How to adjust with having stepkids?

[Anonymous]

I'm 29, no kids. My fiance has 2 daughters. 1 is married, 22, other one is 19, being co-parented. Youngest stays with her dad every other week. So we are currently in a long distance relationship, still waiting for my fiance visa to get approved. Any tips on how to adjust if my stepkids would be really close to my age? Any tips for changing my perspective of wanting him all to myself? How do I learn to share him with his kids?

[Mitt15]

I would suggest you to go out for a day picnic , ask your fiance what does they like , and plan a day according , it would be nice as they would spend a day with you and they will get a chance to know you as well. Best way to gel up.

[jahaims]

You shouldn't try to parent already grown adults. It's his children. Obviously he is going to spend time with them. You just sound immature

[Anonymous]

"want him all to myself" "how to learn to share him with his kids"

you are not ready to be a step parent... at all...

[Asker]

That's why I'm here. I want to be ready. Can you help me how?