Why do people think it’s ok to be racist towards me?

[Anonymous]

I have had a number of friends, and a lot of them have been racist towards me because I’m half Asian but look mostly white. One friend said guys only like me when they “have a fetish for Asians”, another friend said I didn’t deserve to get hired at my job and they only hired me “because I’m Asian and they needed diversity”, and another friend said “Asians are ugly” right to my face and keeps saying I’m “pretty but Asian.” Just to clarify, I’ve never seen these people be racist towards anyone else in our friend group who’s black, Indian, etc. Why do people think it’s ok to be racist towards me and not other people?

[dustybiker]

Are you allowing them to say these thing or are you standing up for yourself? If they are your friends you should be able to check them. Tell them how it makes you feel.

[StrawberryShake]

Ok, none of those people are your friends. They are disgusting. They probably won't ever grow up. Lucky for you, eastern Asian people are beautiful so you are quite lucky.

[madgoat]

Perhaps because you're a mix. They feel they can be more open with you. Doesn't sound like anything too much to worry about really.

[Anonymous]

White women hate Asian women for their natural beauty and the attention they get from men.

[Asker]

Including mixed race women then?

[Snowman84]

Hate towards Asian people increased dramatically during the pandemic and it seems to be sticking around sadly. I’m sorry you’re having these negative experiences, I hope you can get these awful people out of your life.

[PrettyPriya]

These are not what I would call friends as other users have mentioned.

[EmmaMary]

I most certainly would not be calling them "friends" if they were making such comments to me.

[Wise4myage]

Are you calling them out when that happens?

[Asker]

Yes, I say that’s rude but they say to lighten up. It’s so ridiculous

[Wise4myage]

Good, keep doing that and think about finding some new friends too.

[MotorcycleMan]

Because they are ignorant, racist little children.

[boggboss]

Sounds like u surround yourself with shit people

[Mynameisbobby]

You need to hang out with better people

[888theGreat]

I like Asians , so lets see you

[Asker]

No thanks, I’ve been told I look like Olivia munn though

[888theGreat]

dont know her

[Anonymous]

Cause you allow them to

[PuNishant]

People are asshole