How do you deal with feeling lonely?

Question

What do you do to help you feel less lonely? Aside from sex or hanging out with friends.

I have lots of friends and even a few lovers but I can't help feeling alone in the world sometimes especially when it's cold and dark like tonight.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well it's just life what can you really do hm? It's just how you view it I guess. If you have a banana for example, you either like it or you don't but that doesn't change the fact it's a banana. It's just life and it will always be this way. You will always be alone, always. Like a lonely man in a crowd.
The difference is when you don't feel lonely because you've come to the understanding that you truly are alone in life but yet you're all you need. That's why nothing material helps fill the emptiness because you're waiting for or expecting for something or someone to all of a sudden change the way you feel and the truth is that you're just alone in life. Some people run to drugs or friends to get the feeling off, and at that point they become sort of dependant on them to avoid this feeling. But like I said, you're really just alone in life so depending on these things and people that won't always be there is just almost a fail. You have to just depend on yourself because that's all you'll ever have so no, you don't need to find something to do or someone that will make it better.
You're alone, we all are. Life is beautiful don't get me wrong as in being alone is bad, but imagine that the world is a huge neighborhood and everyone lives separately in their own home. You just have neighbors, like everyone, in their own life. You don't know them behind closed doors and no one knows you either. But at the end of the day it's a beautiful journey when you're your best company. Don't forget you can't depend on something that won't always be there like yourself.
But sure, meditating can help relax your mind (I mean as in thinking of absolutely nothing) and then you will think more calmly and maybe realize that feeling lonely is only in your head and it's okay. You don't seem the type to draw, but it helps too. Search up an image and draw it with pencil, it's like a momentarily drug when you're very into it and you're very relaxed. Or get yourself a pet and go out with them every once in a while.
If things feel pointless, remember it's all in your head and it's just your perspective but not life itself
I hope that meant or clicked something for you maybe

existing_not_living · Accepted Answer

I have little real friends and I barely hang out with people because 1) most of my friends are guys (including my best friend) and I have a boyfriend so it's kind of hard and 2) I never have the time to hang out with people anymore. I'm constantly lonely because of that even despite my uber busy schedule which doesn't permit me a single day of rest. I also rarely get to see my boyfriend. So I'm constantly lonely, but I combat it by doing different activities like homework, watching tv, reading a good book, or playing/cuddling with my cat. Sometimes you can't help but feel lonely - god know's I can't, but that's okay. Sometimes you just need to let your emotions out. And then buck up the next day.

invisiblehurricane · Answer

I think you should just accept that, aside to people you love and people that are around you, you have nothing but yourself. You could get a dog or a cat but it really would last 10-15 years, then the feel of loss and sadness will be even worst.
My tip is to love yourself. You have to live your whole life with yourself, so read poems, get emotional, do what you really want to and what conventional life stop you from (OMICIDE is not contemplated). Travel, swim, try the craziest things like kayak, submit for an audition to be actor, grow flowers and give them to the crowd, donate, be generous, be lustful. Having partners or friends could give a lot and nothing at the same time. Find out if they are true friends to you. Idem with sexual partners, if you have sex but don't enjoy it, it's not the same... try something new, open your mind, experimentation leads to great pleasures (in everything in life). Good luck, write me if you need support.

Amylia · Answer

Spending time with my dog or horses is the best way for me.
Plus I love to spend time with my family.

And you say you have few lovers... Hm maybe that's the point. If you would have just one, who you would really trust then it could make you feel less lonely.
I am single now but I remember that while being in a relationship, I always felt that my boyfriend is somewhere there, even for a small text or call. Plus also I loved to just lay in bed together or just doing our stuff but being in the same place - just his presence made me feel better.

fruitbasket93 · Answer

I have the same problem, I usually go for a walk in fresh air - even tho it’s cold and dark, it helps me breathe and relax- and I call a good friend who understands to make me realize I’m not alone. Other things is to keep active, doing something for others always help

blink41 · Answer

Read when i want to truly forget about the world and escape into the fiction one
Watch a movie when i just need a short distraction
Write down my feelings
Try to learn something new, like a new skill, or expand my knowledge on a certain topic, or even learn a new language, I don't know. :)

spooky_skeletor · Answer

i go to sleep or eat away to forget my loneliness, or i use social apps like discord to chat up with new people

Crystal6286 · Answer

I feel the same except I don’t have many friends (I have friends who live far away) I usually try to read or listen to music

lonelypillu · Answer

Weed helps me a lot loneliness makes me cry A lot last night I cried a till 1 all alone no friend no lover no family

ConfusedGirl24 · Answer

Well.. I usually entertain myself by binge watching animes or watching youtube videos

bakedmacaroni2017 · Answer

Try some sports, get a hobby, watch netflix all day all week all year, watch long, multi-seasoned tv series, travel, look for an app--be it a game, a dating app, whatever and get addicted to it, write a novel, write just anything, make youtube videos, talk to internet people, make some memes, get a dream and work for it. :)

Zelea · Answer

Listen to music. Read a book.  Binge watch a series. Basically immerse myself into someome's fictional life.

sakhi · Answer

Posting my feelings in the form of questions here... People here give really genuine replies to u... It helped me out

lizziepooh03 · Answer

The only time I felt lonely was when I was with someone... and it has only happened that once.

I have often been alone but I have never felt lonely because of it and I have been alone by choice and by circumstance.

pixie_xoxo · Answer

Sleeping, reading, listening to music, writing feelings down, doing very light exercise, drawing etc

Geeky_Bunny · Answer

Keep ur mind busy, focus on something other than how you feel

Anonymous · Answer

Dedicate yourself to a purpose beyond your primal instincts.

ambarlee25 · Answer

jump into G@G and answer questions 😅

ccfighta76 · Answer

I try to stay busy and not let my mind and emotions get away

ultimega · Answer

Listen to music, read and create art, go for a walk.

RainbowDash_ · Answer

I’m lonely and I’m use to being lonely, find something positive that makes you truly happy.

danette03 · Answer

Sleeping helps. So does wine

Anonymous · Answer

Do something you like... Like your hobby

pinayfit · Answer

Meditate , listen to calm music

Nora_Sutherlin · Answer

I call my friends and talk to my mum

thenatiewitch · Answer

Buy a dog.

MarieJo · Answer

vodka

Anonymous · Answer

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