You are definitely NOT over reacting...
Maybe if it was just the "nothing on Facebook" thing.. but even then I'd be suspicious if he was so hardliners about it he'd not allow me to put pictures of us on there.
But there is NOT reason why he should be on Tinder. Even if he hasn't cheated or doesn't plan to cheat, he's on there because he wants to chat with other women in a less than innocent manner. At the very least, he want he ego boost from their attention. It's like if he goes out to bars and flirts with other women just to see if he's still got it... it's disrespectful.
There is no wholesome reason to be on Tinder as a guy in a relationship. Combining that with his refusal to allow anything about your relationship on social media and I'm fairly sure he's cheated not you, is cheating on you, or is trying to.
I can't think of any 'innocent' reason to have a Tinder account when in a relationship. I don't think you're overreacting. I would be upset too if I were in your situation. Having that account does not mean he has cheated on you, however, I do believe he may have thought about it and being on Tinder would make it easy for some people to cheat. You should definitely confront him about this and figure out what's going on. You also may not be able to trust him after this which will put a lot of strain on the relationship. It's a terrible situation to be in but, you have to decide what's best for you here. If you can't trust the person you're with, then there's really no reason to be in a relationship.
How would you friend see him on tinder if your boyfriend is not looking for other males. Sounds like he's trying to eat his cake and have it to, be with you but doesn't let anyone no. Facebook status doesn't matter however I would upload some of you two and see what he says.
people are weird about facebook is girls I'm friends with and have know for a couple years and isn't even a single picture of us even as just friends at bar and we talk all the time. but being your actually dating it seems weird he won't put anything up. its also odd he's on tinder , that doesn't sound like he is up to good things there
I don't change my Facebook thing. Means nothing.
Being on Tinder... is something else. If it's an active profile it's a big red flag. I would have thought my old account is on there somewhere... did the friend match with him or just come across him?
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You're not overreacting. Hun, he needs some explaining to do. Otherwise drop his ass!
Well, honestly, I always found these facebook statments pretty stupid.. Never, in any if my relationships, did I put in a relationship or change it to single afterwards or post pictures of us.. it's just none of people's business, I'm also against couples exchanging passwords and all that BS. That doesn't mean the person has anything to hide. Some people just like to keep some privacy.
However, since Tinder IS a dating site, this does ring alarm bells. Why is he even using it?
RUN!
This guy is bad news. He's a cheater and a liar who is thinking only of himself and wants the best of both worlds.
He was on tinder for a reason
I've been here before and tried to make excuses for him, don't make the same mistake. Leave him
You are not overreacting but but you see at face value is true. He's your boyfriend big deal. He's a guy a young guy who would hook up with someone who would find attractive. Did you plan on marrying this guy? That is your naïveté not his
I'm not sure you are overreacting. I think I understand what he means by Facebook relationship. However, if you two were in a serious relationship, he would be happy to at least post pictures of you two. I think you have a right to be concerned here, indeed. Be prepared to leave him, because it seems like he is walking the finest line here in your relationship and possibly will cross it.
Yikes. You're most definitely NOT overreacting. Why haven't you left him yet? Did you talk to him? About how you saw his tinder account. For an explanation
No, not at all. Honestly confront him, and if he over reacts and becomes argumentative then "sadly" kick his ass to the curb.
no you are not overreacting. he's on a dating site what else for? and you aren't an idiot he's an idiot
Nah, that's pretty shady. Unless a couple has made it clear they want an open relationship then no one should have an active dating profile in a committed relationship.
ugh... sounds suspect and like a red flag. Talk to him about it.
Sorry, it kind of sounds like he's playing you :c I think you should move on, try to find someone who appreciates you.
Dump him. Why the hell is he on a dating site when he has a girlfriend. Tinder is a site to hook up. Respect yourself please and leave him.
if you have doubts then address them to him and see what he does to prove it to you
WAY OVER REACTIng
O. O not every guy or girl likes to spam their FB with pics of kissing.
Yo he's on a dating site... He's looking for some other chick you have the right to be upset. Dump his two timing ass
Yes you're overreacting.
And your 'friend' is trying to get with you.
You're not over-reacting. This is cheating. Dump him.
The lies they come up with are lame. Lol dump him now and say its over
No you are not overreacting, act on your doubts confront him.
Message him on Tinder and say hey, see what his reaction is.
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