hits on this old boy.
He's okay, though.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

It's a lesson for you to never trust anyone...

These days you can barely trust yourself and don't ask me: why i can trust you then? A lot of members here had trusted me blindly on this site and even more in real life and i have never failed anyone, but the problem is: can i trust any of them like they trust me? 🤔

Sal_Monella · Answer

I try to gauge them, first. I ask them about themselves. If they step up. so do I.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, it happened to me several times.

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