How do you handle people that spread lies about you?

Question

Even if you said that is not true, they still remain to believe the lie. What would you do? Fight or just leave it and let them believe whatever they want? And keep it moving? What is your take on this.

BobbieBoy666 · Accepted Answer

When dealing with someone who spreads lies about you, a calm and strategic approach is often the most effective. Instead of getting defensive or reacting emotionally, consider a few options: first, try to address the situation directly with the person spreading the lies, according to Quora and explain your side of the story. If that doesn't work, consider limiting your contact with that person, especially if the lying continues. You can also take steps to correct the misinformation by addressing it with others who may be affected by it.
Here's a more detailed breakdown:
Address the situation directly (if possible):
Have a calm conversation with the person spreading the lies. Explain your perspective and the truth of the matter.
Limit contact if needed:
If the person continues to spread lies, limit your interactions with them.
Correct misinformation:
If the lies are affecting your reputation or relationships, take steps to correct the record. This could involve talking to others, posting a clarification, or even seeking legal advice.
Protect your reputation:
Consider your options for protecting your reputation, which may include sending a cease-and-desist letter if the defamation is serious.
Focus on your values and actions:
Living in alignment with your values can help counter the negative impact of false rumors.
Ignore the negativity:
Sometimes, the best response is to simply ignore the negativity and focus on your own actions and goals.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Just ignore them and exempt them from your life
, act like they don’t exist , block them and ignore them as much as possible surround yourself with friends that do believe you and know you are
Telling the truth. Eventually those lying assholes will give up and move on as well, if you ever run into any of them just ignore them , unless they get up on your face If they get up in your face Knock them the fuck out lol

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

I literally just ignore it. Once in highschool somehow some girl who didn’t like me said someone said this about me “ “ you know, blah blah blah, but me as a person overall, was super immune to gossip and least likely to get swept up into drama. Very neutral kind of person. So when she said I was just amused and then forgot about it.

My reaction was like: “oh really? Wow…” maybe even added “that’s odd.” And ignored it 😂

I never let such trivial things bother me. Especially not HIGH SCHOOLERS. It bothered other ladies who became topic of drama and fallacies, like even having some kind of break down, but I just couldn’t relate all that much. It’s just words. People will always see for themselves what people are like and capable of. Etc. etc.

Account · Accepted Answer

I am completely indifferent. I have nothing to prove to anyone.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If you get down to wrestle with pigs, you get up covered with mud.

I had that experience about five years ago. It was my sister. I simply did everything I could to exclude her from my life. I did not attend events which she would attend, blocked her on all media, and never spoke to her. My silence was not a means of punishing her, but just a way to protect myself. She died last month and never reconciled.

Levin · Answer

I think the answer to this is context specific.

But I know in a work environment I think you should challenge that person and then bring it up directly with recipients of that information and the boss.

In my job there's a lot of slagging people off, for example one staff member said another wasn't pulling his weight, without foundation. The problem with that is if you throw some mud, it sticks. So he dealt with it in the right way, by going to the boss and explaining that this kind of character assassination is not acceptable.

DishLady · Answer

Good question. It depends: Some people are only fleeting individuals in your life. Block them and move on. If someone asks about the lie that person told, shut it down and just say that person is confused. Period. Don't tug at the thread and unravel the sweater. Other people are around you all the time and lying. Those should be pulled aside for a chat. Give them one second chance. If they persist with the lies and dishonesty then cut them off.

HarveyLaw · Answer

My answer is being myself. Those who truly know me will know how to separate the false words from the actual me. Those who don't, would hear to my actions, which speak louder.

If I can and think it would be worth doing it, I may have a direct talk to the "lies spreader" and ask them to stop it.

If this could harm me in some more serious way, I would look for my lawyer.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

No bother. I live and function with a high degree of integrity. I have need in my life neither people who start rumors nor people who would believe falsehoods about me without talking to me first. Video games are much more satisfying when i feel compelled to be childish and unproductive.

MrChinaski · Answer

Avoid, avoid, avoid, avoid... and if that doesn't work then avoid.

If it gets to the point that it damages your economic wellbeing, then you may have reason for a slander suit. That would be something to receive legal advice.

Otherwise, consider leaving the environment. There are bad people and there is no way for you to make them into good people.

Just one opinion

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Only ever had this problem once. A guy. What he didn’t know was that the people he was trying to turn against me - other women - knew my character very well and filled me in on what this guy was doing. I just let him continue and just distanced myself from him. End of problem.

Anonymous · Answer

I could do a couple things. I’d either ignore it. Or I could go w the flow by asking, “what did I do this time? I didn’t get the full story.”

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Get the truth out to the extent I even know what's happening. I've had times when people are saying foul stuff about me, and no one even tells me what's being said.

