My boyfriend has been messaging another girl on facebook what should I do?

[nursegirl25]

I've been dating this guy for over a year and i just recently found out he has been messaging another girl on facebook. I wasn't snooping. What happened was he was using my tablet and didn't log off or close his message page and when i clicked on the internet his message page popped up and i read it. Him and this girl has been sending dirty pictures to each other and talking back in forth. he has been telling her what he wants to do to her. she knows he has a girlfriend because she asked well what about your girlfriend? He says well it dont matter who im in a relationship with if we get the chance to finish what we started year's ago im taking the risk. I just dont know what to do. obviously im going to confront him. I think i should break up with him. He may have not have cheated on me physically but she clearly states he would if he got the chance. Any advice on what I should do. (sorry for the typos in just so mad and upset right now)

[Anonymous]

Oh no, that must be devastating. I've had something similar happen to me about ten years ago. Seeing those messages he sent to other women made me sick to my stomach. I spent weeks and months wandering around like a zombie, lost a ton of weight and felt like I couldn't trust anyone anymore. The thing went (the messaging other girls, I mean) went on for a really long time. Suddenly everything he ever told me seemed like a lie.

I think you should break up with him. He may not have physically cheated, but he exchanged several messages and pictures with a woman. I don't know if a one night stand with some random woman wouldn't have been "less bad".

Don't believe his excuses, because he will make up excuses. He might even end up blaming you for whatever reasons, dishonest people, liars and cheaters like to do that. Try to be with people who care about you and tell them about it. I was so ashamed back then that I couldn't really talk about it because I felt like such a fool. Now I wish I had opened up to my friends/family right from the start because it would have helped a lot.

[Amyb90]

I'm so sorry :(
I've had a similar thing happen to me
You're obviously in the initial shock stage. Breaking up will be hard but it's easiest if you make it quick.
Organise to see your best friends or people who care about you and have a night of distractions, or even chilling by yourself.
When the shock is over you'll be upset and angry, but remind yourself that you have done nothing wrong, and losing someone who was willing to hurt you for selfish reasons is no loss but a gain.
As time goes on you'll be happy with your decision and will be a stronger person for it. Stay positive

[Rcjh1987]

While you say your breaking up with him, tell him the next time your setting up cheating make sure you log out of your Facebook messages.. Your stuff will be outside tomorrow morning, if it's not picked up I'll assume that you don't want it, and will be dispossed of. See now you won't have to worry about cheating because your now single.

[beesod]

I'm sorry to hear that he has been doing this, its very sad and is a bad reflection of him as a person and this girl too. It has nothing to do with you, or you doing anything wrong.

I would definitely break up with him about it. You don't even have to go into details with him, he will know why when you declare it. He doesn't deserve the chance to explain or redeem himself. After all, the hurt has already happened and he already crossed that line. So what if its "just online", it doesn't make the betrayal of trust any less.

[NorCalMan]

Get rid of that scum bag! Obviously he's a two timing b**** who wants more, is insecure about himself, or just thinks he can do whatever he wants. If he hasn't done anything already, or even if you guys get past this, it's bound to happen again in the future. In my opinion there's no good that can come out of this and if you've been honest and good to him then you deserve someone who treats you with the same respect. Good luck. Don't be nasty about it and just know your better then he is and hold your head high. What a low life!

[muspelhem_5]

I would definitely confront him and get to the bottom of why he went behind your back like that and puts sex with her above honesty with you. It's up to you what to do, but his behavior sounds immature to me.

[muspelhem_5]

And selfish.

[forgottenmonkey]

Well that is cheating so break up with him I have been there and I know you want to make excuses and say it wasn't but it was cheating and you should dump him and move on.

[lostgirl_searching]

Honestly that is cheating and you should leave him

[akadatank44]

To me that's cheating. I would end it with him.