How would you handle a partners different family environment?

Question

I come from a very tight family with a odd sense of humor, and my guy comes from one that is very serious and never seem to relax around each other.

I feel my uncle calling me fat or me playing pranks on my cousin's makes him uncomfortable.

What would you do?

MannMitAntworten · Accepted Answer

Ask you about it. If you said roll with it, I’d roll with it. If you said, roll their heads, I’d grab a shovel to bury the evidence.

Anpu23 · Accepted Answer

Just tell him "when in Rome..."

Finchie40 · Answer

Families can be tough considering we are all fucked up and for the most part we all come from a family of nuts , all that matters is you and your partner have each other’s back and put each other before your families , As long as you both make each other your number 1 priority is all that matters , it only gets bad if a partner chooses their family over you and vice versa , Someone that loves and cares for you will understand why you don’t like someone in their family as long as you don’t hold it against them and show them that you still love them they should be taking your side , My exes family loved me more then they loved my ex , she can’t stand it but she never really cared for my family and I saw her point of view and I accepted it even though I differed I didn’t hold it against her , in laws can be hell period

TangBang69 · Answer

How about what I would not do, stop being myself or be confined to behavior outside of what comes natural , especially with a SO as it opens the door for manipulation or demanding , control issues. Most people would rather do as they wish and what they like , not what the other likes or takes interest in so advantage is usually taken of opportunity to do such interests. Few are willing to balance compromises & scarifices it takes to become one. If bein with you is what he wants to be doin then he is oftenly gonna have to like what you like to be doin without it becoming argument or pouting or stewing, if there is issue , the first step for him is to speak it.
Perhaps he could also be bashfully uncertain of how to act, speak his presence with your Uncle and fam to gain acceptance/?

AndrewMG · Answer

Oh it's one of my few talents, I come from a large family that is so neurotic the only way we can show affection is by taking the p1ss out of each other or joking around. I noticed at a young age that not every family works on this basis so I can also turn on the charm when needed... though my natural setting is to have a laugh lol

PrettyPriya · Answer

Maybe try to get him involved in the humour? Ease him into it slowly?

zagor · Answer

Tell him not to take such things too seriously. I'm used to situations, family and otherwise, where people give each other shit about things, and joke about their own foibles. Usually at work I quickly determine who you can joke with and who is rigid. A couple times I misjudged and caught crap for it.

msc545 · Answer

If you just keep him away from your family instead of trying to get him to acclimate the things that make him really uncomfortable. He's probably afraid of the way won't tell you so that he will become a target for their teasing and harassment as well

loves2learn · Answer

Just talk to him about it. Warn him what to expect. Tell him how he should act around your relatives. I am sure he is just like a deer in the headlights and doesn’t know what to do.

Agape93 · Answer

Like how would we handle living their childhood? Or how we'd handle being around the family? Groggy at the moment

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Unless you're pregnant your uncle calling you fat is indeed a rare joke towards a woman!
I don't think there's much you can do but hope he gets used to you!
What a happy family of weirdos you must have!

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I would have to learn to ignore the stuff said that is mean, I had Uncles from both sides of our family who were sarcastic and would say hurtful stuff

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