What’s your opinion on adoption?

[JaxiCats]

This was something me and my boyfriend briefly talked about. We aren’t going to have kids anytime soon or adopt anytime soon but I was talking about my mental health and how I’m unsure about potentially passing that onto potentially causing it to happen because you have a higher chance of having a mental illness if your parents or people you are around the most have a mental illness.

He told me that I didn’t need to give birth if I didn’t feel comfortable with that and that we can adopt if we decided to which honestly I’m surprised by that response. I didn’t expect that coming from him especially since he said I have childbearing hips.

[MTC29]

“Better the devil you know," a proverb which means something this is bad but known is better than something unknown.

You are aware of your own issues, but who knows which issue that an adopted child might have?

I'm in no way against adoption, but I think that your issue should not cloud a decision to have or not have children.

[JaxiCats]

That too. Luckily we are no where near ready but if we do end up adopting we would make sure they get the help that’s needed

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Personally, I think it's a pretty great option. Adoption won't be easy, there's every different type of kid (especially in the foster care system) but it can be rewarding. If you don't want biological children but you want to adopt, it's an option, just one that has to be researched a lot. Some people do both, adopt and have biological children when they think they're ready.

[menina]

Since I'm already 30 years old I don't think I'm in time to have kids. So, if I ever decide to be a mother I'll have to adopt a child. I like the idea of having biological children, but I'm also fine with adoption. There are so many children out there who need a family, so I could make a child happy.

[20yearsolder]

I think people that have mental health issues should be treated. Whether it's with therapy or medicine. I don't know your type of mental illness but even adopting and having a child live with someone mentally ill can affect them for the rest of their lives.

[JaxiCats]

I know. My mental health is in a state of hopefully being resolved I just need time to get to that point. I don’t want to put a child in any position of potentially getting mistreated because I’m mentally or emotionally not fully there at that time.

[20yearsolder]

Sounds to me like you're doing very well. Keep up the good work

[ArtemisSilver]

I'd consider it if I or my partner were infertile, and I wasn't polyamorous.

It's a noble idea, and there may be support funding, but you need to be careful about FAS and Drug affected children with special needs, not everyone is equipped to handle that kind of thing.

Good for you though, lots of kids need a loving home.

[bigpauly]

Adoption is a great and admirable option. There are many children out there who need it.

[Anonymous]

adopted kids actually have a lot of issues also...

[Xtendable]

Adoption is a great opportunity for those wanting to be parents, and also allows for an opportunity to be maximised for the child

[jimmy2]

More people needs to do it