Is it normal that my oldest daughter accused me of competing with her for her younger siblings affections and ruining their relationship?

[Jessicarabbit45]

I don't like that she buys them presents when she visits and told them they could not have them. She is now not speaking to me because I was telling them not to eat her stuff because we are all on a gluten free diet. they were rude and mean to her she asked them why and she said it's because I told them to. I didn't say that but she doesn't believe me because I have trashed her to them in the past. She seemed really hurt and said she can't believe I would stoop that low.

Totally normal

I am a bipolar bitch or a narcissist (daughter said that)

[Anonymous]

Should have let them enjoy the gifts/food once and then talk to the older daughter separately to not do that. But at least the consequence all fell on you, so you already made up for it that way.
The matter is that since controlling diet or gifts to that extent doesn't seem reasonable to some people, you need to ask them in a nice and respectful way from the start to get an agreeable response. Now that that window closed, there's no easy solution since both parties made one mistake or another and are at odds for the time being.
I didn't vote.

[Jessicarabbit45]

I want her to know whose boss so I said it was ok but then she didn't clean the kitchen counter up so I didn't let them have it

[Anonymous]

Not normal