About a year ago, when he came to visit me, I found the tinder app on his phone.. he was flirting, giving out his number and asking to meet girls. But he denied meeting them or anything else, he was just on it because was bored. He was very apologetic and promised not to do it again..
About 2 months after that, one of my friends found him on Tinder again, he offered to take her out and stuff... I was heartbroken, I was so disgusted and felt so bad about myself... I broke up with him.
After 8 months, we started talking as "Friends" then we eventually got back together, everything was better, he seemed more mature and more responsible.
I went to visit him during spring break, as I used his phone to make a call, a Tinder notification came up on the screen. I was devastated... I confronted him about it, he was embarrassed but he defended himself by saying that he didn't do anything on the app, he was not flirting like he used to do, he just chats here and there when he is bored..
I didn't believe him this time, but I explained to him that having that app on his phone is very disrespectful to me and that I have lost trust in him because of it. I let it slide to not ruin our vacation.. nonetheless, he apologized again for it, and promised again to never ever do it again. I was not very convinced...
Last night, I was thinking about this and got paranoid so I decided to go on Tinder and check if he indeed deleted his account. My heart stopped when his profile popped up, saying that he was last online 35min ago... I couldn't believe it. He still downloaded the app after I left, despite all our conversations, what he went through because of it, and despite how I feel about it... I felt something break inside me. I didn't confront him yet about it. I don't know what to do...
Thank you in advance for your insights.
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This is all bad. The reason he did it over an over again, is because you allowed it. By taking him back every time, and putting mental "band-aids" over the situation you basically told him that it's okay and that he can do whatever the hell he wants. Why? Because you will take him back.
That is someone who knows that they can take advantage of you. That's not a relationship, your his back up. His "sure thing". His emotional rock while he goes out and messes around.
So you can either choose to continue this depressing cycle, cause he's not going to give up this gig any time soon. He's still doing it right now. Or you can walk away from this relationship and find peace in yourself and when it's time find someone better.
Know that you deserve better. Know your worth. Know that your happiness is what matters at the end of the day. Good luck girl. (:
This is awesome advice. I wanna screenshot it haha
Please do (: anytime