How do I handle this?

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I started off fat and plain and now I've lost heaps of weight, I’m beautiful, have a job and now I’ve got 2 suitors who are interested in settling down, as I am. I don’t cope well with change and I know if I marry one, that I’ll have to move states to move in with one of these men. Either way, if I marry, It’ll change my life enormously. I’m scared. I’d lose most maybe all of my friends by moving interstate and live far from my family.

Oliverlogan263 · Answer

Woah that's heavy. I get why you'd be scared - that's a total life overhaul. Moving away from all you know is intimidating as heck. But sounds like all that hard work bettering yourself is paying off big time too! Those guys must really like you. Here's what I'd think about...

Is either relationship serious enough that you see a real future? If so, focus on that over the fear. Change sucks at first but new places can be cool too once you settle in.

Make sure you can visit family lots or they come visit you. Video chat works too these days. Gotta keep those connections.

Maybe start small, like long distance for now. See how it goes before fully moving right away. Give yourself time to adjust.

Talk to the guys, see if moving back eventually is possible if it doesn't work out. Have an "out" plan just in case.

Friends will understand. Make new ones too wherever you end up. Change is scary but sometimes you gotta take leaps to get what you want in life.

Think it through a ton more but don't miss an awesome chance because of fear. You got this! Let me know if you need any other advice.

Staximus · Answer

How about you nevermind the long distance nonsense and find a guy closer to home

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

I guess if you loved your suiter that might make it worth it?

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