I'm definitely a black sheep.
My parents & brother are subverse racists. I am not. I enjoy working with different cultures & learning about other people's beliefs, etc. whereas my family makes racist comments even about my friends or colleagues - thankfully when they're not around.
My parents & brother have personality issues. Mum & brother in particular are embittered people who get offended over nothing. It's actually sort of pathetic how easily they get offended over things that others - myself included - wouldn't care for.
My mother & brother have no ambition whatsoever. My mother never graduated college, my brother is satisified with being a security guard of all things when he happens to have degrees & could easily do as a friend did & start his own security company at least (that friend makes about 1 million dollars a year in contracts, etc.).
My father does & I have quite a lot myself, I started my first business when I was a kid.
As a friend once said quite accurately - as I am often at conflict with my family members (less dad but he's developing dementia so he's easily influenced by mum & brother nowadays) - my family are not rational people. And you can not reason or in ways correct irrational people when they truly believe that they are in the right & others wrong.
I mean a common argument is that I should be thankful for all my family has done for me. In reality they've not really done much except try to control me which has cost me some very good career & job opportunities over the years. I mean what sort of twits blame family for moving across an entire country for "marine biology" when the university that we ended up attending didn't & never did offer marine biology... and apparently the move was my fault despite the fact at time I was only about 15-16.
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I think I'm very different from the rest of my family. They're all very social and I'm not, I like to be on my own. I mean, I do get lonely sometimes but I'd rather have one or two true friends than a million friends that I can't count on. I've heard it a dozen times how my cousins would complain because their so called friends spread gossip about them, or talked about them behind their backs. Honestly I don't have energy to spend on shallow friendships. So I don't care how much my cousins make fun of me. I'd rather keep just a few good friends and live peacefully.
I was the ultimate one in mine being quite out there with my tastes. Some of it I think was based on how much I traveled to new countries though growing up. I started to assimilate a wild mix of cultural ideas along the way.
Also being the firstborn child looking out for my little sister a lot after my parents divorced, I think I had to be extremely independent and self-sufficient, and the boy who refused aid whenever I got injured: "I don't need your help! I can do this myself!" That independence had a tendency to take on some rebellious and experimental streaks without parents to guide me much.
I was rather lonely growing up but I learned to find people who shared at least a subset of my wild variety of interests here and there, and by university and beyond, really found some great friends. Now I no longer feel so weird and out there these days; it was all ultimately about finding the right group of people with my wife at the top there.
Actually even after graduating university, I traveled to various parts of the world a lot for my work but also sought out such work. I think being the ultimate black sheep of my family, I didn't associate my family as "home" or even Japan entirely as "home" (as I spent so many years in other countries).
So I had a lot of adventures in what I now reflect on as a journey to discover my real "home", and I found that in a group of really good and like-minded people and above all else, my wife. She is the ultimate image of "home" to me now that I lacked growing up.
In some aspects yes. In others not even a little. When it comes to romance and affection. Very much so. Also when it comes to dealing with idiots. Both my parents are very quick to stop tolerating idiots. I tend to give idiots 2 to 3 chances before I stop tolerating it. Reflected on here as well. If someone says something stupid I correct them. If they continue being dumb I correct them again. If they do it 3rd time I generally stop tolerating it. Also a black sheep when it comes to where I live and how I live my life. My parents paid for their house to built they also pay for any changes they want done to it. I built the houses my children, wife and I live in. I also do all the additions or remodels myself. When it comes to work, finances, intelligence, etc not even remotely. I come from a family of doctors, scientists, engineers, architects, lawyers etc. My approach to money is what my parents taught me. Intelligence I might be a bit smarter than my father though his mental math is slightly better than mine. Oh big thing I am a black sheep in is size. I tower over everyone. My mom and dad are both short (5'2-5'5) my brother is also short (5'4-5'6) I am 6'+
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I am most definitely the black sheep of my family. From a family of 3 brothers and 2 sisters with me 10 years younger than my youngest brother. I've caused a lot of issues for all of them with me being me. You have a white christian family lifelong Florida residents and along comes little baby sister who first became pregnant with a black baby girl then 8 years later married a black man not even from the US and made 3 more baby boys with him. For a long time there was lots of tension within our family walls over my decisions in life. Almost 3 years where my dad wouldn't even talk to me. I am happy to say now my life, family have been accepted and once again we have a whole family.
If there is one I'd be it. I'm the only single one in my family so it does leave me the odd man out since the rest of my family are in couple mode. But they don't deliberately exclude me from anything. We're just on different wavelengths. But as they all become empty nesters that's starting change.
Yes I’m the black sheep 🐑
I don’t necessarily see it in a negative light, I am just my own person and I like being myself. I carried myself with grace and confidence. You just gotta own your individuality even if others don’t understand and accept it.Sometimes it seems so... Everybody else is more talented in job. I have Problems. My Family is there for me. Always but I wish I could Support them and not that they have to Support me...
Yes, sort of, always felt my parents got on better with my brother. My brother had already told me he is the good kid and I am the bad. Welp, what can you do.
when I was growing up in the late sixty's early seventy's I had long hair, smoked cigarette's and rode a motorcycle. I was the outcast and I didn't care. I lived my life as I wanted. Today I drive a pickup, quit smoking years ago and wear my hair short. Life changed and I changed with it. I'm still somewhat of an outcast but continue to live as I want to.
If I did not look so much like my father, I would suspect that I had been adopted, as I am totally unlike the rest of my family.
Yup! I'm definitely the black sheep. I seem to be pretty unique in my life. If does feel lonely a lot of the times. I'm not religious. I care for the environment, I'm vegan. I hate wasting , try to be selfless , I try to be nice to everyone. People seem the opposite, selfish and non empathetic.
Yes I am cause I am the second oldest and the second oldest always gets picked on plus I have a disability too
I'm very independent, but I'm not a black sheep - I get along well with everyone. I. I'm just not as social as some others.
Yeah because I’m a flat earther, and conspiracy theories, and I told them that the V4X will end them all. 🤷🏻♀️ just warning them 🤷🏻♀️
for me I am. I'm the introvert and the quiet one. My dad is black my mom is white. Usually dont go to my dads Caribana things they are called. I'm 31 millenarian but have the lifestyle of a zoomer grew up with technology. Play a lot of video games DND that my dad does not understand and says he wishes I did other stuff lol personally dont care what my dad says or what he thinks
Since I was old enough, I had always refused to be "sheep".
I'm indeed significantly different from "my" folks - but if anything, THEY are grey, where I am colourful (NOT rainbow-ish, but refined)
:DDefinitely.
I don’t even look much like the rest of my family. I wonder if that made my parents inadvertently treat me differently growing up.
All because I was born with a handicap.
I was born with cerebral palsy on my right side.
My whole fam are black sheep lol.
Me and My fam are black but my older sister who was disowned was what you would call the black sheep. my mom and dad don't like talking about her.I have a tie with a bunch of orange sheep and then one black sheep right below the knot. It's a good attention grabber but I'm not really. At one time maybe but not now.
The gay cousin is always the black sheep in the south 🤷🏼♀️
I used to be growin up. I think my sister took over.
I was. Now everyone is envying me. And I don't keep contact with them really, anyways.
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