Do you like your work more than your family?

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

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This question is to not judge you, but to make you question yourself regarding this.

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Thank you everybody. So it is mostly the same. Family over work. A fine balance needs to be maintained. Or things can go south. Thank you again for voicing your opinions. Will be extremely difficult for me to choose the MHOs.
This question came to my yesterday and wrote it down. Guessed would be an enlightening question for us all.
Thank you again. Really appreciate it.

[HighlyVolatile]

"Like" is ambiguous here to me. I've put a ton of work into my career. I started at the early age of 7. I got the edge. I'm a recognized name in my little field.

But I'll throw it all away if I had to choose for my family, especially my wife. Whatever, I'll become a hunter or fisherman or something. I don't operate by things like laws anyway. They're optional things to me. It might even be an adventure of sorts.

Yet I got much more training and expertise in my career. I can count myself among the world's greatest there. I can't so much as a husband. I'm pretty sure I'm far from one of the world's greatest husbands. But I would rather be a great husband if I can only choose one.

[HighlyVolatile]

One thing that's tricky for me with a question like this is that I don't know if I'd be a good husband without my career. I think everyone who isn't in similar shoes will form the wrong impression of what I just said. My career is an integral part of me. I love my career. I'm committed to it the way I am to my wife. My wife is better but I'm committed to both; I married both if you will, and I married my career before my wife. It's not so simple to choose this way but if one has to die and the other gets to live, then I'm definitely going to let my career die so that my wife may live.

[willyppah]

I feel you and you’re totally right.
I’m not great in my field because first of all I never get the chance to study what i love because education is expensive as i was always struggling financially and need to help my family even little.
So i just work here and there and once people at work start bringing problems to me I quit and find another job 🤷.
I wanted to make my own family at least ten years ago but never succeeded because I’m poor and no one accept me.
So, of course I value family more than work. But I really love what I do, this is what I learned through life experience, if I don’t love my job means I’m not good for it meaning I have to quit it, as well my religion Islam taught me to always do my job properly (that’s including study or anything I do during the day) I must do it as good as possible with a pleasure to doing not doing it forcefully like an order 🤷.
But Family always comes first, because we work for family, we suffer for family we go through hardships and humiliation for family… whoever values work more than family is going to lose everything one day and no one would care for him but will only care for his success and money.

[HighlyVolatile]

@willyppah There's an ambiguity as I see it in terms of what we put first because we can put one first in order to put the other one first!

[willyppah]

@HighlyVolatile I don’t see any ambiguity, rather I see it as one is priority (which is family for me) the second is just a tool to take care of my priority, meanwhile whether it’s family or work or anything we do we should do it properly as it is a responsibility on our shoulders, and doing a job properly doesn’t mean to do more than what you can and doesn’t mean to do others jobs. For family I quit the job that stresses me, but I would never leave my family for money or job

[Jamie05rhs]

Women create this trap for themselves. It's all their own fault. Because they want to marry a man who is passionate about his work, and they also want to marry a man with a "stable career" who makes a lot of money. Well, guess what, ladies? If that is what is a priority in your man's life, then that is what is going to remain as his priority. So you're going to have to accept that. So quit bitching and let him do his thing. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

[Anonymous]

I don't work. Not yet at least but my father, boyfriend and his father always gave their work more importance than family. I've seen families talk, laugh and enjoy their life well but I just never got chance to be so happy with people. Not as child not as a girlfriend so with my personal experience as a daughter and girlfriend of someone so busy and workaholic. I would definitely give more importance to my family and loved once. So they don't feel unloved or abandoned like me.

[TheRealSalami]

Nah fam. Your family should be more important than your work.. 100%. If you like work more, there's a problem there LMAO. Okay, but frfr, in my opinion, work shouldn't be prioritized over your family. At the end of the day, you could lose your jov, but you can't lose your blood-relatives. Well you can but they're always there ykykyk. Ok. Bye.

[OneNineZero]

I dont have a family
I dont want a family
I own a law firm
I dont like what I do but it pays good money so I just earn the money spend it on little things and get going

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Congratulations sir! You own a law firm!

[NathanDavis]

no... lol

but, I do work with the family business

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Lucky man!

[OlderAndWiser]

I am not married and I have no children. I am not close to my siblings but I am close to my mother, who is 91 years old. I love my job and I love the volunteer work that I do.

[OlderAndWiser]

Response to update: "Or things can go south." I am a Southerner and I would say "or things can go North."

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

😅 I heard it in movies, so I deduced that it must take reference from the compass. Always pointing north.

[OlderAndWiser]

Indeed that may be the reference but I always joke about things going north! :) :) :)

[Tiptoetamm]

I like my job don't get me wrong I have a great boss and I'm lucky, but my family comes first

[KrisPW]

I work FOR my family. To provide for myself and not be a burden, and to help make our home better for us. But if push comes to shove and it's better for my family to quit work, then work will be gone.

[Williams28Jao]

No. Work is something you do so you can provide an income for your family so you will be able to enjoy your time with them. Family will always be my number 1 importance.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I adore my family.. but work? Yuk.

In fact, if I could find a job to pay the bills whilst I went out playing sport all day? I'd pick that!

[Account]

My family comes first in everything. I was raised by good human beings. I was lucky in that aspect.

[Sirenboobzilla]

I love my job; it challenges my near ADHD brain and keeps me focused. But nothing trumps my family.

[VaguelyAsianLisbeth]

Yes, unfortunately I don't have a good relationship with my family. My work brings me a lot of joy.

[exitseven]

No, I am not nearly invested in my job as I am with my family.

[OddBeMe]

More than my wife? No. My extended family? Hell yes.

[Shiningtempest]

@the_shadow_dweller I tend to like my friends & my younger brothers over my work.

[Kingofkings1992]

No, but they’re almost like a second family of sorts.

[Dinklex3]

Family all day every day.

[andreasderjuengere]

My family likes my work the same way as me.

[TrillXHippy]

That really is stupid

[rosemary170]

I put my family before anything else, so no.

[EmmaMary]

No, absolutely not.

[Agape93]

Work by far

[Iron_Man]

No that’s crazy

[Babygirl_S]

Of course not.

[Rendomlikua]

No...

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Of course not.