Are you the black sheep of your family?

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shaysh87 · Accepted Answer

Yes I have been the black sheep in my family. And still am at the age of 26. I will be abandoning them soon in 2 years.

I didn't meet my parents high expectations. They wanted someone who attends an ivy league school, has a 6 figure income at the age of 22 after graduating from college, I wasn't as brilliant as my cousins and my parents resented me for that. I was a loving, kind , caring child who cared deeply for my parents but they never cared about that.
All they saw was a kid who did not make them shine. Some parents live vicariously through their children. They see kids as an extension of themselves. It means that if the kid succeeds, then it means they succeed. Their kids are trophies to them rather than precious human beings they raise to enjoy lives of their own.

I suffered a lot of abuse and terrible disrespect over the past 10 years. Many things they've done was simply unforgivable and uncharacteristic of what a parent is supposed to be. Sure, a father can yell , scream but there are certain things that you cannot do as parent to your own kid. They still show me they love me but it does not matter. I am not willing to settle being treated as I'm worthless or inferior or the black sheep for the rest of my life. I have tried and waited for many years , trying to see if things will improve or get better. But it never did. At first I didn't want to admit that things will never get better because I wanted to love my parents for everything they have done for me. But deep down in my heart, I knew things will never change.

Don't forgive too easily because you will end up realizing that its always the same people hurting you over and over again. This is what forgiving too easily does to you. And at the end of the day, if you do not dispose of those people, you will keep hurting and you will keep complaining and blaming.

Hopelessromantic53 · Accepted Answer

Lol yeah. Most definitely yes.
I've been raised in an Asian household lol. That should explain it.

My entire family is what you'd define as conservative but not in a shove-it-down-your-throat kind of way.
I'd say I'm wayyyy more open-minded than them for sure. And of course, me being a human being, i have my own likes and dislikes, sometimes these clash with theirs.

Like, for example, boys. The classic example. Im not interested in dating in high school, but when i do have crushes, i get really really passionate, writing love letters, secretly sketching and crap. Lol it's cringe alright 💀
It's harmless but my mum somehow ends up finding all about it (which i really don't appreciate obviously. Privacy, much). And she seems to not be all cool with it. Says it's a waste of time and stuff. I mean, i agree. I look back at my old crushes and I'm like, ew why did i write you love letters. But still, you know, it's FUDGING HIGH SCHOOL. And i am a teenager. Lemme enjoy mama. Lol.

That sort of a thing. Lol i feel like i ranted here more than actually giving ya an opinion.. imma leave now buh byeeeeee hope it helped :-D

Sixgunsound · Accepted Answer

Most definitely. My brother married a rich girl and is on the board of the hospital I worked for public safety in. They paid cash for a three story mansion in the rich part of town that likes to hide behind its gated community and excessive number of police officers (armed security for men but not for thee because police are racist) for its population, and tell those of us who actually hear gunshots in our neighborhoods on a regular basis we can’t legally own them. My mother picked the winning horse for her retirement and has been abusive and difficult to me as a show of her disapproval ever since.

Akanzal · Accepted Answer

No but my brother is. He was always a little too impressionable and got into drugs a couple of times but he's clean now but... damaged shall I say. And he's gotten himself into trouble with a gang who beat him up to a pulp. Now he's gotten involved with someone that's very toxic and possibly into drugs as well. I've tried a few times to steer him the right way but he doesn't want my help because he thinks he knows best.

I give up I've had it.

OldSchool_Metalhead · Answer

Not to my parents, but to most of my grandparents and other family members. My grandparents have been the only ones I've had constant contact with compared to the other more distant family, and I know they just see me as a loser. They wanted me to grow up as a typical "good Christian girly girl" and pursue college after high school. Instead, I'm the heavy metal pagan who never pursued education after high school lol. Thing is my parents were more open minded in having me live how I wanna live

Emiliamazing · Answer

I don’t think I’m the black sheep, but I think really occurs is that all of us go through periods in our life when older family members may disapprove of our actions. That’s how it is in my family as well as my husband’s. We’ve had some black sheep moments, but so have our siblings. With any luck, age brings wisdom :-)

mermaidcancermoon · Answer

Yes.

I dont follow religion and I keep my life private away from their judgement. Its made me all types of Satan's spawn. lol Despite being Satan's spawn I've worked in law and social work. No criminal history, and no babies or spouse. My home is comfortable and clean, financially comfortable. Drama-free life. However i did go to counseling for abadonment issues and anxiety.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

Yup. Been disowned since birth but it is what it is. Rather be the black sheep than a racist piece of shit like all of them 🤷🏻‍♀️

JoyGirl · Answer

I don't know who is the black sheep. I had a rebellious point in my life, but I wouldn’t say that makes me a black sheep. 🤔

LazerBean · Answer

Nope, that would be my cousin the child molester ☠️

Blackcosmo · Answer

I don't think my family has a black sheep but I'm kind of in my rebellious phase so maybe I am the black sheep... I don't know.

Secretlyy · Answer

Well you can't be a black sheep of a family if there is no family! I disowned their crazy a**es since last year, so now I don't really got a family. No more being a black sheep to those f***ers!

Qdbrown · Answer

Yes I am, and even know what sibling alienation is all about. We have had some family grudges go on for more than two decades, and we don't talk or get together anymore.

TrueConfection · Answer

Yep. I refuse to participate, moved far away, and try to stay under their radar. It's been a nice 26 years so far! ☺

Whatever2929292 · Answer

I am yes... But being black sheep runs in the family. LOL. I know everyone says that... But it's true

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I'm the black sheep on the surface but my brother in certain ways is the real black sheep. We both love our family, we just do things our own ways

Lucy68 · Answer

Yes. Also I'm disowned on my dad's side of the family cause I didn't meet their standards.

Sonorous · Answer

I really don't care how my family views me. I only care how they treat me.

HopefulGuy94 · Answer

I do not know but I am sure that I sometimes count sheeps to fall asleep lol

Panzer21 · Answer

My whole family is black sheep, I think my dad is the only normal person among us. Im just the anxious baby of the family.

Mynameisbobby · Answer

I definitely was when I lived with my mother and sister

Iron_Man · Answer

No but my brother son is a black sheep of the family

NathanDavis · Answer

more like the odd out... lol

driven159 · Answer

I was now Iam the only one left in the family, so I am king of the hill

WhitneySnow · Answer

No lol. My cousin is.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

No... No black sheep in my family.

Sour-rose · Answer

About to be very soon, i'll tell you wha

SaoirseS · Answer

My brothers and I take turns.

moonpie89 · Answer

Nahh. I'm the cherished one

Sparkie460 · Answer

I'm not but my brother was when he was alive

JohnK123 · Answer

Ya I look nothing like my parents

IsoUser · Answer

Oh Yeah, that's definitely me lol

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I think so. I'm so unconventional. 😂

dustybiker · Answer

Yes.

exitseven · Answer

Baaaaa

Blueeyes81 · Answer

That I am.

lofii · Answer

I am the black sheep

noohair · Answer

Absolutely!!!

Fuentes · Answer

Lol nope

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Yes.

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