Is favoritism normal for step-parents?

[Anonymous]

I've been lived with my stepmom and two step-sisters for years. My stepmother used to favor her own daughters and she wouldn't care about me. My stepsisters had a lot of clothes, I had a few. They used to go to private school by bus, I went to public school on foot. They used to get pocket money from my stepmother every day, I didn't. They had their own room, I didn't have. In the so-called work section of the house, they would only clean their room and I would clean the whole house. My stepmom used to call her daughters 'baby, honey', and she called me just 'you'. Shortly, my step-sisters were like royalty at home and I was like the lower class. Do you think this favoritism is an instinct?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

As a man, hope you’ll never marry a woman who won’t love your child.

Some men are blind, as long as they get f**ked they don’t care about anything else.

Like, I know a man, who had 2 children and 2 step-children and he left his inheritance to the step-children just to make his second wife feel good and the wife treated him like sh*t.

Can’t help but think, some men can be really silly, how can a woman control you so much for you to forget your own children? l

I really can’t get it…

And for me, if I’d marry a man with a child, I would like to think I’d be decent enough to make her feel loved the same way as my own children and don’t treat her like a cinderella is treated.

And I am sorry you felt less important and less loved… You are not less important than anyone else.

[TrueConfection]

I think there are several possibilities. I have found that there are parents with favorites and I don't think it's something they have control over. However, not all parents are this way. I imagine it's more so with stepparents.

[Anonymous]

Yes I do. I speak from personal first hand experience. Their child was the golden child and I was the kid from the other family.

I don’t think that women can really love non-biological children to the same degree or depth than they will adopted or step children. Obviously if you only have one adopted child or a family of adoptees you love them, but your own child, your genetic offspring, they treat them different. I think this is just biological.

[exitseven]

Do you think that Cinderella was just a tale? It had to come from someplace. Sorry you had to deal with this.

[Asker]

The only difference from Cinderella is that I am a boy.

[exitseven]

Yes, but it is still true. In my old neighborhood there was a couple that had two kids of their on and adopted two boys. It was really obvious that they treated their biological kids a whole lot better than the two that were adopted.

[Andres77]

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Use it to make you stronger!
When you're ready, show her this. Let her know you won't judge her for being petty and mean.
Be the better person.
If that's all she's capable of then know that she's at her limit and you will be better.
Don't throw pearls before swine.
Some people won't improve.

[DrillBeats]

Damn this is sad to hear. Your step mom is a bish and I’m pretty sure your step sisters are too. I really blame you dad here tho… he should be protecting you better. I’m sorry you had to go through this. I hope you have happier more loving journey through the rest of your life

[Asker]

My father was reckless. He always came home late. But now I am more successful than my sisters. I'm happy. But I don't forget that they gave me contemptuous looks in their expensive clothes while I was trying to do some chores my mother assigned.

[josephinelcajon]

It is NOT favoritism it is rather a fear of treating the stepchild wrongly in the eyes of the spouse. And not wanting to damage their relationship with either the child or spouse. It is a BIG problem in some families

[andreasderjuengere]

Aaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwww :D
I had kind of a stepmom - she of course loved her own (2) kids very much.
But I did not feel neglected. Well -to me it was 'only from age 16 onwards.

[Dinklex3]

Favoritism for the biological chid?
I don't think so.
Sorry you grew up so it that.

[Anonymous]

This made me cry 😢 I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope they didn't hit you.

[Asker]

Sometimes i got beaten up. it's all in the past. No need to be sad.

[Opinion Owner]

My boyfriends mother and sister treated him like that too. It's still sad.

[OddBeMe]

I would imagine biological connections are more “favorable”. But I don’t think it’s necessarily outward.

[Anonymous]

No... feminism is tho. Your lucky your only a slave to them instead of a eunik.

[Asker]

I don't think this has anything to do with feminism. I don't think my stepmother and stepsisters excluded me for being a boy. But one thing is, there was a naturally developped mother-daughter female solidarity in the house.

[Opinion Owner]

You'll understand the further you look back.

[Asker]

There was an absolute female domination at home, and yes I was treated like shit by spoiled and selfish women. but I still don't think it has anything to do with feminism.

[Opinion Owner]

Whats the difference?

[Asker]

Feminists want to have equal rights with men. But I am not equal to them in this case. They are in a much higher position than me. These women are just ego-trippers.

[Opinion Owner]

No... Feminist want equal authority as a man , so they dont have to listen to them anylonger all the while thst they're phycoligically casterating you also.

[Asker]

'psychologically castrating' is the right term for me. The women in the house are royalty and I am lower class. It's like having a penis is a sin. You may be right. I hadn't thought of it this way.

[Opinion Owner]

Take your manhood and authority back by force and basically without any explanation. Be completely out of they're reach by being a man who won't buckle or bow to womens bs or nonsense.

[Asker]

For years I bow to women's nonsense. They crushed of my manhood by force without any explanation and i bow to these spoiled women unconditionally. I was helpless and powerless. I could not claim any of my rights. If this is called 'feminism', I have experienced 'feminism' deeply. But It's all in the past.

[TacosRAwesome]

Sadly yes, even for full parents.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes it's normal. It's their biological child.

[flirtatiousgirl]

I'm sad for you honestly it's normal

[Asker]

Even though I felt like a freak at home, I find it normal for my stepmother to treat girls of her own blood as superior than me, and I was able to accept that.

[UpdateGloomyNights_]

I think yes