I’m 17 and pregnant what do I do?

[Anonymous]

My period hadn’t come for like 2 weeks and I took a test and it was positive

what do I do? Im too scared to tell my mum. I mean I love kids and I’ve always wanted to be a mum but not so soon… I’m scared

[Smoke-n-Growls]

You don't feel ready, by your own admission.

Call Planned Parenthood and get going on looking into your options.

Especially with Roe vs Wade overturned, you're likely looking to be stuck parenting this child.

So if you can't get an abortion (and I strongly urge you to), then start figuring out how you're going to support yourself, your baby, and your home (your parents will probably kick you out unless you're really lucky). Find work and start building up your money.

Children cost on average $250k (higher with inflation) from birth to 18, but you'll need to provide for them even after that if you want to be a good parent.

You'll also need to figure out how will you be as a mother? What's your approach? What supports do you need? When will you allow yourself time to grow as a person? What example will you set for your child? Who else is in their life?

Also, read up on birth complications. You'll also need to know how to manage your birth, your body after birth, and your health. Look up the most common issues (your doctor can help), and seek out a good doctor to help guide you through the pregnancy.

No one is born ready to parent. If you're serious about keeping this kid, hit the books and get yourself ready. Your life is about to be fucking upended.

And figure out how the fuck the condoms broke. Why'd you even have sex without birth control if you weren't ready for a baby? Birth control AND condom unless you both wanna end up parents. It's common sense.

[WonderBell99]

I would suggest you talk to your parents and have them take you to the doctor for a pregnancy test. It is scary and you may feel lost, but your parents might be more supportive than you give them credit for. It may also be a false positive, don't panic though. Your parents may be disappointed and upset, but they could also be supportive.

Does the father of the baby know? Did you guys use protection? Next time you're engaging in sexual stuff, please be very careful and use a condom or other birth control methods.

Are you planning to keep the baby? Do you want to abort? Do you want to give the baby up for adoption? Do you want to raise the baby yourself? Raising a kid is not an easy task. It requires financial stability, and emotional and mental maturity. Your parents can help you, but ultimately, is this what you want in life? You would have to sacrifice a lot of things.

[Asker]

We used condoms so we were safe I guess. I haven’t told him yet, I dunno how

[Asker]

I couldn’t abort a baby, it’s still my baby and I couldn’t stomach that

[ChrisMaster69]

Well the big thing before you look at telling your parents, is if you want to have a it.

are you prepared to actually raise it.

then it’s looking at what your parents reaction would be if you decided not to keep it or also if you decided to keep it.

If they are remotely normal, then tell them

It’s just delaying the inevitable.

[Anonymous]

Why dont you leave the positive test where your mum will find it with a note which says 'Please help me, I'm scared'?

[Asker]

That’s a really good idea. Thank you.

[IsoUser]

I like the originality but so not the way to announce that they're going to be grandparents. My God talking about Shock and Awe Lol 😉😁

[IsoUser]

I wouldn't care anyway I'd just be happy for my daughter

[fonduegirl]

Does your boyfriend know?

If I were you, I'd get it aborted by going to a clinic with a friend. I know it's going to be hard but it's because you have a life ahead of you and a kid can destroy many possible opportunities, like better career or more suitable partners. Best to abort.

[Asker]

I couldn’t abort it. It’s still my baby and I don’t have the heart to do that

[fonduegirl]

I'm not going to mince my words when I say it's no cakewalk. You must have your dreams and aspirations — you can kiss uni goodbye if that's you decide to keep it

[fonduegirl]

You can give it up for adoption

[Asker]

I’m not planning on going to uni. I have other ideas.
I’m scared but I want to keep it. I’ve always felt like this might happen to me one day, I dunno why. I just have. I know want to keep it but it’s still really overwhelming. I’m more worried about my parents and boyfriend and his parents and just all that crap

[fonduegirl]

You don't have any future plans career wise? That's sad

[Asker]

No I do. I have business plans and a fully planned idea of what I want to do, it just doesn’t involve uni

[fonduegirl]

Oh I see. Well, you should tell them. Before the baby bump becomes evident.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Blackcosmo]

I know it's scary but you need to tell your parents. If you prolong it, it'll only end up worse. If you aren't going to abort, then adoption is another solution. Just make sure only your family knows of your pregnancy and no one else so it doesn't complicate things. Next time use protection if you weren't.
I know this is incredibly stressful and I'm sorry you have to go through this. Take care!

[crossdressingrihno]

If I'm being honest to the longer you wait the worse it'll get.
Tell them very soon and try to work out a solution with them.
Clearly you don't need to go super far into details just tell them that you're pregnant tell them you're worried tell them who you believe the father is and ask them for advice.
If you decide to keep the baby then I suggest taking a parenting class and see if your parents will be willing to help take care of it while you're at work.

[OldSchool_Metalhead]

I hate to say it but eventually you gotta tell em. Even if they will be mad, it'll be worse the longer to wait. You can't hide forever a steadily expanding belly.

[Agape93]

If able, get an abortion, or look up ways to safely induce a miscarriage

[Anonymous]

tell your boyfriend or whoever it is..., then tell your mom and she'll guide you hopefully...

[IsoUser]

As a parent with two teenage daughters and a teenage son I don't even know where to begin. How did this even happen? You're smarter than this it's not like you don't know about birth control.

[Asker]

We used condoms

[NathanDavis]

just tell your parents

[Asker]

im scared they’ll be mad at me

[NathanDavis]

they will be mad for sure, if they find out by others... or you clearly show up with the obvious signs of pregnancy

but more importantly than that, you need to get checked with a doctor, a professional

[jahaims]

If you aren't responsible enough to raise a child then your aren't responsible enough for sex

[Asker]

Who says I’m not responsible enough to raise a child or have sex? We used condoms. This question was about how to talk to my parents

[Anonymous]

tell your mom, and maybe look up youtube videos of other people that were in the same situation

[Anonymous]

Why not use protection? Didn’t no one teach you that? It already happened now so you gotta go tell someone especially your parents since you’re a minor.

[Asker]

You don’t have so be rude. We used condoms.

[Danny_dan92]

Hang on, your in for one hell of a ride

[kinkyoldman]

Tell mom get ot over with

[Anonymous]

you will be fine and tell your mom