Girlfriend FB messaging other guys?

[skullcandy]

So yeah, I've been dating this really hot girl for like 3 months. few things about her. she tells me she never has and never will cheat on anyone. she is very insecure but gets along with guys more than girls. well everything's been OK. she does talk to a lot of guys but she seems to talk to them like friends and nothing else. a lot of guys add her on FB to see her pictures and she always messages them asking who they are, and they usually befriend each other even though they've never met IRL.

I know this because she logged onto her FB on my computer and left it logged in, so I read her messages sometimes. I wouldn't but I don't really trust her despite all she's told me.

Well, a guy recently friended her and they did the same thing on FB. She asked him who he was, they attended the same school together but didn't know who each other were. Well the guy said "hey, I know you have a boyfriend, and I wouldn't wanna jeopardize your relationship, but can I have your number?" they both exchanged numbers, and he wanted her to visit him at work and he'd treat her to a coffee. She didn't say anything back on FB. I assumed she just texted him, but I doubt she'd go all the way to where he is Because she can't afford all the gas.

Well just today he messaged her and said "hey, should I text you or surprise you when I show up to visit you? he knows where she works I guess because she told him. he ended the message saying "Send me a message and let me know. Sweet dreams, hun. Goodnight! <3" she hasn't responded yet, but I don't know what to think of this. I guess I'll wait out the response. this really sucks though. she always says how much she likes me and misses me and basically pours her heart out to me. I do everything for her. what should I do people?

[ilovemyjose101]

That sounds really fishy..

especially the last part. In a committed relationship

with a man I would never another guy talk to me like that.

And I wouldn't let him take me out to coffee or visit me at work either. lol

[slipslender]

you don't trust her one whit... find someone more suitable for you.

[Shaun]

So you don't have a problem with her behavior?

[skullcandy]

i don't want to :( she's my first girlfriend. I get so depressed when I don't see her

[skullcandy]

and I do have a problem with her behavior, but I want to work it out.

[Voltaire]

If you don't trust her, it's not going to last very long anyway. If the foundation's cracked, it's only a matter of time before a building crumbles.

[skullcandy]

well, this is my first girlfriend. I don't know what to do. she seems serious about it, but then this sh*t happened. I doubt I'd every find someone else this commited besides this

[PHILR]

if she's doing all the things your saying it doesn't sound like she's as committed as you think she is.

[Quadrophonic84]

Are you two in a committed "boyfriend/girlfriend" situation?

[skullcandy]

yes

[Quadrophonic84]

Dump her. Print out the message, hand it to her, say "get your sh*t and get out" if she has stuff at your place.

[skullcandy]

I really don't want to do that. She tells me that guys all hit on her and if she wasn't in our relationship 100% she wouldn't waste either of our times. She says that she's been cheated on and wouldn't let that happen to me

[PHILR]

then you need to tell her that all these extra messages // meetings for coffee or other guys visiting at her work place and not saying anything to you about any of it makes it seem very different than what she's saying or telling you. as one of the other guys says print outr yhe text message and ask her to explain and why she never said anything about the other messages to and from this guy. if she can't give a reasonable explaination. it makes it seem as though she is cheating.

[Shaun]

Exchanging contact information is cheating.

[skullcandy]

i guess so, but she does it to everyone. she just likes attention

[Shaun]

Your call, I wouldn't put up with it. Harmless flirting is one thing, exchanging contact info and clandestine meetings crosses the line. IMO

[Anonymous]

why did she give him her number?