Have you ever been in a situation where someone goes around telling lies about you because they can’t have you or because you’re done with them?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Of course. This is where Patience will always win.

My ex use to talk crap about me all the time some of the things she would say was just out of line and rude.. we had a lot of the same friends. And they would tell me.. but when you know who you are so does everyone else.. when people tell you about the things she was saying I had to make choice.. my choices were not to say any thing to anybody.

Except to her. And I would tell her I don't care what you say about me to our friends. Because our friends know me. .. and if they believe you and choose not to be my friend because of it.. it's ok it just means they don't or didn't really know me. You can pretend you won a great prize because you think it hurt me. . It doesn't matter to me

But i need to give you heads up on something. When you talk shit about me in front of our son. Or even to our son remember this the truth will always come out.

What your doing is wrong it's selfish. And he's going to grow up to hate you for lying. To him for trying to make him choose sides. And making me in to somebody I'm not.

I'm telling you this because he's not a dummy the truth will come and he won't hear it from me... he will hear it from others.

So for years I just let it go let her do what she was doing my kid would ask me all the time. Dad so what happen is this true is that true.
I would tell him it's not true none of it is. He would beg me to tell hime everything. And I would tell him.

I would but when he was 18. I was just buying time... at 17 he asked me again I Saud when your 18.. I said if you really need to know something go ask your grandparents or your Aunt abd Uncles.. they will tell you.. so that what he. Did and he found out the truth.

One day I get a phone call from my ex Accusing me of telling our son a bunch of lies to make myself look good

She wanted me to come pick him up Because he was out of control , calling her A liar and a bitch

I went and got him I had never seen him that mad .. I walked in he was yelling and he seen me calm down a little and said I'm so sorry dad and she say thank you fior telling our son a bunch of lies about me. My son said it's not going to work mom. .. you kept telling to go ask your dad. Guess what he's 100 times smarter than you.. I have asked him and asked him. He said he couldn't. For one reason I know the reason now. It's for right now this moment. If he would have told me anything you would do what your doing calling him a liar. To make him look bad

He didn't say one word to me about anything. I was told by grandma and grand PA from his aunt. And two uncle s. But used there names

Then he says I hate you mom I fucking hate you he said you don't know the things she has said about you she's a bitch a cunt. I said OK enough... let's go.. don't talk to your mom like that. I got him calm and we left.

So when people tell lies about you what they are truly trying to do to you they are really doing to themselves because people know the truth. And if they don't it will come out

And will come bake to the person that is telling the lies

It just sucks if you have to go through it

You can defend ourself. But why it's not true so I didn't need to say anything or people thinking I was trying to cover it up ... because of. Course the anger or tone of voice I projected would had been loud lol so I let it go knowing one day it would all come out. She lot all the friends that we new even her girl friend her best friend be Patient

Saramad_Hill · Accepted Answer

Kind of, but definitely could've been worse. It's a total lack of maturity, they can't deal with not getting what they wanted, or perhaps like you feel like you're above them or something. It probably lights up the same area in the brain where there's an unexpected development, flight or fight. They need to settle the score. It's too embarrassing.
"I-I didn't have feelings for you anyway, stupid *****!"
People might ask what happened.
"You were so into them. What changed?"
"Let me tell you what changed-- (lies)."

You made them feel like their face is in the mud. So they drag you down as well because they didn't have the emotional maturity to realize that you rejected them because they wouldn't have the full version of you. It would be a disservice to the both of you.
One unfulfilled
One never enough

If you argue with the lies you run the risk of looking defensive. If you act like they have no power, people will wonder why you're not defending yourself, and then you have a chance to explain your side of the story. Anyone who doesn't want your side of the story doesn't care for context and may just side with the Rumor starter because they're also not emotionally self aware, or they have a pre-existing alliance with the Rumor starter. In that case, they were never going to like you anyway.

Maybe make a post once, or tell your trusted friends before the fallout starts. Slander and libel and whatever you want to call it? Words have been sling right alongside rocks since the stone ages.

SabinaV · Accepted Answer

I've seen this done to someone else, I didn't listen because I knew what was going on.

While also on my own experience.

