Is it normal to feel so much guilt?

[Anonymous]

3 months ago, it was my father's b-day and me and mom wanted to take to his favorite fishing spot.

We were getting close to the destination and then just remembered to buy a couple things. I was stupidly connected with earplugs, listening to music, unaware of my surrounding. My father got me out of the way of a speeding van but he got struck. Luckily he only suffered a fractured knee and broken left arm but omg I feel so much guilt upon seeing him on the ground in a lot of pain. He's in his early 60's.

My father was screaming my name a couple times but I wasn't hearing so he did that. He had a knee replacement surgery and is still in physical therapy. I feel guilt. Is this normal?

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Things would've been worse and if I had lost him, I would likely never forgive myself. I just still feel terrible. He's in therapy because of me.

[QuietKyody]

You shouldn't feel guilty, accidents and mistakes happen.

Someone who pushes another person in front... that person should feel guilty.

I am sure your father is in terrible physical pain and is hurt physically. But the fact that he saved you probably makes him feel no mental pain. I am sure he is very honored to have been given the opportunity to save you.

[Asker]

What's amazing is even when he was clearly in terrible pain and was taken by ambulance all he wanted to know is if I was ok. They had to reassure him twice that I was.

[QuietKyody]

Yes, I am not a father yet, but no matter what my daughter will do it will not be her fault. I am responsible for all her mistakes until maybe 50+ then she is on her own. lol Cause at 50+ you should have had so many that you don't make them anymore or at least the major ones*. Protecting our children is above everything, literally everything. I don't know if everyone feels that way but I sure do. No parent would ever want to see their children die, hands down the worst possible feeling you could feel.

[Apulu_Imback]

Yes it's normal to feel so much guilty but remember not to make such mistakes again. Lower down your earphones volume, I am going to do that after reading this next time when travelling. And remember that it's no one's fault over here. Feeling guilty won't make situations better. Talk over it to your dad. It's not your fault either, you never knew this was going to happen.