Do you think you will make a good parent? Why or why not?

Question

HighlyVolatile · Accepted Answer

I worry a lot about it even though I love children.

One time in my 20s, I was with my friends and we were drinking shots at the bar and one of my female friends (she's a single mother and her husband died in the war in Iraq) brought her kids to the bar. It was already close to midnight.

So I tried to move as far away from the kids as possible but somehow they singled me out among all my friends. They kept wanting to talk to me and play with me so I quit drinking alcohol and switched to coffee. But my friends wanted to drink shots and the boy tried to copy us drinking his glass of Coca-Cola in one shot and then I thought we were all being such a bad influence on them so I picked them up and carried them to the opposite side in the bar.

Then after the mother wanted to go to a Karaoke bar so I stopped at a costume shop and bought a spiderman outfit and dressed like spiderman and sang spiderman songs to the kids who applauded. Between there the kids wanted me to give them a piggyback ride and both at the same time (both daughter and son) and so I carried them both at the same time and sprinted and spun around and they laughed so hard.

I can really entertain kids like that but I don't think I'm a good influence. I'm not a role model for kids; if I'm anything, I'm a warning with respect to what kids shouldn't become too in love with alcohol and with a tattoo and a thrill-seeker. I just get along with them really well because we share the same love of fun. Maybe I'm immature in the same way as a little kid.

I've always dreamed of having kids of my own since then but my wife and I can't have them. It's probably a good thing; I don't think I'd make a good parent.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I have to say yes my kids are happy
My job was to makes then a much better person than me
And I definitely succeeded there
I believe in being 100% honest I believe in making it about them and not me. What I mean about that is I never yelled and screamed. Or even though about getting out of control
Whatever that kid just did that. Just took it and threw it all out the window by yelling and screaming and making it about them instead of their kid
Plus they just got their kids how to act when they want something you have to yell and scream and throw a temper tantrum you have to remember a small child is like a sponge everything your eyes look into they're wanting to figure it out watch they study listen
Ever give a baby a bottle and as they're drinking it they're just staring at you so deep because you're trying to figure you out there trying to learn something and kids do that other life they pay attention to their parent on how they act how they talk how control or out of control they get

How did they treat their friends

At the time I have to give my kids credit to because they are just good kids

Tinana · Accepted Answer

I think I’ll make an amazing mum. I’ve been traumatized so much that from my experience I know i would always want to be close to my children and give them the information they need. Nigerians shield you away from things you’re meant to know like Sex etc by making them look ungodly and a no go zone. Leaving your kids in the hands of the Internet friends and predators to teach them. And they aren’t supportive enough to give you a listening ear. They just emphasize on not embarrassing the family name else they would disown you. I would want my child to grow up in a more love filled environment and as her momma ☺️☺️☺️ She’ll be my little shopping partner

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

Nah.

I'm fine with kids and have good ability to manage and teach them, but I'm into doing so for very limited amounts of time. Give me three or six hours every week and then take them the fuck away.

Also, I get to choose as a childfree person whether I can tolerate the personalities the kids in my life have (unless they're my students at karate).

I'm anxious, introverted, and have a lot of stressors. I know I'm not cut out to be a parent. Also, I need money.

I'd probably be a good parent, but I'm never having kids. I'm content with hanging out with my nieces and nephews and occasionally having a teachable moment with them.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

There are parts I would be amazing at and then there are parts I'd be absolute trash at

For example if it came down to teaching my kid life skills and things like that I would be fairly good at it I'd also be good at making sure they had meals packed for lunch *because I'm not letting my kid eat those crappy school lunches no way* I don't so be absolutely great for Life advice and ensuring they had all the knowledge they need to Excel at the paths they choose and to that end I'd be a good parent

Unfortunately I'm kind of impatient and also would probably not be very good at taking care of a baby like at all I would be very bad at it
I can barely keep a sleep schedule as is since I have insomnia and when I do get to sleep good luck waking me up that's not going to happen honestly a crying baby might not even be able to wake me up

Another issue I have is that I'm incredibly clumsy one time I got a little bit frustrated and accidentally crushed my phone luckily it was one of the cheap ones you get at Walmart so yay

virtue2332 · Answer

I am a good parent because I'm open minded and I do my best to see things from their perspective and realize that things are different from when I grew up. I didn't have the internet or cameras everywhere so when I screwed up there was plausible deniability and things were forgotten as time passes. Things are scary today and mistakes can be immortalized and documented for all to see at anytime. These new generations haven't had it easy and even though We tend to give them a hard time the way they handle some of these issues and adapt to others is impressive.