KateCrombie · Answer

I don’t think there’s any point giving clarification or something when it’s a lie… people who truly love you wouldn’t believe in those lies

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Simply ignore it. I had lots of pathetic people do this to me in life and you don't need to defend yourself to them as the people who are real, genuine and know you know it's bs already or will at least have the respect to ask you about it to your face.

Another thing I like to do is just go along with it and even extend the lie to make it so unbelievable people realise how stupid of a rumour it is

Lucy68 · Answer

As someone who has always had lies spread about me, you just eventually learn to ignore it honestly. The only person that knows the real you is you and honestly that should matter because at the end of the day, you are your own family, your own best friend, your own lover, your own everything.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

An individual character is build based on honesty and trust. It’s easy to read someone’s true color….

if you are truly one who shows that… people will know…

if those trust lies… you wouldn’t want to be involved with them.
so which are you?

Simslover92 · Answer

In my mind, kick them in the face but in reality just leave it be. I've had coworkers lie on me in my past job and I just had to let it be. But I left so I am much happier now.

WonderingManII · Answer

It happened to me during my freshman year in High School. There was nothing I could do about it. Some girls called my house cause of it. But a slumber party of girls on a phone line is too difficult to explain anything too.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't care.

If you're willing to take someone else's word rather than coming to the me then I have no respect for you.

Anyone can think anything they want of me for any reason they want to think of me that way. Those people who MATTER know me. And those are the ONLY opinions I care about. 👍

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I feed them -indirectly- with wrong information and let them circulate it. They will.

And later they embarrass themselves.

Once they are discredited, I ridicule them - and onwards they can speak whatever they want.

melnc · Answer

I handle their nonsense with a laugh cause whoever spreads lies about me probably got their own issues.

Anonymous · Answer

Protect your peace. If you’ve told the truth and they still choose lies, don’t fight—just distance yourself and let actions speak louder than gossip. People who matter will see the truth over time. Keep moving forward.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Ignore it. The people that matter to me know the truth, and that is all that really counts.

Altheavas · Answer

Let them, they have time. Their life must be boring at least yours can entertain them, and bring them some joy!

lorenzomichael · Answer

I don’t because I don’t give a fuck about what people might say about me. Besides there are more people that know me and what I’m about than those that don’t know me at all. And for the ones that think they do. They can just go fuck themselves.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I can only control me. If they want to lie, I can’t stop that.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Direct confrontation. Immediately. First time. Every time.

Luopio27 · Answer

There are no winners in reputation wars. If someone is spreading false info of you that can be proven wrong in court, you can sue him/her for defamation.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

The burden of proof is on the person making the claim. I'd call them out for being full if shit and demand they prove otherwise. If they can't, I consider that me winning, and go on about my day.

SotiCoto · Answer

Very aggressively.  Unfortunately most of them are on the Internet and not within reach, so I can't physically fucking murder them.

BDRick · Answer

I more or less just accept it as a thing because it ain’t true otherwise.  If it’s life altering, it’s different. In that case, I fight instead of flight.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Ignore it. People will figure it out based on your actions, not reactions.

glennos89 · Answer

Fuck them. Let them think what they want to think dont waste your time on that shit and just move on

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I don't deal with them. I learned a long time ago that people will talk about you I don't care what the say. I Keep my circle small

AviatorTom · Answer

I ignore them. People like that are usually looking for a reaction, and when they don't get one, they go away.

KylieKitten · Answer

I cut toxic people out of my life and the important people to me won't believe lies.

wkhan_87 · Answer

Sometimes I can't control on my anger on such lier people

Anonymous · Answer

I don't have political, economical or some other power to handle them, so I don't (yet).

Xalooo · Answer

I would talk first, if it continues I will beat it

zagor · Answer

Usually I haven't found out until long after the fact so there wasn't much to do about it.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on what was said What lies were said?

DianaV · Answer

I would shoot him in the balls, cut his dick off and shove it down his throat. It was self defense your honor.

Anonymous · Answer

Cut them off. Anyone who believes them can also be cut. Intelligent people would see through them, the stupids are irrelevant.

Pohjolan · Answer

Tell them that it's BS to their face.

Jeff51 · Answer

I don't know. This site is full of them.

David318578 · Answer

They are some of my best friends!

jahaims · Answer

Why would I care?

Godihateyou · Answer

I dont. Nobody believes them.

exitseven · Answer

Hopefully they are good lies.

Anonymous · Answer

Why would someone try to spread lies about me? 🙄

Anonymous · Answer

Karma does not like petty people.

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

what should i do? js ignore them

Stella1 · Answer

Just leave.

Dongie · Answer

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