Why do too many girls idolize bfs that don't want commitment?

[Anonymous]

My friend is wasting her time with an idiot her parents and all her other family members hate. We hate him because we know what the deal is. He's using her, taking advantage of her gullible attitude. He's another typical guy that's just for sex (going under the title of ''boyfriend'' but honestly is just acting like a friend with benefit) and nothing else beyond that. They live separately and he stopped visiting her for nearly a whole month, giving excuses about working hard. Plus he has asked her for money twice and he's not paying her back.

Then if he finally does visit her, it's either very early or at night, only for an hour (for the obvious) and then he leaves. He rarely ever takes her out and if he finally does, it's at a cheap Buffet or cheap fast food restaurant with discount tickets and lots of money on a motel. He has no money but to take her to a motel and to buy a whiskey he has all the money. lol

She really thinks he's going to one day have kids with her. LOL. Why do girls like her idolize cheap, worthless bfs that can come and go any moment without any commitment?

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He has all the time for sex, motel and expensive drinks but not for just a romantic date (one where you really do spend quality time with) without sex or a regular gift for her.

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If a man behaviors like that, he's just a boyfriend by title... he's not dating for commitment. He's not the type that wants a family. Seriously why are those guys idolized so much? There is nothing good about her so called ''boyfriend'' at all. He's just a friend with benefit. Take away the sex part and they have no goals, no plan, nothing great, no nothing into that relationship.

[MrOracle]

1. He's physically attractive.
2. He keeps her emotionally involved, so she's always thinking about him (for good or bad doesn't matter), so she's never bored.
3. He has "bad boy" energy which she finds exciting.
4. She thinks she will change/fix him eventually and live happily ever after.

Hundreds of thousands of women are in the identical situation for all the same reasons, and zero of them will have a good outcome at the end, but modern society promotes looks and bad boy energy as "success", and tons of people have bought into that. Is it any wonder that so many people are in the same position?

80% of women are chasing the Top 10% of guys, refusing to "settle" for even 7s and 8s, and are surprised that they get used and then are quickly replaced. Those Top 10% guys have the entire female dating population to choose from, with women throwing themselves at him everyday. Why would they commit - to anyone? The answer is, of course, they almost never do.

[JSmuve]

He addresses her perverse emotional needs. Some girls get really excited about a guy that they have to work for. Guys that are too easy aren't exciting. Just think of all the boring nice guys with goals and shit that would treat her so well that she doesn't want because they don't make her tingle in all the right spots. Some girls want the bad boy. Maybe she's got low self-esteem and thinks she can't do better. Maybe she doesn't want to do better.

[Leshen]

Honestly, that's really sad to hear. Her boyfriend sounds like a terrible person. Lay down with dogs and you gonna get fleas. She gotta love herself and get out of that mindset where she's chasing these bottom of the barrel men. If a man isn't not treating you right move on to a better one who will sis. It's never that deep.

[Desconhecida]

Not only girls. It's in human nature to obsess about unattainable things. Our brains like the chase, the idea of being the "game changer".

[kinggeorge007]

I have the same question. I've seen so many women wasting time on guys like this. They don't have interest in decent guys. They disgust normal decent guys yet date these d-bags. Their fake persona make them a massive fool. In a way they deserve it. What these women don't have is self respect. If they have some respect for themselves, they wouldn't do this. Know the worth of yourself before anything else.

[bulletbob555]

Well I don't have an answer but a different example. Had two girls that were ok with no commitment. Didn't bother them. Enter 3rd girl and caught feelings. First two now hate me for it. We get along but its not the same. This didn't happen while I was seeing all of them at same time or anything. This was over a period of time

[Guy13]

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[Asker]

It just hurts to see someone you care about getting taken advantage of and used. It gets to see her waste her time on a total loser.

[Guy13]

You seem like a sweet person. Hopefully, she will come around.

[Anonymous]

Because most women cannot see how incredibly stupid they are, how a total douchebag's fake confidence and cheap words work on women. Obvious to most guys though.

[Asker]

That loser is now taking 3 years of her life. I hope she realizes at some point. There has to be somehow for her to see what we all see.

[bamesjond0069]

Its your friends dads fault. he's either absent or a total chump and she has no respect for him.

[Asker]

Well she did moved out since 2019 because she was arguing with her parents about him. She lives by herself. Needless to say, that's 3 years of time wasted on that loser.

[bamesjond0069]

Well before that though being raised. Usually girls look up to a man. If they look up to their dad and respect him they dont run around looking for the first retard to lead them. But since she clearly doesn't look to her dad that way, she went running off to look up to the first retard she found. By the time the parents are upset at her choice its too late they already fucked up.

[driven159]

people seem to want what they can't have and the harder it is to get harder they try

[Asker]

yes but she's going to lose in the end. She's not gaining anything out of that relationship. That loser already wasted 3 years of her life.

[Jltakk]

4 words: I CAN CHANGE HIM.
This cringe as hell mentality is how trash men end up with partners. It defies logic how this happens so consistently.

[Stephen_77]

Because most women today are retarded and are only attracted to idiots.

[Asker]

yes and he doesn't even have a car, drives, doesn't have a great job, isn't that attractive and is supposedly broke (except when it comes to motels and drinks, lol). Even worse.
Personally, I would get bored so fast if a guy doesn't want to spend real quality time and only wants to visit me at home for an hour and then leave. I would get bored with the same cheap, unhealthy fast food restaurant with a discount ticket. I would be able to see that bs fast.

[RandomGuy1030]

Not hard to grasp. 5 mins of alpha is better than 5 years of beta

[RandomGuy1030]

In nature she would get pregnant by him and then find a beta to help raise the kid

[Straight2thepoint]

Listen here, ur right. But... ur alpha and beta is backwards. In a pack of wolf's the alpha knows his 💩. The beta's are in the middle. The second alpha stays back to protect the weak and strays (betas).

[RandomGuy1030]

@Straight2thepoint has nothing to do with wolves its just a concept

[Straight2thepoint]

It's nature that runs in all of us man or beast. U don't as ur dumb ass friend for help do you? And that was metaphorical.

[Anonymous]

People do crazy things for love.

[saintsRow3]

She doesn’t love him She just Loves getting that dick.

[Sabretooth]

'' I can change him!''