I learned my parents cheated on each other, does this mean I'll do the same too?

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My mom cheated first with her former boss when they were dating (both were in their early 20's), reconciled and worked things out, got married a couple years later and then dad cheated 5 years only into the marriage (I was3 years at the time) and she forgave too.

As an only child, I'm disgusted by what I've learned. The two people I've always looked up to are now tainted in my eyes. I'm sick that both of even have low morals. I feel everything I've been taught was a lie.

I found out on my own. They never told me. I wished I never found out. I don't know what to think anymore. Does this mean I'll do the same too at some point?

Battlewolf95 · Accepted Answer

Cheating isn't genetic, it's a choice. You won't cheat unless you let yourself. Now it's never okay, but unless you know the full story on why your parents cheated, you shouldn't crucify them for it. As someone who has been cheated on, I could understand why she did, doesn't make it right, but it certainly wasn't because she was malicious or evil. We are all human and can make mistakes, but at the end of the day the choice is still yours.

mayur1598 · Accepted Answer

No you will not do the same... don't worry... But this happened like while ago why are you worrying about it now?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Definitely not girl friend. If you're having this adverse reaction, you'll for sure never do it. Give yourself more credit! Cut yourself some slack, just because your parents screwed up doesn't mean you'll mess up too. In fact this is a learning experience for you. you'll be fine, don't worry. But don't fight with your parents over their cheating, that's their business not really your place. Plus it's old news.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

You are your own person and infidelity is not genetic.

It's sad, yes, but it's a part of life - finding out that your idols are fallible. There are very few people who have ever lived, who did not make mistakes and sometimes hurt others. Your childhood is now over, I'm afraid. But you do not have to be afraid that your destiny is to follow in their footsteps.

mandyfire98 · Answer

You decide if you will cheat or not. It's not a "devil made me do it" thing. It's all on you.

BJP21 · Answer

Cheating is a choice, just make sure you, yourself dont make a poor choice. Its not inherited, NO.

Agape93 · Answer

No cheating isn't genetic

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