So I'm 27 my dad is 69. We don't get along because my dad is a narcissist (was diagnosed from a professional). I don't like being around my dad.
We have a lot of bad blood and a lot of resentment from endless fights for years. I've been talking to a therapist and she told me that my dad is manipulative, controlling, he has no regard to boundaries and he gaslights all the time.
Knowing that he does those things I basically don't let him step all over me and try to force me to do things I don't want to do.
We mainly have fights about my dad trying to force me to cook meals for him. (I am not against making meals for my future husband).
But I dont want to make food for my dad. I feel like I'm his wife, it's not a healthy environment and he isn't even grateful when I do make him food.
Looking a gift horse in the mouth basically. I live with him and my older brothers. I contribute around the house by cleaning.
And because I'm a woman he tries to force me to make him meals when everyone else including me make our own meals. Like I'm vegetarian so I can only eat certain things so obviously I make my own meals.
He doesn't force my brothers to cook, only me. He tells me things like I'm not mature enough, I can't go through life with that kind of attitude.
I call him out on being manipulative, controlling and not having respect for boundaries.
I'll tell you something crazy. My older brother who is 32 is sleeping with my dad in bed (nothing sexual of course).
Because my dad's sister died recently and he was grieving. He couldn't sleep by himself so he basically forced my older brother to sleep with him in the bed for two months until I finally said something and forced my dad to let my brother to sleep in his bedroom.
My dad threatened to throw me out of the house. And I said, "Well the deed is in my name..." I would never throw my father out. I'm not that type of person. But as soon as I said that my dad immediately held a grudge against me. Am I crazy?
We have a lot of bad blood and a lot of resentment from endless fights for years. I've been talking to a therapist and she told me that my dad is manipulative, controlling, he has no regard to boundaries and he gaslights all the time.
Knowing that he does those things I basically don't let him step all over me and try to force me to do things I don't want to do.
We mainly have fights about my dad trying to force me to cook meals for him. (I am not against making meals for my future husband).
But I dont want to make food for my dad. I feel like I'm his wife, it's not a healthy environment and he isn't even grateful when I do make him food.
Looking a gift horse in the mouth basically. I live with him and my older brothers. I contribute around the house by cleaning.
And because I'm a woman he tries to force me to make him meals when everyone else including me make our own meals. Like I'm vegetarian so I can only eat certain things so obviously I make my own meals.
He doesn't force my brothers to cook, only me. He tells me things like I'm not mature enough, I can't go through life with that kind of attitude.
I call him out on being manipulative, controlling and not having respect for boundaries.
I'll tell you something crazy. My older brother who is 32 is sleeping with my dad in bed (nothing sexual of course).
Because my dad's sister died recently and he was grieving. He couldn't sleep by himself so he basically forced my older brother to sleep with him in the bed for two months until I finally said something and forced my dad to let my brother to sleep in his bedroom.
My dad threatened to throw me out of the house. And I said, "Well the deed is in my name..." I would never throw my father out. I'm not that type of person. But as soon as I said that my dad immediately held a grudge against me. Am I crazy?
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