Do you make friends based on their academic smartness combined with them as a person? Or... just them as a person, no matter their academics?

[Anonymous]

Academics+their personality

Just their personality

Something else. Opinion please?

[ZS007]

I'm not good at making friends. usually when I meet someone I kinda get a feeling about whether I match with that person or not based on how they act and speak. But it's hard cause I have my small group of friends and most people have their own group of friends that were established sooo long ago so meeting new people at the moment and becoming friends I don't know how to do it. From point 0. It's not working with me when it's just two people I need a push to be social and find things to talk 🤣

[Adam_INTJ]

Dumb people are terribly boring. Smart people try to learn about stuff aside from what is automatically a part of everyone's lives.

I get so tired of people who limit conversation to a combination of the following topics: current relationships and exes, sports, complaints about work, health problems, money, and plans for the weekend.

Like if you don't have any interests outside of what you're living through, then try.

Books, seminars, and podcasts are signs of an interesting person to me.

Sorry not sorry

[PeteBy]

Two of the most fun, lively people I know come from totally different backgrounds. One wealthy, educated but totally down to earth, The other, quite poor and by her own admission not very smart. Some of the dullest people I know are academics or they like to think they're better because they are well read in a subject.

Personality all the way.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Namely personality, values, and what we have in common.

Academics don't mean shit in the real world, but knowing how to think critically is a vital trait to me. I don't make friends with idiots.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am fairly educated and trying to be friends with someone who is not educated is a challenge. I don't think that I am better than uneducated people, as I come from very blue-collar family, but I have far more in common with educated people.

[menina]

Just their personality. If I like them and we get along it's all good and we can be friends. I don't care about their academic smartness, that doesn't make a person better or worse.

[DaisyM23]

I mean I chose personality because I befriend people just based on talking to them but all my close friends are all pretty smart anyways so maybe I favour academics in close people?

[NathanDavis]

if you pick your friends based on their school grades...

that's not making friends that is pretending to be a friendly, at best

[YollyM]

There's something refreshing about somebody that strikes the perfect balance between being a great person and a well educated person in everything (well not really everything you get me).

[DizzyDesii]

Based on what we have in common through morals/goals/values/interests and if they treat others nicely and fairly

[AndrésC64]

As someone who spent more than his fair share of time in academia, you can tell you that it is in large part overrated. There are book smarts and there are practical/street smarts. Personality will win out over education every time.

[DancingQueen16]

I make friends based on personality because a lot of my friends have personalities that are similar to mine

[sunflower00]

Just their personality for me, academics don’t matter at all in a friendship

[Msputiton]

Well person. But their academic smartness is part of them as a person

[TheSpaceGnome]

I make friends based on intelligence and shared interests/hobbies.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Also their comprehension skills and chosen knowledge bases IS them as a person, everything else is usually a result of that.

[clampfan101]

Being smart is great, but it’s not what makes someone your friend. People voting A are likely getting intelligence mixed up for maturity.

[LavLavLuv]

Their personality and the vibe they give off when they’re around

[Shiningtempest]

@the_shadow_dweller I make friends based on their personality because I don't want to get backstabbed.

[Paul09]

Personality and interests. I don't care about the rest that much.

[Thepumpkinhead]

Personality. Academics is a plus

[Smashingdoozy]

Their education doesn't matter to me

[fonduegirl]

Don't care about their academics

[Andres77]

Sapiosexual here

[msc545]

Intelligernce and personality.