Anyone try voice recording a pathological liar to get them to take responsibility?

[Bethany22]

Some people just love pretending that they didn't say things that they did in fact say, even when it's seemingly unimportant stuff to lie about. I thought about starting to voice record them and play the recording back to them in order to force them to finally snap out of it. Does anyone have any experiences of trying this? Any other strategies?

[Ill_made_Knight]

We have a narcissist in the family. Narcissists will typically lie tons and gaslight (attempt to make you believe whatever you saw or heard is not reality and what they are telling you is) It's constant and it's an effort to doubt yourself and your sanity. If the liar is also a narcissist doing something like recording them will probably result in a show if fake shock that you would do something like that and then make a big show of how deeply you have hurt their feelings by not trusting and believing them. If pressed there will be outrage etc etc etc. They will never admit that they lied, and they don't apologize.
Hopefully that's not what you have, but be aware of the signs.

[Anonymous]

Many times people use information to trap people, put words in their mouthes, as well as take things wildly out of context.

Other times they want to turn things around or they just are onto the next lie and have to gaslight you. You can not convince them that they are wrong but you can convince others.

They will double and triple down on everything so there is no point reasoning with someone whose unreasonable

[normalice]

You would have to do it secretly as they would speak carefully if they knew they were being recorded. However, if you domit secretly then accuse you of recording them without their permission. So, in my opinion, it's best to just force them to speak carefully in the first place by always letting them know they are always being recorded.

[normalice]

Oh, by the way, if you ever do confront them be sure to record the confrontation. Or they will simply deny that they had denied saying it. Two recorders will be needed.

[Bethany22]

haha, good point!

[Sixgunsound]

Only deal with them via text or email. Both demonstrate point of origin and are legally considered to be statements made in writing.

[Bethany22]

Ironically these people often prefer phone calls

[Sixgunsound]

Because it requires their consent to record them for the purposes of being admissible. I’m sure the right lawyer could find a way around that though @OlderAndWiser.

[loveslongnails]

Funny you should ask. LOL The news media in the USA has been doing it for the past 6 years since the ex President began his attack on Democracy. LOL It doesn't seem to convince anyone who hears the lies but likes him. It works better though, with individual people or families. :-D

[Anonymous]

No. Because what they would just say is "well you just misunderstood what I meant". And then they would just reword what they said.

If someone lies to me I just cut them out of my life.

[lightbulb27]

haven't tried it, but how do you know they are lying... are they just delusional, or multiple personality, or going crazy? A liar might admit fault, delusional/paranoid will find an explanation to align with what they believe.

[Guardian45]

Pathological-liars aren't NORMAL people, and feel NO compunction to the Truth, even when it flies in the face of them!

[Guardian45]

You will feel frustrated and disappointed with the results!

[call_me_scar]

Not yet but I tried recording some bullies who talked about smoking pot so I could potentially get them kicked out back in the day unfortunately I never got good audio

[Andres77]

Just make sure you’re legal where you do it so it doesn’t come back to bite you in the butt.

[Bethany22]

where I am it's legal as long as you yourself are a part of the conversation.

[goaded]

They still lie, even if everything they "say" is written down.

[Havthrills]

No but that would be awesome. I hate liars.

[Sparkie460]

No I've never tried it. Sometimes I want to record my wife.

[pizzalovershouse]

No I dont listen to them if I know they are liars

[Imsmurter1]

Wow I am watching breaking bad right now!

[In_Trance]

Who would have time for something like this?

[Red_Arrow]

It has never worked with Trump!

[NathanDavis]

I just... don't deal with them, lol

[ChefPapiChulo]

like amber heard?

[Bethany22]

Don't know who that is

[Staximus]

Do it

[Debbie14217]

no lol sounds fun tbh