How do I handle this?

[Anonymous]

I have this friend I made and they are constantly depressing. It's starting to become very heavy. I've been a listening ear and now I try to give advice. However it's like you give advice and they don't want to hear your advice. I am starting to want to avoid this person. Most of my friends lean on me to talk about their depression and issues so this is not new to me and I try to help as best I can when giving advice to them, but this person's behaviors is kind of new to me. And I think this person likes me but I am was never interested before and this is an EXTRA turn off that seal it for me. How should I approach this?

[Anonymous]

I was in your shoes before for many years with two different friends, and what I can say is that you need to be as good a friend to yourself as you are to them. It’s easy to get lost in trying to be supportive of people you love, but without setting healthy boundaries then you become a dry well, and that’s not ok. Notice how this friend and whomever else has no problem taking and taking from your well and never replenishing it. This friend can’t be bothered to be there for you but quick to bring their bucket and fill it again and again. If you keep down that road you will be depleted and have nothing to give. So start setting boundaries and don’t guilt yourself out of maintaining them. Become a little less available, a little more firm, busier and eventually you’ll re-train them to respect the limits you set. If you can’t do this, and can’t advocate for yourself then get used to being peoples doormat. If that friend can’t respect the changes then that’s not a good friend, which you don’t need anyway.

[Danny_dan92]

Help them. Once. If they don’t listen and take your assistance then leave them. Negativity is a cancer. It spreads

[Ryfyle]

Get them meds and creatine.