Why do I see everyone different from me and my feelings?

[kevypa]

Most times I feel like even my friends don't understand me

[HighlyVolatile]

Are you on the shy, reserved, or highly agreeable side? You don't tend to get to know people very much if you are any one of these, and they don't get to know you very much.

You might be a bit odd (I think I am too) but if you feel constantly misunderstood, that's something that can be improved upon through your communication skills and summoning a more assertive side of you that isn't afraid to say what you truly think even if it seems a bit risky.

Sometimes you have to be willing to lose friends in order to make the best ones. The less afraid you become to express who you really are, the more you tend to divide people into people who love you and people who hate you. It tends to make people feel more strongly about you the more you unleash yourself on the world. Yet if you can handle the haters you'll inevitably get doing that, you'll find some of your truest friends who most understand you.

[HighlyVolatile]

One thing also is that no one perfectly understands anyone. Sometimes I even wonder if we're capable of perfectly understanding ourselves even though we can read our own minds. Human beings are extremely complicated!

I don't even think I perfectly understand my wife of close to 12 years, or that she perfectly understands me. We do understand a great deal about each other, and can often complete each other's sentences these days with a laugh. Yet we can't read each other's minds, and I prefer it that way. If we understood each other perfectly, that would probably become a bit dull and make it so we can never pleasantly surprise each other with what we say or do.

So I don't think we should make our goal in life to be perfectly understood. I think a more productive goal is to make it about getting along with people we value, and for the ones we love, we have an entire lifetime ahead of us to further develop our mutual understanding of each other.

[Anonymous]

Maybe its because you are different, and their is nothing wrong with.

[kevypa]

Buh most times this really spoils relationships

[Opinion Owner]

Well, than perhaps you need to make some changes.

[kevypa]

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