I need a little help from someone that may have knowledge about this?

[Anonymous]

Here's some information about me. I just turned 20 and I haven't moved out. I barely have any friends to talk to or hang out with. I have really bad trust issues and am just a relatively negative person but on the outside, I am usually positive and happy. I make sure not to bring others down and in fact bring them up. I have a speech impediment that has gotten worse than ever before. Lastly, I have no hobbies other than cooking/baking, football and basketball and somewhat enjoy historical stuff. My question is, how do you suggest I get a better understanding of who I am and what I enjoy? Like I am planning changing jobs possibly and my parents ask me a lot what I am interested in and I say "I don't know".

[Honest-Matt]

I had no idea what I wanted to do at 20. Over time of exploring options, pursuing interests, I made choices that got me where I am. The big key to all of that was I took actions to make change in my life. I went to college, failed, went back for something new and loved it. I took jobs, changed jobs, made bad choices, made better choices and so on. The first step for you to find out what you want to do and where you want to change your life, move out or apply to college/university, take a job that interests you, go to an event that interests you. Make movement in your life and soon enough you'll find yourself looking up having so much changed around you.

[Asker]

I'll try this. Like right now, I feel like I am sitting in the middle of a white room with no door or windows and no one in there. I want to move out extremely bad but can't due to not having enough of my own money. But once I move out I think the friends category will improve. Since my parents are very non-trusting of other people and especially if they're new. So the past 6 years, they've only let me hangout with a total of 3 people out of probably 30-40 that i have asked. But like also my problem is i have literally no idea who I really am. Like I know in the moment what feels right but other than that if people ask me what to do I'll pick the answer that sounds like a pleasing choice to everyone and i have done that forever.

[Tyrael]

I'd say you just need to put yourself out there and try new things. I've been trying to do that myself as I'm in a similar situation with regards to having almost no friends and no real interests

[Asker]

appreciate it, it just makes life feel boring like when I get home and I can't do anything because I have no interests. But I try to put myself out there and sometimes I put myself out there too much and I become very unfiltered and say too much to the wrong people. But I am working on it for sure