For those who don’t want kids, do you still adore other people’s kids?

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My cousin just hmu and asked me to hurry up and have a baby because she’s bored and wants a kid to love on. Mind you she has a wholeass husband, but neither wants kids.  (Or at least he says he doesn’t because she doesn’t.) And They got a house filled with a million cats. If I even had a kid, we would never go over there anyways lmao 😂 I’m extremely tempted to tell her, just go make a baby but I try to be sympathetic because she gave up trying after miscarrying back in college. And now all she does is have abortions which I don’t respect that either, but she surely ain't getting more time with my kid than I would lol. Plus she’s too girly and she wants me to have a girl that she can doll up. Like nah, I’m more about natural shit and not into the makeup and nailpolish and all of that. Not happening. Wrong cousin, wrong future kid 😤 #FeelFreeToList #GetYourOwn

Loveisgirthy · Accepted Answer

More time with my own of course... I came them into this world, I'll bring em through it best I can myself lol or rather with wife who birthed them, but we'd share I imagine or fight over them. Either is perfect behaviour as parents I say. Most fathers baffle me, very few I know match the standard I would want to be at to just qualify for having kids. Miscarriage is a horrible thing to go through too for mothers who want it so bad, I've only seen miscarriages from the outside and I know I don't know how I'd move on with that. I'd hope they could try again, but I know I'd be real hesitant too. I'm fairly new to thinking of having children as a legit reality, we'll be doin' all sorts of things I never did growing up though. I'd rarely keep them inside the house. They're never gonna be a chore to me. That's what I know for certain. Poetically I love the picture it paints in my mind. Used to think of it differently for sure. My mind went, well look at the world, might as well wait for kingdom come at this point essentially. Or a family was rendered pointless to me in general, just a distraction from everyone's true purpose in my eyes. But I started seeing a purpose in having a family and I feel the whole lesson of why we're meant to make a family. All the lessons you embark on. And yeah I can't imagine wanting to lend them off to others that often or at all. They'd have to be the kid's favorite or something first.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

No. And I'm a teacher saying this.

Kids are fine WHEN they aren't being loud, dumb, or selfish. ... How often does that happen, though? I don't hate my students or anything at all though, but raising them 24/7 would drive me insane. I've only had a handful of students, maybe four, all girls, were I could say "I'd be proud if she was my daughter" and I felt like heir parents were doing absolutely everything right.

So I'll say option D, but overall, I'd rather live alone. At best, maybe I could be a separated father on really good terms with my hypothetical daughter's mother, but that's about it. I'm not sure I'd want to love with anyone at all.

SaartjieJane · Answer

Kids nowadays are terrible and then you meet their parents and they’re kids too so you’re not really surprised 🤦🏼‍♀️ I often look at people and wonder why they have kids when they can’t discipline them, their kids and the parents have zero manners or morals… it’s just all havoc and those kids end up being terrible in school. Not listening, got a big attitude, stealing time away from other kids learning because you have to stop and discipline these kids, etc.
At family gatherings my mom would tell us how all my aunts would talk shit about their kids and how their kids were pissing them off and they would “joke” about wanting to get rid of their kids, then it came to my mom and she always said she had nothing to complain about with my brother and I as we were well behaved, etc.

So honestly yeah some kids I’d hate to be around and tbh I have no filter and will tell people that.

I’d be devastated if I never had my own kids though… I’d love to have at least two or three of my own. I’m also not into the whole thing of family always wanting to have my baby. Like damn it just came out of me and I want to bond. I hate the idea of people showing up at the hospital or constantly asking to hold my baby unless you’re close family like sister/brother/parents/grandparents. I don’t even have a baby but I got all these rules and things I’m okay and not okay withLol

wheresmrcunnunglis · Answer

I sure do adore other people's kids, but I have a time limit with the adoration until I get bored and want to go back to feeling like a child-free adult. I love playing with kids and exercising their imagination with fun activities such as, playing with their action figures/dolls and having them create whole identities and scenarios for the toys. Then creating adventures and such with what was thought up. I used to do it with my little cousins and siblings all the time until it turned toxic ( e. g. parents trying to get me to play mother to them, babysit them for FREE during my WEEKENDS, etc) which is what gave birth to my reflexive time limit with adoration I have for them.

