Are you afraid of saying something around someone you like that might turn them off from you?

[Still-alive]

Could be a crush or even someone you're dating. ever worry you might say something they won't like and be turned off over it?

Yes this is a costant worry for me around someone i like or dating

Sometimes i worry about it

Not really.. i figure if they truly like me they will acccept me for everything i am even things they may not like

It doesn't even cross my mind because i always just say what i want regardless.

[CrazyGirl2]

I wish I could be confident to be one of the girls who say “if they truly like me, they will accept me for who I am” I’m constantly afraid that I will say something that makes him realize that I’m not “cool” at all and I am just a huge goofy nerd who’s lucky enough to exist within cute packaging. Seriously, if I really like the guy, I’m terrified that I‘ ll say something wrong and he won’t like me anymore! I honestly don’t know why, but my self esteem is really low.

[Still-alive]

I understand 😘

[CrazyGirl2]

Thank you! You know me so well. I’ve answered similar type questions before, and all I usually get is “but your so beautiful, how could you have low self esteem? And I’m like “bruh, there’s SO more to life, and definitely more to self esteem than just looking at a mirror!”.

[tony_baloney]

Cute, hugely goofy nerd girls? They're the best!! o:

[CrazyGirl2]

@tony_baloney Unfortunately, self esteem is an internal psychological issue, and even if every guy on earth swore on a stack of bible’s (or any other religious texts) like you, they thought we “goofy nerdy” girls are “the best!”, that nagging voice in my head that often says “you’re not good enough, and eventually he’s going to figure that out” is just not satiated by what other’s tell me. But I TRULY thank you for your very kind words. I know they come from a good and kindhearted place. 🤗😘

[Jenny-Marie]

I understand your position, but if you are scared to speak ot about what you truly believe, how can you ever have an equal relationship?

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Definitely a fear of mines. It doesn't necessarily be someone I have a crush on. It could just as well be someone I look up to. Honestly, if I ever met anyone I admire, I'm sprinting the opposite way. I dont want them to even acknowledge my existence.

[Still-alive]

if i saw you sprinting from me... id meow at you to come back! meoww

[letuswaltzforthedead]

You could definitely kidnap someone using cats.

[Sandeeppingping]

This is a struggle for me, and if affects my entire behavior, I'm usually a guy that never shuts up, but if I like censor myself once I suddenly get in my head and get too quiet because now I'm thinking more about what to say, so it doesn't ruin just that exact instance where I've decided not to say something, but the entire interaction

[AndrésC64]

Believe it or not, sometimes saying exactly what I mean is difficult for me IRL. I often avoid conflict/confrontation for fear of losing the relationship. Probably part of my mental health issues.

[Pinay_ako]

C and D. If they are turned off, then they’re not worthy of you

[Msputiton]

Nope i don't want someone to like me on a false narrative.

Like me for me, and not someone who fears making you mad.

[Aerolyn]

No, because they're gonna leave you anyways at some point so what's the fucking point of worry about that.

Delaying the inevitable.

[menina]

Yes, there were times that I was worried about that.

[FilmGuy93]

Kind of. I'm worried about it in the same way I'm worried that I will wear something inappropriate.

[Phoenix98]

I'll always say what's on my mind if asked but I would phrase things differently if my SO asked as opposed to someone I didn't care about.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes this is a constant worry for me around someone I like or dating

[Filthy_Immigrant]

Nope, and you have this mentality then I'm sorry but you're bound to stay single for the rest of your life

[CallmeTheKnight]

No. I don't see the point of reserving certain words if it's the truth.

[TroyDT]

No, because I am not interested in being liked for her illusion of who I am.

[Zolly99999]

Definitely!! I aways have to think before I speak on that situation

[Sillyboi98]

Yes it happens to me all the time in front of females

[Blackcosmo]

Yup! I make sure not to breath too loud.

[Cherry234]

I worry about this sometimes.

[tony_baloney]

In the past, yes. Never again

[fonduegirl]

Nope. What you see is what you get.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Never