How supportive are your parents?

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WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

Very much so. In my country, a lot of people are extremely conservative. I live in a huge (tier 1) city, but it's down South so people tend to be very cultural and religious. My family, even my extended family is very liberal and supportive of me and my choices. People in my family are either doctors, entrepreneurs or engineers, so some folks in my school had this bizarre idea that I was probably "pressurized" to follow my parents' and grandparents' footsteps and become a doctor myself, but that could not be further from the truth. I love helping others and I have always been exposed to medical stuff because of my parents.

My mom is religious, but not very traditional. In fact, some of my friends are not allowed to date, but my brother and I are, thanks to my parents. Even though they were not around much growing up, they made sure we knew that they would always be there for us. Education was ALWAYS their topmost priority, and they spent a lot of money on it.

When I do grow up and move away for my postgrad, my parents would help me financially until I start earning and supporting myself. Not all parents would do that.

My parents had an arranged marriage, (it was their choice, they did have a say in who they wanted to marry) and they know that I would never want such archaic stuff, so I'm free to marry whomever I want as long as he is respectful, kind, and treats me well.

My family is well off, but I'm still here working a part time job at one of the restaurants that my aunt owns because my mom wanted me to learn the importance of warning my own money. I always had to work for what I have. For example, in junior year, I wanted a very pretty, flowy dress for my birthday... but here's the thing, I had to score more than the guy who usually scored the first rank in class, and he's been studying the same thing since 8th grade (I was in an academic program, one of the very best and rigorous down South). I worked my ass off but could not beat that guy and I did not get that dress until I did beat him... which was two months after my birthday. So yes, they are supportive, and they would buy anything I want, but it always comes with a price, and I appreciate it.

PrettyPriya · Accepted Answer

The are extremely supportive. You have to take a look at my religion/culture and understand that while things have changed, a lot of things (for certain people) have not. Being from a tier one city, things change at a much faster pace.

What I mean by that is that typically, people are a bit more liberal minded. Not true all the time but often. This meant that I was not forced into a marriage with someone that my parents chose.

It meant I could date who I wanted. Something that is often not allowed in a lot of families. Certain religion here is strict. The more rural areas are VERY traditional. So, I am quite lucky.

My parents supported me going to school, choosing who I wanted to be with and supporting my decisions in life. As a result, I am marrying a wonderful man that isn't even from my country because they support my choices.

Now, if that isn't support, I don't know what is considering my religion and culture. While they supported me, they also had expectations. I grew up in a very fortunate and well off family. That didn't mean I got what I wanted though.

I was expected to work and have a job, even if it was babysitting when I was younger. My parents expected that of me and my siblings.

chocolatesinpockets · Accepted Answer

Very. I wish often in my earlier teens and earlier 20s, that I appreciated it a lot more that I certainly have post-covid pandemic and I really now appreciate their support a lot more now as I'm almost into my "grown up 30s" almost.

Anyways, it's true what they say, you don't know what you got until it's done, so value you them and I certainly do value them a lot more now which maybe I took for granted a lot more often in my rebel years. Ah well.

Love your folks, folks :) really

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

they were always supportive and also encouraging but they also gave us (three brothers) plenty of room to make our own choices so...

they have been very understanding with mine, and also with me... lmao

something very valuable is that they saw for who we truly are, and not as someone they wanted us to be or something we're really not, they allowed us to make our (informed) choices but without letting us get away with bad choices

SnowedIn · Answer

Mine were not, I'm sorry to say. They taught me some good things but it all came with coldness and disapproval with a side of "you're not good enough". They both have passed so I no longer have to deal with the disapproval.

Bethany22 · Answer

Depends on what it is. If it's a job that doesn't pay as much as my education deserves, or that it puts me in an environment full of people who potentially have covid, then she 'suggests' that I decline the job, in a tone that's more like a command rather than suggestion as she tries to call it in her defence.

TrueConfection · Answer

Zero. Always zero support for me and my siblings, unless there's something in it for my parents to gain. They're the same with all of their grandchildren too. At least no one can say they were treated differently.

Msputiton · Answer

On a scale from 1 to 10. I would say. 1000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000

Emiliamazing · Answer

They are very supportive, both sets! They spend lots of time with our family and set a wonderful example for us as parents as well as examples of kindness for our children :-)

TroyDT2 · Answer

Even though they are gone, very supportive. When my dad passed, my grandparents sold the house and bought a five unit building. Then when my grandpa passed I inherited his house. So I have an income property and a free house (other than repairs, upkeep, property tax and insurance).

Tennessee_fan · Answer

Well my dad was crazy about women when I was younger so he wasn't around a ton and he past away about 12 years ago and my mom well we don't speak so she's not the biggest fan of mine she was always more involved in my sister's life so I guess you could say at first yes but now not at all

dustybiker · Answer

I could write a huge long thing on my mum alone.

Dnice1 · Answer

Very, they have been there to help me through everything

peedy · Answer

Well my dad is supporting daisy and my mom doesn't support me anymore I have to support her almost everywhere she goes

BlueScorpio · Answer

They've always been supportive and took care of me throughout my life. I'm very thankful for my parents

MCheetah · Answer

What number would describe "not at all?" Zero percent? Not that I ever really knew my father beyond four visits.

AsaKyo · Answer

Mom - Moderately supportive, but actively still tries to talk me out of things sometimes  Dad - Very unsupportive and usually makes fun of me for everything I want to do

WhitneySnow · Answer

My mom is very supportive. My dad is sometimes.

Marklaw12 · Answer

I guess. We live so far apart they don't know what I've been up to.

Agape93 · Answer

How blunt do you want me to be?

Blackcupcake · Answer

define supportive… lol

Nikki1989 · Answer

I don't even know where they live.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

They are very supportive.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Supportive, especially my <3 dad.

BJP21 · Answer

They were until I hit High School.

MrJMM · Answer

Supportive… with terms and conditions.

MissJessicaN · Answer

I love mine ❤️

Heolurt · Answer

To me not at all.

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