Lliam · Answer

I'm not particularly fond of kids. People who have young kids, and even some people who have pet dogs, love them with all their hearts. Because they think they are adorable and precious, they just assume that everyone will agree. But I don't. I'll be polite and play along, but keep those things away from me and keep them quiet.

Don't get me wrong. I love dogs, just not as much as their owners do. I like kids, too, as long as they are well behaved. And it can be fun to watch them playing outside in groups, enthusiastically exploring life. I can relate to being their age, being curious and eager to learn.

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

Lol ima keep my comments to myself and just answer the question cuz... yeah...

I love kids in general. I work with them. I have 9 godchildren that I'm crazy about. Oldest is 17, youngest is 3. I also have nieces and nephews that I spoil rotten. I've always loved kids which is why it sucks that I have yet to have any of my own. But, soon come 🙏🏾

midnightmoon05 · Answer

When I was single, I didn’t care if I have kids.
I also ran away when my friends started having kids.
I have 2 and I take great care of them that’s about it.
I also teach a bunch every year. But I am not emotionally attached to any.

MTC29 · Answer

After my sister married, I was anxious for a niece and/or nephew. The newlyweds took their sweet time getting around to it, but it was well worth the wait. I adore my niece, and my nephew and I share a love of baseball, along with an interest in firearms and motorcycles.

Spending time with smaller kids is fine... when you can send them home to their parents.

Th3ft · Answer

I used to think that I would rather either just staying as the favorite uncle or adopting but the more I see how well some people get along with their kids and how well my dad, mom and I get along I can see me having at least a couple of my own…I don’t want a big family though! Lol!

Mark987 · Answer

I don't have kids, but the women that I have that did, their kids were amazing... so much fun and young at heart. Example going to the zoo with one of my ex's kids was one of the funniest experiences, they had the best time ever.. and they were so excited

Valso · Answer

It's not that I don't want kids. I do, but it's very unlikely that I'll ever have any. Preferably girls bc boys are too loud and if what I've seen from other people's male kids, they're like machines for questions and that's not something I'll be able to endure for long. 🤣

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

I votes d but yes I do adore other's kids but don't have my life arranged for kids ATM but one day maybe I don't mind if my stable minded husband wants.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope, usually I find them exceedingly fucking annoying, and at absolute best, I'm wholly apathetic to them.

ElvenMr · Answer

Maybe your cousin is like you with other people's pets..: you like them, but you don't want pets yourself.
I mean i already wrote this, then i read she had a miscarriage :( So i'm not trying to be an asshole here.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

Doesn't matters. I love kids. Those 1-6 graders whom I see in school are so freaking cute!

XXblack88 · Answer

I don't have kids of my own but any time my sister flys in I'm always down for whatever her kids want to do.

Pink2000 · Answer

I adore other peoples children. I love all my nieces and nephews and cousins. I love my friends children as well.

Shark_61695 · Answer

I don't mind kids but I couldn't eat a whole one... I'd prefer to have my own but the opportunity is unlikely to occur.

_deeznuts · Answer

Yes lol like kids are cute untill u gotta pay for them

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Oh, HELL no. She's up in here having all kinds of abortions and she wants YOU to make her a kid? The f*ck is this nonsense?

Sparkie460 · Answer

I have 2 grown kids and I'd like to trade for 2 kids that don't mind helping around the house. My 2 are lazy. One more than the other.

aggravatedbytchx · Answer

I have kids but don’t like kids or dealing with my own child for that matter. Parenting isn’t the same for everyone.

kellytheman · Answer

Yeah I don't have kids but I adore my niece and my girlfriend kid is fun to hang with.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

I never say I dont want kids cuz I do one day

loveslongnails · Answer

If they're nice kids, I like them, otherwise no. Best thing is - they leave.

TrillXHippy · Answer

It’s great to see kids at my job but that’s about it. I wouldn’t say that I adore them

Slim57 · Answer

I like my friends and families kids and would protect them like my own but I just prefer pets over kids, and people

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

D and E combined.

Twalli · Answer

I don't have issues with others kids.

AFretiredTXn · Answer

Yes.

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes.

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