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

I hope so or i have a lot to answer for over these past 9 and a half years.

I mean so far they aren't dead which is a huge bonus. One broken bone between them but it happened at school on the playground so I think I'm off the hook there. Both on honor roll. Cleaning their rooms could be better and they have their birth mom's attitude so I'm basically screwed when it comes to that.

I'd give myself a B so far

Lucy68 · Answer

I hope so, I mean I know how to take care babies, toddlers, little kids, and teenagers. My dream is to be a mom with my fear of never having children due to my PCOS (which can make it extremely hard to conceive). But when I do have my little family I'm going to hope and pray that I can be the best mommy that I can be

humanearth · Answer

To tell you the truth, I thought I would turn out like my dad and never wanted kids. Because of him

But after my first one born, I did everything in my power not to be like him.

Turns out I am a nurturing, caring father that gave a up a career in professional racing so I can be the best daddy possible

Remember anyone can be a Father, but it someone special to be a daddy

DaySpring · Answer

I am so glad everyone wants to be a good parent but the reality is that over 90% of you will not raise your kids in a way that allows them to succeed in life. Love, food, shelter, etc is great but that stuff is the bare minimum. Good parent or not, the kids still aren't getting enough.

Sour-rose · Answer

God no. I drank half of a half gallon of dutch chocolate milk for breakfast. I don't need a kid asking me "are you done, yet, mommy?" as I pay the price (lactose intolerant) and won't stfu if I fart in the car. Also my mom doesn't stfu either, so dealing with a kid who's screaming it's head off or clinging on to me like I'm god is not gonna end well for either of us.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I would because I've planned and prepared for it, I'm responsible, independent, good work ethic, and won't be relying on anyone else to assist, no government help or anyone else. Plus I know a child needs both parents and think I work well with my man.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

I caught myself thinking about this on a few occasions ngl.

I think I would make a good parent. I'm a very patient/calm, and open person (like you can talk with me about everything, there is no judgement). The only bad thing that comes to my mind is that I'd be definitely too soft and they would have me in the palm of their hand 😅 If I'd have kids in the future, the only thing I can hope for is that their dad will have the ''strictness'' in him 🤣

Kaytiee · Answer

I don't want children, but I think I'd make a good parent, part of the reason I think id make a good parent is because I wouldn't have them unless I could provide, whereas some just have children when they cannot provide/are unstable in their mental without even thinking of the impact it would have on their children.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

I don't know 🤷‍♂️. I treat my nephew like he is my son, am pretty awesome :D at least i think so :P because he always wants to be with me when my brother is at work. Plus! I am a gamer uncle, it's like an awesome uncle but much better 😂 and we play hoops too

NathanDavis · Answer

very probably, mostly sure... yes as I am already partially raising my niece, which has been quite the challenge in many aspects but, we're on it and things are very well (=

mobiusforniner · Answer

I ask myself that question every day. And i have kids... lol. Kidding aside, nothing will prepare you for the randomness, the joy, and the pain of parenting children...

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

I don't know. Fuck I hope so. I've gotten a good mom for it at least, and we got some books and people for advice/ help when we will need it. I know some shitty stuff we definitely won't do like hitting it or gaslighting it. Hopefully we get the more complicated stuff right too.

melanieeeB · Answer

Yeah cause I have already raised my sister and she is awesome, plus I was always really good with children What about you?

SolitarySolace · Answer

No idea. I don't plan on having my own kids because one, I'm not into Sexual intercourse, and two, I don't trust women enough to keep their word on not getting an abortion.

Thankfully though, I heard Roe v Wade may actually be overturned. 😁

lovedejj_xo · Answer

No because I don’t want the responsibility of taking care of them for 18+ years which is why I won’t have any. I like working with children then they get picked up by their parents! I’m sure I’d be a great parent as I’ve been told but I really just don’t want them.

