Did I do something bad by stop giving this girl attention?

[LucasAA]

So there is this girl from my HS that I met a while ago during a math project, even tho we had not even talked to eachother before this project we got along very well and instantly became good friends, she is a little shy and sometimes introvert so most of the time at school she would just stick around with me, so we were sepending a lot of time together.

So far so good but the thing is, I play volleyball at our school and she would always watch our training/matches (cute, I know) and wait for me so we could hang out after. After a particular match that we lost I was feeling very upset cuz I messed up 3 serves and I told her after that I was feeling like a worthless piece of crap, and she told me quote "You have so much value to me that you could never figure" probably in order to make me feel a Little better who knows.

Late that afternoon I asked her if she really meant what she said earlier, she said yes and that she really saw me as much more than a friend and "in love". I saw her as someone solid and I really trusted and liked her back. So I told her that I felt the same

Imediately after I said this she just... changed she started talking about random other stuff and after 5minutes she told me she had to go home. After this she did not text me or anything and didn't even answer me or my texts

Next day was quite normal but for some reason she avoided what happened before and so I gave her space, but she started to act super weird and started talking all the time about other guys she felt attracted to in order to make me jealous, she also started to treat me very bad overall (even tho she spendt 80% of the time by my side). This went on for 3 days, when I got tired of this and decided she had hurt me enough and I cut her out off and stopped talking to her. She texts me everyday asking for "forgiveness" and saying she "loves" me but I dont answer.
I am really afraid I am doing a mistake, I like her a lot but also don't want to be hurt, what should I do?

[OlderAndWiser]

She is shy, introverted, young, and inexperienced. Folks your age use the word "love" too quickly , because maybe you think that is what you are supposed to say, or maybe because you can't think of anything else to say that expresses affection, so you way "I love you" (or something like that) after two weeks. Then, the next day, you think about what you said, and maybe you feel foolish or embarrassed and you want to crawl into a hole and hide. Does this sound like I'm on the right track so far?

[LucasAA]

Yes I absolutely get it, but I just don't understand why she would change so quickly, as I said, she was always so sweet and caring and suddenly she is trying everything to hurt me and after why she is trying so hard to make me get into her again

[OlderAndWiser]

She felt embarrassed and wanted to escape. Rather than saying that she has said something foolish, she pretends to get angry at you and departs. Once she is away from you, she realizes that she as eliminated something from her life that gave her great pleasure and she wants you back in her life now.

Talk to her and tell her that it is okay that both of you are new to being in a relationship and that there may be awkward moments but it is important to make yourselves talk about such things rather than running from them. That is how you build emotional intimacy.

[sage2021]

This reminds me of a book I read many years ago titled Come closer, go away". This sounds like what your friend is doing. All was okay until the word LOVE was brought into the relationship. Some people when they find the other person (you) getting too close they get scared and may even feel suffocated by you. Then they want some distance from you. Then they start to miss you and want you close again. As soon as that happens again, they want you to go away again to get some space from you. It isn't anything you did to cause I his with her. It's just how some people react when the relationship gets more serious. I am not sure what causes this, but some people just react this way to closeness. I think no matter what you do, it his is how she's going to react to you. You should have a serious talk with her about it, because it cannot continue because she is being hurtful to you. Maybe she just needs some time to adjust to this new level of commitment called love.

[jennifer_bloom]

Reject her. She does not respect you, your time, or your feelings.

[bean2k21]

My opinion is that she felt insecure
After telling you she loved you
And these insecurities manifested themselves
into some odd behavior
This actually happens a lot, even to grown people
Maybe you could ask her to explain her behavior
And she'll just confess that she felt insecure

[LucasAA]

I'll definitively try it, as I said she is very special to me, even as a friend, and if this is the case I'll also do everything that I can to help her through this.

Tysm, have a great day/night your advice was very helpfull

[Gwenhwyfar]

That’s really weird. Tell her you really like her too but you’re not gonna put up with that kinda bullshit.