How to deal with being lonely and being disrespected?

[Anonymous]

Im a current sophomore in college and I am extremely lonely all the time. I have no friends and no one seems to like me for some reason. I had a friend of mine during an argument tell me that I was dumb and annoying and when I asked her if she actually thought I was dumb said yes I really do. I finally called her out on her being mean to me for no reason and she just started saying I was the one who was being mean. I stopped talking to her because I just felt disrespected and its clear she doesn’t like me. At work, my boss is sometimes nice to me but likes to yell at me in front of coworkers and I’m the only one he yells at and It does make me upset and humiliated but he never apologizes especially when I feel like you can tell Im visibly upset. My friend never apologized. It just seems to me that a lot of my coworkers and people around me don’t really respect me or consider my feelings and I feel extremely lonely and sad all the time cause of it. It makes me think that people see me as someone they don’t care about or worthless. I’m just wondering if someone else has similar experiences and how they dealt with it? Is there any tips on how to maybe mask being upset or what to do when your boss yells at you in front of people?

[VanillaSalt]

It’s called life. It’s a bitch. People don’t care about you is the honest truth. When your 60 and loading your cat food into your car a random dude will feel for you for a moment and might help you load it but that’s as far as their feelings for you go.


The real truth. Until someone cares for you and finds you important your unimportant. Your just another person in their world suffering from being lonely and unloved. A partner helps us deal with this. They give us a place to come home that’s not just an empty house.


For guys we practice stoicism. Nobody cares about your suffering so hide it and keep moving until you make it. I don't know if women can. Their very in-touch with their emotions. And often times women are the main culprits in dragging down other women.


The only advice I can give is find purpose. Find better friends, remind yourself why you work so hard, and keep going. Your choices are limited but their better then a man’s in your position.

[Jarceus33888]

Treat them how you want to be treated. I just got everyone at my job to at least like me just by simply being kind. I would smile, respond nice and do my work.

Even when disagreing I would say stuff like "oh, yeah. I'm doing this right now, so I'll get to that in a sec" or "um. I could do that, but I'm ok" or "huh! I don't think so, but that's ok!" Always smiling.

Always make your goal to spread a smile and you'll find friends in the most unlikely places.

[dustybiker]

Do you generally let people walk all over you? This tends to happen to people who are usually like that, but when they stand up for themselves get treated badly. If so be strong more often. You describe a bunch of cowards who pray on kind people.

[Asker]

Yeah and I always take the worst jobs that no one wants to do and people get mad at me if I don’t. Its like I deserve less than them one coworker got mad at me and rolled her eyes at me because She got my job but it was the manager who decided that not me.

[dustybiker]

Can I suggest you join a martial arts class? They offer the first for free to try. I’ve been in it for years. I’ve seen people gentle people join and as the weeks pass their confidence bloom.

[dustybiker]

*ignore one “people” poor edit fix

[es20490446e]

1. You simply say you don't agree with that, and nothing else.

2. You honestly analyze if there is a reason why they feel like that, and fix it.

[KrakenAttackin]

How are your grades? Are you making steady academic progress?

[Asker]

Yes I actually am

[KrakenAttackin]

That's the main focus. Keep your eye on your studies. Perhaps join some groups on campus.