Valso · Answer

I sure hope so, altough the chances for that are getting slimmer by the day. I know one thing - if I ever become a parent, I'm gonna be there for the kid so that they have a father. Something I didn't have growing up, unless you count my father showing up once a year on my birthday and not paying the support money as "having a father".

420Rachel · Answer

Well I hope so! He's still 3 years old so he doesn't really have the ability to criticize me yet but he's happy and healthy so I guess I'm doing something 😂

jasco · Answer

Right now? No, to impatient, to needy, to easy to anger. I need to work on somethings before i even consider being a dad

lilyanony1 · Answer

No idea, so long as they fed, clothed, alive and leaving me educated to be able to look after themselves in adult years. I've pretty much served my purpose.

lightbulb27 · Answer

someone, I'm 1/2 of a decent parent.  The discipline and training part I need work on. someone has to be tough and make the kids suffer and learn, struggle.

linka_pat307 · Answer

I will make gud parent because am looking after my siblings

Iron_Man · Answer

I think I would be a real good father figure because the way I was raised and carried on into me

bigpauly · Answer

No. I’m too focused on the things I want to achieve to give the kids the time they would need and deserve

menina · Answer

Yes, I think I would be a good mother. I already know what not to do to my kids so I guess that's a start...

skyeee_ · Answer

im not sure, but definitely a lot better than the previous generations

boobliker · Answer

my kids' told me I was not a good dad but i gave them time when i had it and money and some where to live till they left home so I feel sad about and yes I worked away and very hard to give them that but that's all I can do.

MTC29 · Answer

My niece and nephew seem to worship me (and I love them more than I can say). That's all I need.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I’m a kind person but not a strong person so not sure.

aided_ · Answer

uhnoi dont think thats the life for meill be a good aunt though

Anonymous · Answer

No, I won't have kids, I wouldn't make a good mother.  I am autistic, couldn't provide proper care.

tasleen · Answer

Parenting is not that easy  I am mother of 1 child and still I am not sure I am doing good or not

MelissaMarie9614 · Answer

Yes! Absolutely! I really love kids. I really want kids so bad and I can't wait for that day to come when I start having kids.

Pudsmucker · Answer

I think I am I've had four silk children I think my wife and I are pretty good parents. My wife and I had four children

Guanfei · Answer

I'd like to think so. But my natural shyness and awkwardness makes me hesitate often. And I know that if I had a daughter I'd treat her as a spoiled princess.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I think I would make a great parent if I was one. Not saying I have to have kids or anything. But I could definitely qualify for the job.

loveslongnails · Answer

Not going to be one, so I won't know because I don't want to know.

MrJMM · Answer

Better than my parent's teachings for sure without any toxicity, beatings, degrading one another, etc.

TrillXHippy · Answer

I don’t want to say that I can be a good parent and then if I become a parent I’m the worst

Twalli · Answer

I think I could do a good job, I just don't really want to

OddBeMe · Answer

No. That’s why I’m not. I just have no interest in it.

DevinAM · Answer

I think I have potential, I already have a sense that goes off when an undesirable is near & I actually want children so I've done some research.

Anonymous · Answer

I think i could be a good father but i will wait untill i find the absolute soulmate and am more stable moneywise.

Slim57 · Answer

Probably, I'd do anything for my kids, same as woman, but I hope to never find out

ChiTownLov · Answer

Nah, I'll stay a good uncle

Agape93 · Answer

Ha! No no I know I wouldn't lol

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I would, but I still don't want kids.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Being told by loads people Ill be a great dad

Luopio27 · Answer

No because I dont want kids of my own.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Yes because we’ve had cats for years

Echosoul · Answer

At present, no. I have zero desire to have kids.

nawtee_me · Answer

According to my kids I am a pretty good one.

Ringstretch · Answer

We just give it out best shot

EnglishEuropean · Answer

I think I'd be a terrible parent.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I hope so…

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah and I did , now they are doing well

XXblack88 · Answer

Maybe.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I think so.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Maybe lol

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