I'm sure we've all been there, you go on a first date with someone which goes fairly well, and then you, feeling excited about this possible new romance, text the person a bit after the date basically saying things that are too difficult to say in person or things that you wanted to say during the date but didn't.
This is the circumstance that occurred for me today, and a date 1 week ago. That 1 week ago date, I texted her after the date and she didn't respond, I figured she was busy. The next day she still hadn't texted back, so I asked her if she was not interested or something, and she told me in fact she wasn't interested.
Flash back to now, I did the same thing with this girl (only this girl a lot a whole lot more, I really think we'd be great together), I sent a couple texts after the date... no response from her. I'm tempted to just send out the big question, is she interested or not? Because it seems girls just want to avoid confrontation and hope that the guy gets the message that she's not interested, but it's really hard to tell for us guys so we need clarification.
So anyway, I was wondering if these after-date texts are hurting my chances with these girls, maybe it comes across as too needy or something. And was wondering how soon a person should contact the date after the first date is done.
Right now, my 2 texts are just hanging out there... and those texts were very positive, me telling her how pretty she is, how I had a lot of fun, and want to do it again soon. But no response. I'm feeling the deja'vous... and am afraid that despite the chemistry I felt during the date, she's not interested, like the other girl. Should I just text her the question of whether she is interested or not now or wait until tomorrow or a few more days? I'm tempted to do it... because I just want to know, I hate to be hanging like this, not knowing if I have a potentially awesome relationship in my future or more days filled with loneliness.
What do you think?
And yeah you don't have to say it, I'm pathetic, so any macho guys that come around wanting to tell me to 'be a man' or whatever, just don't even bother, I don't want to hear it. I'm a sensitive person and that's just how it is, I can't help it, it is me.
This is the circumstance that occurred for me today, and a date 1 week ago. That 1 week ago date, I texted her after the date and she didn't respond, I figured she was busy. The next day she still hadn't texted back, so I asked her if she was not interested or something, and she told me in fact she wasn't interested.
Flash back to now, I did the same thing with this girl (only this girl a lot a whole lot more, I really think we'd be great together), I sent a couple texts after the date... no response from her. I'm tempted to just send out the big question, is she interested or not? Because it seems girls just want to avoid confrontation and hope that the guy gets the message that she's not interested, but it's really hard to tell for us guys so we need clarification.
So anyway, I was wondering if these after-date texts are hurting my chances with these girls, maybe it comes across as too needy or something. And was wondering how soon a person should contact the date after the first date is done.
Right now, my 2 texts are just hanging out there... and those texts were very positive, me telling her how pretty she is, how I had a lot of fun, and want to do it again soon. But no response. I'm feeling the deja'vous... and am afraid that despite the chemistry I felt during the date, she's not interested, like the other girl. Should I just text her the question of whether she is interested or not now or wait until tomorrow or a few more days? I'm tempted to do it... because I just want to know, I hate to be hanging like this, not knowing if I have a potentially awesome relationship in my future or more days filled with loneliness.
What do you think?
And yeah you don't have to say it, I'm pathetic, so any macho guys that come around wanting to tell me to 'be a man' or whatever, just don't even bother, I don't want to hear it. I'm a sensitive person and that's just how it is, I can't help it, it is me.
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