I deeply love my family but I am really looking forward to buy my own house in the future and just completely live my life in my own terms, while I may not be paying rent money and not cooking my own meals both are great but I definitely an anxious to officially leave out of my chaotic family house where I don't have as much of a design say and I definitely can't wait for the idea of financial independence. Plus not worrying about hearing yelling or having annoying parents and sisters lowering the mood constantly is a nice touch but I wonder if you don't live with your family or if you do still live with your family and can't wait to move out what are things you looking forward for when you get your own place?
What's something you won't miss about living with the parents and siblings?
I moved out years ago. At the time, I was just ready to feel like I was finally moving forward with my life. As time has gone on, there are some other things that I've come to appreciate in hindsight.
There wasn't a ton of major drama in my immediate family. Additionally, my older brother had moved out of the state years earlier, my younger sister was out of the country in a religious order, and the youngest was off at college. However, I don't miss feeling like an irresponsible child or a pathetic loser (even though I was actively working, sometimes two or three jobs at a time). I don't miss feeling like I'm not my own man. I don't miss wondering when my life is going to begin.
And stuff. I had WAY too much stuff which I didn't realize while I was living there. After I moved out, I downsized quite a bit. Several times, actually.
If I were you, I wouldn't be so focused on buying a house right now. I'd look for an established house or apartment that's looking for a roommate and save up money while you're there.
But I kinda don't want to get caught up with the idea of a roommate because I don't know if he or she would either get along or wouldn't be compatible enough
I'd recommend finding a friend to move in with if possible. I know some people say that that's a sure way to destroy a friendship. But before my wife and I got married, I lived with three different friends between moving out of my parents' house and my wedding. Never had a problem with any of them.
Thanks I am now thinking of doing the apartment or renting a house route now because I can't now stand living at home but first I have to get a job so I have a interview tomorrow. Hopefully I get the job!
Whether you live with parents or other family members sometimes when you live alone you feel better about things and you are no longer tied down to their ways of living I will admit living with a cousin from 2004 - 2006 has been rocky, she has her own ways of living and I have mine so this goes for when you live with family the same thing happens.
That is definitely insightful, I been interested in house buying in a while but first I have to earn my credit up by that I mean I definitely need to make a lot of money because most California or other state houses be fucking expensive.
@FinalFantasyBro Yes, I agree with you. What I would look for is a place like a bank, capital one, try to get a small loan with them, always make monthly payments on time, and pay before the due dates too.
I am actually planning on going into business my dad will help me with starting my own business, he told me about trying to get a business loan but first I have to research and make a solid business plan
Thanks Brother, I am hoping to find a house in The LA or SD region which is basically San Diego or Los Angeles or probably a different State. Definitely any place than the the little town I am I hate my living arrangements right now. I don't like the house or the city. But hey at least I still have my family and I go to this daily program I attend so I guess that's is alright
The internal family drama never ceases to amaze me. You know what the recent drama was? One of my uncles (my mom’s cousin) marrying a woman of another ethnicity. I love my family, and they have their flaws, but racism? I can never tolerate that.
My mom calling me names. Yep. Her derogatory vocabulary ranges from “gorilla face” to “sl**” and her controlling every single decision of mine. I’ve had enough.
My mom and dad fighting… again. My mom asks my dad to swear on me. Been their promise bait or whatever since I was 5 years old.
Did I forget picking sides (between my mom and dad) and emotional manipulation too?
I just want to move out of this toxic household. Unfortunately, I have to wait until I’m 22 or 23, depending on when I graduate to move out.
living with your family there’s always a lack of freedom. It’s nice to set your own rules. Living with a sibling can be a different story however. After college my older brother and I shared an apartment. For me it was best of both worlds... having a family member around was kinda cool, and we were free from being with our parents. We get along well, so it worked for us
No we really never did. It was a fun couple of years. He is now married and I live with my girlfriend but I’ll always have good memories of living with him.
I guess if we had to, sure. But we are no longer single guys in our 20’s ... he’s married with a kid now and I’ll be married this year! But sure if something came up, we’d always be there for each other
—The drama —Having them try to take financial advantage of me —The manipulation tactics —The backstabbing and tagteaming —The fake tears —The not being able to buy something for yourself to enjoy because you’re expected to buy for all
I still live with them and the only thing I would not miss is romance if I'm married... meaning I will miss everything.. they are cool people... so I only need to leave them when married because I'd not be comfortable or in a romantic mood if my mate lives there there me.
My family have been extremely beneficial and supportive to me. I doubt I would even be alive if not for them. With that said, the only thing I don't like is not having the independently to stay out without worrying of waking the folks up when I come back home.
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