Rule of thumb whether it's someone the person barely knows, an acquaintance or is close to them, never listen because you never know if the intention is well towards the person.

You never know the person is just internally jealous so best to never listen. Especially if you know the person personally.

However it's truly a different case if the person has a reputation. Best to know the situation clear.

abbyjgriffin98 · Accepted Answer

Yes. I had this guy friend at work who had a crush on me. Our mutual friends constantly asked me if I was interested in him. I said, "No," to three different mutual friends. I ended up dating one of our coworkers and that guy friend was not very happy about it. He told my boyfriend at the time that I was sleeping with our supervisor who was in his upper 60's. I stopped associating with him and cut him from all of my social media. I would also be professional when I had to be but I would not consider him a friend, anymore.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the classic tale of envy turning into a game of telephone! My aim here is to help navigate these dramatic, sometimes green-eyed monsters we encounter. It's a bummer when someone can't handle their emotions and decides to spin tales. The best course is to stay classy, focus on positive vibes, and surround yourself with those who see the real you. Remember, in the grand scheme, truth usually wins out! 🌟 Keep shining!

DishLady · Answer

Yeah this past year has been a DOOZIE and before that my ex hubbie tried to spread quite a few nasty rumors to get me fired.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Yeah I’ve had this at least a couple of times and well I just laughed it off when the lies made their way back to me. People can choose to believe whatever they want , if doesn’t mean it’s true. As for the source of the lie , I didn’t approach her or contact her , just ignored it

SotiCoto · Answer

I get people going around telling lies about me for all sorts of reasons, but not generally those two. Usually they go around telling lies about me because they know I hate it and it is their only way at getting back at me for the perceived slight of correcting their grammar or whatever. Basically, people are complete scum.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

If that happened, I'm not aware. But I'm also not going out with women of my circles so there aren't many possibilities for them to unload a cement truck around me lol

Abbycado · Answer

Yes. @circushowcowboy says I’m a bully. I think he has a crush on me.

Shiprex · Answer

When I was starting high school a girl told everyone I was her boyfriend and acted like we were an item. It wasn't and to those who mattered I made it clear this was a myth

queenofcardio · Answer

Yes unfortunately. Completely cut them out of my life.

FreyaRed · Answer

Yes. I don't believe in being friends with exes anymore.

alice55 · Answer

Nope I had worse my own sister spreading lies about me without any reasons

genericname85 · Answer

no i haven't. but i would absolutely not be concerned about it. people aren't dumb. those who know me, know she's lying.

Jupiter1 · Answer

Several people have been doing that but the people they’re telling like to tell me that they don’t believe the lies. I just laugh loudly while saying that those liars can’t move on with their lives.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I have been there! It was extremely uncomfortable.

Jay-_- · Answer

Yes it has happened good thing those people she told were my friends lol

Sam1133 · Answer

Oh yes I have many fans I let them bark It's always fun listen to the lies when you know the truth..💀

nawtee_me · Answer

Yes, it seems that some people just can’t let go because of a bruised ego and need to look like the good guy by making you look like the bad guy….

Still-alive · Answer

yup on this site even. i just mass blocked people who believe those lies.

qwerty2469 · Answer

No. They told the truth. Im a terrible person and a narcissistic sociopath. What a bag she fumbled. Stupid bitch.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yep and the sad thing was she was married that's why I'll never deal with a married woman ever again it was a disaster

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, but her word was never that good to begin with. While I on the other hand am very trustworthy. So I didn't really worry about it.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Oh many times and it's usually about my tiny cock, which isn't by the way..

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

Ya, but I don't have any plans for this one because I know the truth

Anonymous · Answer

Yep and part truth never the full story of what really happened

exitseven · Answer

No, it has never happened.

biraileeşkadını · Answer

They have no qualities other than their gossip.

Kelly6 · Answer

@liaraven happened lot of time with me

Pterodon · Answer

Yes I have and nothing can be done about it

Anonymous · Answer

No, it's because of some other reason.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Oh yes. Even here.

contentious · Answer

Yep.

eagle1951 · Answer

lol been there

WhitneySnow · Answer

Thankfully no

WonderingManII · Answer

No never.

Blackcat1952 · Answer

Not yet my pet

melis765 · Answer

Yessss

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